new beau or family revised?

Question

I met a guy on an online dating site. We had dated for three weeks in person, and all was well, until he told me he was falling in love with me. Then two days later he emails me asking to order for him on a credit card $570, and stated he would pay me back within the next month, It is Not a necessity, just a deal for him. Of course this was an absolute no, and I broke it off. We are now dating again after some talks, but I have proceeded with caution, still unsure how I feel. I like him, but I worry. I gave him the benefit of the doubt, thinking he said this out of being excited and not thinking. My family is very worried, my Mom and brother threatened to change the will.. and said they are disappointed in me, stating my lack of judgement. They think he is out for my money.. I am worried myself and am torn inside. I like the new guy, want to give him the benefit, of doubt but am unsure, what if I am wrong?. Is the risk too high?? I don't want to lose a family over guy either.

Answer 1

Even if he was planning to pay you pack within the month, the reasons I would not continue the relationship are:

1. Not only was it WAY too soon for him to ask for that kind of money, but he should not ask for a big favor like that through e-mail.

2. You're family has your best interests in mind. They can see the problem more clearly than you can (obviously your feelings for him will make you biased).

3. The first weeks of dating is the time when you should enjoy getting to know each other and doing sweet things for each other. Lending him $570 isn't sweet. Him asking you is even 'less sweet'.


think about it, if your friend came to you with the same question you'd tell her not to be dumb and stop seeing him. you haven't said anything that makes it seem he even deserves the benefit of the doubt. just because you 'like him' isn't enough.

you really don't know him. a lot of people (even seemingly nice people) use the internet to meet people and take advantage. everyone always thinks it can't happen to them!

good luck and proceed with caution :p

Answer 2

Read my lips - HE IS OUT FOR THE MONEY.
Drop him or you will be so sorry and your relatives will say, "I TOLD YOU SO". These kinds of guys are always attractive and know just what to say, if you are dumb enough and desperate enough, to believe him. It didn't work the first time, so he is trying another way again, but will take his time this time around. Just lose him. The first time he asked you for money should have been enough red flags, are you blind, honey? It is always about money, and now he learned his lesson, and now he has come at you again, but it will eventually get back to money. It just takes time, and he will get it from you. He is a romeo, con guy, should I go on? Don't be blond, get wise.

Answer 3

Just don't give him money! Tell him to get a job! And leave him alone.

I watched a program on the Discovery Channel today about a case similar to your situation! Except this dude was marrying the women he ****ed over.

Answer 4

This is a serious situation.I think like you said,you should be careful.Yes,it's not normal for a guy ask for money after you dated for 3 days,I think he's a jerk and trying to get cash! Be careful ,very careful..Best of luck!

Answer 5

gee... its not easy to trust people, even someone whom you have known for years. so for someone u met over the online dating place is even more risky.

its nice to fall in love, but at all costs do remember to take care of yourself first... don't end up losing all your money or family...

Answer 6

Sounds like a scam artist I would get out now before you are invested to deeply

Answer 7

Really a sad situation. Need you ask? Scam all the way.