I cant see how they would want to.
I dont really want my bf to, but he tells me he loves it and he wants to. We've been together for 4 years so the problem is not that I am nervous with him or anything, I just dont know why I dont want it.
Im really embarressed and I need some advice. Is it really that good for both parties?
2006-10-18 19:50:27 · 26 answers · asked by katie.sugar 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Are you kidding, baby? I put the "grrrr" in swinger, baby! Yeah!
2006-10-20 01:26:38 · answer #1 · answered by Propeller Boy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I gotta say, once again I am shocked at the sexual hangups that people on this site have. It's not like it's anything strange or harmful to you both. Why do you not want him to? Is it because you are worried that he won't like the taste or smell?
I'm not saying that you should do something that you're not comfortable with but in trying to protect him from something, you may be denying him and yourself something wonderful.
Believe me, men LOVE to please a woman and the more ways he can please you, the more he will be into having sex with you. 4 years of same thing could become a drag.
Yes it really is that good for both parties.
2006-10-19 03:17:41 · answer #2 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone likes & dislikes different things to do with sex & foreplay. What works for one person is bound to not work for everyone, it has to be this way or else the world would be a very boring place & we'd all be after the same thing. Maybe you're not really confident with your body? Take his word for it though, if he says he loves it then I'd put money on the fact he really does enjoy it. The only way to find out what it's like is to try it & if you trust him it would be worth a go would it not? If you really don't like it then just say so but at least you tried - nothing ventured nothing gained. You never know - you may be missing out on something you'd really like! But of course it's ENTIRELY up to you & how you feel as to what you do or don't do with your body.
2006-10-19 03:01:40 · answer #3 · answered by shirazzza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all in how it's done. If a guy does it right it feels really good! Some don't know the right way to do it I say rent him a porno and let him pick up some tips! I didn't enjoy it before either just because I didn't know what it could feel like when it's done right. Give it a chance and you'll be asking for it.
2006-10-19 03:19:19 · answer #4 · answered by calvertrangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband enjoys it more than I. He seriously gets turned on by pleasing me. I do feel like you though, what do they want to do down there all that time? Because I certainly don't feel like returning the favor. . .But I can be a prude at times, so I am slowly learning to let go and enjoy. I would say keep an open mind, read some articles on how to enjoy it and also how to give him pleasure. . .But, yes, most guys enjoy that so give him his treat!
2006-10-19 02:53:49 · answer #5 · answered by In God's Image 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya honestly it's werid to me too. I've only had 2 guies do that and we weren't together,well 1 I was but we were in junior high I guess I liked it back then but it was all him he obviously saw it in porn the other guy was cheating on his g/f with me so that's probably why I really didn't like it this guy was very into it,he's more into oral than sex, it's how he gets off. werid. also I totally understand you. for us that's a private area that we can't imagine is supposed to be licked, I mean sex is natural but sticking your tounge down there is werid, seems un-natural.I'm sure you understand what I'm trying to get across here. I mean with a guy getting head, I mean that's like a guy thing. I'm way more comfortable giving head then reciving it or whatever you want to call it. I guess I'd want to feel attractive and confident enough for a guy to want to do that to me but I don't think I'd ever be totally into that. I mean I like getting massaged which is an act where I can relax and don't do anything but with sex stuff I guess I want to have a good amount of control, I mean like I wanna be active in it. I don't jus lay there, so head is fine for me too, unless it takes them forever to ***. my ex says it's the best for him when it takes him longer to *** cuz it's such a release and big explosion. with head I can make him *** fairly fast, sometimes shorter than others but hand jobs are the worst, I'm always switching off hands cuz they get tired so quickly, like lose feeing and all and hurt if that makes sense. sorry I'm rambling. but yes I understand what you're saying. I guess just try to strongly state to your b/f that you aren't comfortable with him giving you oral. hopefully it won't be TOO big of a deal with him. let him know everything is great but that isn't something you feel comfortable with and that you're sorry that he wants to do that so bad but it's about pleaseing each other.
2006-10-19 03:06:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the first time my ex did me with his tongue was so good.. i liked some more. im not sure why they like it there but it really feels so good. why don't you relax when you are in the act, that really helps, just enjoy what he's doing, but tell him to be gentle ofcourse, it's all about the sensual feeling. but dont force yourself into doing it if you really dont want to. maybe it's just not your style don't be too hard on yourself. im sure there are other things you want that can also be pleasureable for both of you.
2006-10-19 05:26:27 · answer #7 · answered by silver_angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not be properly stimulated whenever both of you do it. Maybe you are too consciuos or whatever, but the thing is , i can almost sense that you are not enjoying it with him. Maybe just simply going thru the motions just to do it. Have you ever done it with another guy?
2006-10-19 03:04:00 · answer #8 · answered by Boboy L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that sex between partners should be a loving & giving experience, where no one is made to feel uncomfortable.
Why not give it a try? IF you like it, you will both come out winners. If you don't, then if your relationship is good, you should be confident enough to tell him, you don't really like it, & he should care enough about you to understand.
As a guy, I like to go down there too, but only if my partner wants it.
2006-10-19 02:57:33 · answer #9 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess not all guys like go down... But most guy prefer girls going down instead... anyway, if u r not comfortable with it, just tell ur bf abt it... I'm sure he will understand... U need time to get used to it... maybe try watching porns or what...
2006-10-19 03:01:05 · answer #10 · answered by porridge0000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are most all the same. Do they want to? If having gone far enough its hard to stop them . Be yourself and don't ever get talked into anything you don't want to do. Don't forget your values and save it for someone you know will love and cherish you the rest of your life.
2006-10-19 02:56:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋