I recently started my freshman year in college with a girlfriend who is two years younger than me. We have been going out for 8 months and I love her with all my heart. I have never been in another serious relationship besides her, and have actually never even kissed a girl before her! While at a party about a month ago, I drank way too much and was unable to control myself when a girl came on to me, leading me to make out with her. I regret my actions severely and I have no feelings for this other girl whatsoever. I don't want anything to come between my girlfriend and I, as we have had our fair share of difficulties, and I don't want her to have any reason to doubt my love for her. I hope to marry her some day, and I don't want to mess this up over one stupid mistake.
2006-10-18 20:51:18 · 33 answers · asked by renegade7879 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I recently started my freshman year in college with a girlfriend who is two years younger than me. We have been going out for 8 months and I love her with all my heart. I have had barely any experience with alcohol, and while at a party about a month ago, I drank way too much and was unable to control myself when a girl came on to me, leading me to make out with her. I regret my actions severely and I have no feelings for this other girl whatsoever. I don't want anything to come between my girlfriend and I, as we have had our fair share of difficulties, and I don't want her to have any reason to doubt my love for her. I hope to marry her some day, and I don't want to mess this up over one stupid mistake. I'm not trying to justify my actions with the excuse that I was drunk, if I was sober or even had perhaps even had one less drink, this would have never happened.
2006-10-18 21:08:40 · update #1
I recently started my freshman year in college with a girlfriend who is two years younger than me. We have been going out for 8 months and I love her with all my heart. I have had barely any experience with alcohol, and while at a party about a month ago, I drank way too much and was unable to control myself when a girl came on to me, leading me to make out with her. I regret my actions severely and I have no feelings for this other girl whatsoever. I don't want anything to come between my girlfriend and I, as we have had our fair share of difficulties, and I don't want her to have any reason to doubt my love for her. I hope to marry her some day, and I don't want to mess this up over one stupid mistake. I'm not trying to justify my actions with the excuse that I was drunk, but if I had been sober or even had perhaps one less drink, this would have never happened.
2006-10-18 21:09:35 · update #2
I don't think you should tell her...it would only cause her to feel
hurt...but you must follow what your instincts tell you..if she should find out about it then you would explain how truly sorry
you are and that it meant nothing...otherwise learn from this
mistake and that if this situation were to happen again you
wouldn't want to do anything to ruin your relationship with her...
telling her could cause serious trust issues that you needn't
worry her about if you are sincere about feeling so badly about
what you did...if you were to make a habit out of this or you
don't truly feel remorseful ironically this would be a trust issue;
you are showing yourself to be trustworthy in that you care
enough about her and the relationship to feel badly about what
you did and that you don't want to lose her...by the way don't use
the drinking part as an excuse...your inhibitions are lowered
and that can be seen in two ways...one your inhib..were lowered
thus you made a mistake because of the alcohol..or the alcohol
only brought out what you really wanted to do anyway, it just
made it easier to act out...I'm in agreement with the latter
2006-10-18 21:03:21 · answer #1 · answered by ljean 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Don't bee so hard on yourself.
Relax and give yourself time to be young and enjoy it.
It is ok to be a young man in college. This is your first serious relationship, maybe she is the one, maybe not. You do not have to make that choice yet and neither does she. You may out grow her or she may out grow you. If you are having your fair share of difficulties already and you were making out with another girl maybe you are not ready for a major commitment yet. College is the best time in your life to go find out what kind of woman you really like. There will be no better time in your life to date, no other time when so many available people will be thrown together at one time. Maybe you should consider dating other people.
Be honest about it with your girlfriend. If you two are right for each other you will know. If not you will save yourself from a very serious mistake.
Go have fun and enjoy being young it only get's harder once you are working with kids etc.
2006-10-18 21:11:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man i like JDMR1's answer! And I agree totally though I'm a girl. Being as young as you are you have still got alot to learn. U'll do anything for yoru gf right now and you'll come to a point in your life later on wondering y u scarificed so much.
KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT! Seriously, it's a small matter...given your age...you're not MARRIED if you were this would be a whole new ball game. U did what you did with the girl coz u wanted too. Maybe an ego boost? Whatever it is, explain only when you need to. Man I wish i was in my 20s too...
2006-10-18 21:16:57 · answer #3 · answered by ikusburples 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best bet is to sit her down and tell her what happend and how it happened. You going to have to take the risk that she might just dump you after that. But love always prevails in the end and next time. Please don't use the excuse that you were drunk. It is just so lame, it is like you guys use it as your ticket out. You should know your limit when drinking. If she loves you then she will let this one slide as you did not do anything hectic. I know my bf told me that he also made out with another girl when he was drunk and I told him that it is fine. But next time he should know his limitations and if he should do something like that again then it is over between the two of us. So go and speak to her and be honest with her and answer any questions that she might have and tell her that you regret it and you don't like the idea of having secrets between the two of you guys. Best of luck amigo and I am sure that this will make you guys stronger in the end. If you should need any more advice check out my 360 or catch me at annelize-sexylee600.blogspot.com
2006-10-18 20:59:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her like you say you do then you need to be honest with her and tell her.If she cheated on you would you want her to tell you that she did? Honesty is always the best answer even if it hurts to tell someone for doing wrong.If your honest with her now,that will give her more trust for you in the future. You can tell her i have faith in you and God will help you through it. If she was to find out on her own without you telling her,it would hurt her even more knowing you wasnt honest with her. Not only that but drinking isnt an excuse, dont drink if things like that happen.If it happened once it could happen again.Drinking is a sin anyway and its wrong,its not worth it.
2006-10-18 21:17:55 · answer #5 · answered by littleshygui 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 11:03:58 · answer #6 · answered by bungay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you joking with all of us? You are at the starting gates in life. You are now becoming a man and dealing with adult situations.
First, you need to end your relationship with your teenage girlfriend. I'm sure you think you love her and there probably isn't anyting anyone can say to make you feel any different. But rest assured that your are now on the fast track to man hood and your girlfriend is stuck in teenageville.
You've stepped out of the teenage club and are now a member of adult hood. You are going to have soo many opportunities to meet lots of different women. Let's put it this way, as you learn academically, you are also going to learn about yourself. Just as each subject in school teaches you something different, well each women you meet will teach you something different about yourself.
When your older you will realize that you cheated not because of the booz, but because deep down you wanted it and you took it.
You need to free your mind and body. Don't let a teenage girl hold you back from your potential as a man.
Don't tell her what you did. She isn't going to be mature enough to deal with that and it will end your relationship fast. She may be young, but she knows what lays ahead for you in college.
Actually, I'm proud of you for doing what you did. It's not going to be the last time your in that situation so get used to it. These are you college years man, enjoy them because your never going to get an opportunity to be around so many hot women and get crazy.
After graduation, it's monday-friday, 8-5 and very boring. I wish I could go back to my early twenties with what I know now.
Anyway, so you made out with a girl. Be honest with yourself because you know that you really wanted to do it.
Be strong and take a few more steps into adulthood.
2006-10-18 21:09:09 · answer #7 · answered by Jerrid 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i think you should tell her, i mean if u explain everything like everything that you just said to us then you should be fine, if she feels the same way about you then evrything should be fine. Tell her it was a big mistake and u regret ever going to the party and getting drunk, and u love her wif all your heart. I hope evrything goes well and u do marry her some day. GOOD LUCK!!
2006-10-18 20:59:23 · answer #8 · answered by Mintiez 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never ever tell her. A lot of people are going to tell you how honesty with a heartfelt talk is the right thing to do. It isn't. Don't tell anyone is the safest thing to do. If you keep it quiet then none of your friends will know, and that way it will never come back to her. Just keep your mouth shut and everything will be okay.
2006-10-18 20:58:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well this is hard because i do believe in what they don't know what hurt them .But on the other end it can come back and bit u in the *** later. you do on to others as you would want them to do on to you .and love should see you threw this. but i understand what you mean being that you were drunk and have no feelings for this other woman . Just be true to you and your girlfriend and keep her heart in mind and you will do the right thing.
2006-10-18 20:59:54 · answer #10 · answered by ms hot and sexy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋