im currently wit this guy name n.e.. i really love him n vice versa i can't imagine being with anyone else right now. but theres also this guy name f.t. who i was with for 3 yrs but we broke up n remained friends. but i knew he liked me n wanted to get back with me. but i always put it off sayin i don't want to be in a relationship right now becus i've been hurt. he's knows nothing about n.e. n actually think he has a chance with me. i want so badly to tell him about n.e. but i don't want to hurt his feelings. tonight we talked on the phone n i told him i only see him as a friend and can't be in a relationship with him. he told me he can't be my friend because he really likes me. i asked him will he still call me n he said he's undecided. if he calls then he will, if not have a good life. now i'm like really upset and cryin becus i really love him and i hope everything goes right with n.e. becus f.t. is a good guy. and i hope im making the right decision. help me please!!!
2006-10-18 19:32:59 · 16 answers · asked by Cutey Cutie QT 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
F.T. NEVER HAS HURT ME. WE STOPPED TALKING BECAUSE HE DISAPPEARED FOR 3MONTHS AND I HAD MOVED ON TO SOMEONE ELSE. THAT GUY I MOVED ON TO HURT ME AND F.T. WAS ALWAYS THERE FOR ME THROUGH THAT. WHEN HE DISAPPEARED HE SAID HE DIDN'T CALL OR ANYTHING BECAUSE HE WENT TO CALI. I USED THE HURT FROM THAT RELATIONSHIP AS TO WHY I COULDN'T GET WITH HIM.
2006-10-18 19:45:11 · update #1
you did the right thing. f.t. is a previous chapter while n.e. is your current main squeeze. it's admirable that f.t. is honest about his feelings, but he must understand that you're over him. you don't have to tell him about n.e. if you know it'll devastate him. just assure him that you'll always be there for him... but only as a friend. nothing more than a platonic relationship.
2006-10-18 19:44:15 · answer #1 · answered by Ricky the Kid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear you are really in a messed up situation.
You don't say how old either of you are but I assume you are really young because you are trying to stay friends with an ex without letting the other know. That never happens in the adult world. The other ALWAYS finds out. lol
First of all, if you have been hurt by the first love, leave him alone. If the second one adores you for who you are, stay with him. Cut the first one lose and let him know that you have moved on. Take care of yourself and don't try to keep one on a string, (just for safe keeping). Make up your mind how you feel and stay with that decision.
2006-10-18 19:40:23 · answer #2 · answered by Mary D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are sort of wanting your cake and eat it. Keep n e on the string in case it does not work out with the new one. You have to decide. I think if you have already been with one of them, and broke up, then just let it go and stay with the one you are with now. You know, it does not work when you go back to someone you broke up with, it is just better with a new fresh guy, You are making the right decision to not mess it up, and let the old boyfriend fall by the wayside. He does not want to be your friend, he wants to be your boyfriend, so just let him go. What if you do not do this and you lose the one you are with now, and then you are stuck with the old one that you broke up with, and are reminded of why you broke up, and the new one has someone else, because he heard you were talking with the old one, and does not trust you anymore. Oh, oh, you don't have anyone. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO ACCOMMODATE AN OLD BOYFRIEND, JUST BECAUSE HE IS A NICE GUY.
2006-10-18 19:42:29 · answer #3 · answered by shardf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if n.e has that feelings to you and be good to you choose him. but if you are hurted by f.t then dont accept him. but if u have the feelings to f.t and f.t wants you to forgive him and give him a chance (oni if he hurts you) then you will go for him.
2006-10-18 19:38:46 · answer #4 · answered by Kay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are very close to a picture, can you see the beauty of the pic? can you see the whole pic? same is true with our life. oftentimes, we can not decide on something because we are too much involved on it. try to get out of the picture first so that you can see a better picture/situation of what is happening around you. once you get out of it, then you'll be enlightended of what is happening to you. that's the time you can decide coz it's clearer now.
2006-10-18 19:42:24 · answer #5 · answered by ice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think deep down you know who you wanna be with! just decide! and decide asap! otherwise you'll just end up hurting everyone. you included. even if it seems that you might hurt ones feelings, think that sooner is always better than later! because later it always gets complicated. decide!
2006-10-18 19:50:50 · answer #6 · answered by ccc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him about the guy ur with by not telling him you are leading him to think he has a chance.
2006-10-18 19:38:01 · answer #7 · answered by The Messiah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Question/info 2 long!
2006-10-18 19:39:19 · answer #8 · answered by onottopilot 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay...so you do know that your playing here-mayeb you did not tel him that you had someone else as you had a soft corner for him.and you dont want to let him go again when he is back to you?..see who loves you and keeps you happy.be with that person.
2006-10-18 19:35:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U NEED 2 LEAVE THEM BOTH ALONE BECAUSE U CAN'T EVEN B REAL AND IF U CAN'T B A REAL A## WOMAN THEN U DO NOT NEED 2 B ANYTHING AT ALL!!!!!
2006-10-18 19:51:58 · answer #10 · answered by LADONNA W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋