i have loved someone very deeply now he is gone,i find hating easier to love so i treid to convince myself that i hate him.......plz someone help ........which is better to live in hate or to be heartbroken?
2006-10-18 19:31:24 · 20 answers · asked by confused 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Being heartbroken is better, the body needs to heal. The body can heal, but hate isn't something the body was meant to adapt to, and it can and will infect and destroy the mind, body and soul.
When you hate, your killing a part of yourself.
2006-10-18 19:32:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hate is always more detrimental to YOU than to the person you direct it toward. It might feel better, but in actuality it takes more energy to hate and it just brings you down. Resentment means to feel again; so when you resent someone you feel all of the negative things they made you feel all over again. I heard something from a really wise person once and it made alot of sense: To hold a grudge against someone is like drinking a cup of poison and waiting for it to kill the other person.
Love despite heartbreak, on the other hand, is the mark of a secure, strong-minded person. If you love him, even though it may not be romantic anymore, it means that you love yourself enough to let go of all the bad feelings and wish him well. Even if its without you and even though it hurts at first. Fake it till you make it and eventually you will really wish the best for him, which really is love. So, love. Its so much better.
2006-10-18 19:48:12 · answer #2 · answered by sweetam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What ever you were or are going through is not as bad as it seems. The storm won't last for long. Hate is one of the most negative word God don't approve of. Even though those crucifiers murdered my Jesus upon the cross, He found Himself loving them even more because without what they done to Him, He would not have found out about the type of person He was. Til this day He still loves and also still forgives but He won't forget. Too many people on earth has had so many good things happening to them even when they least deserved it. The more love you give to your enemies the less you have to worry about on judgement day. Maybe you can hate the things this person did in the past but never had your brothers nor your sisters. God didn't. TIl this day He still Loves those especiaclly the one who aren't living by his word but you will be granted blessing s by showing love constantly.Just because this person is gone out of your life, he still has to live his life.Where ever he is. You can let him go but love him because he help you in so many ways to become a stronger human being and love because you now no more thatn you did before!!!!!!!!
2006-10-18 19:41:08 · answer #3 · answered by sexifemme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its better to be heartbroken than live in hate! A broken heart can be healed and is not entirely bad at all if you'll look at it in a positive perspective! A broken heart, if you'll allow it, is an opportunity for you to reap good fruits of learning, growing and a lot of maturing! If you choose to live in hate, then you've placed yourself in the hands of destruction. Hate is like an acid that can consume your whole being until there is nothing good left of you!
With a broken heart, people may come to your rescue! But with a hate-filled soul, no one would want to get any closer!
Let me share to you this saying i love to quote that gives me the strength i need to deal with a broken heart,
"God is close to the broken-hearted and binds up their wounds."
2006-10-18 19:47:44 · answer #4 · answered by Corin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you would be better heartbroken. At least then you can move on. Hating someone only will make you more bitter and later you will keep feeling guilty since you aren't sure if you have a right to hate them. Also it would hurt worst when you hate someone since, weither you like it or not you want to, you'll keep thinking about them if you do. Not only will it hurt you, it will hurt others.
2006-10-18 19:37:13 · answer #5 · answered by Suki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The hatred you feel is a part of the grieving process. You will climb out of the hatred eventually and realize you don't need this guy in the first place. I know it's easy for me to say that, but it's true. There is always someone else. It feels good and cleansing to hate him now, you probably have every right too. But don't live your whole life with hate, it just ruins you because he sucks.
2006-10-18 19:33:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at it this way. If you hate someone, they may be off having a good time, while you are still clinging to them, and letting them control you. When you let go, then you are free. Let go, and you will get over it quicker. Hating someone only allows them to have a hold on you that they are not even aware of. You must let go and move on. Go out and meet other people until you meet someone new. You are keeping your feelings, and you need to let them fly away.
2006-10-18 19:35:07 · answer #7 · answered by shardf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the experience means something to you as a human being, keep the good part of the memory by writing a literary piece, prose or poetry. But if hatred is the dominant emotion, don't try to forget, because that is the surest way to keep remembering!
2006-10-18 19:41:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course hating is easier, you dont have to givve anything up. But loving takes a person who is willing to give a part of themselves, for something they would not have normally given. The courage this takes is only great if you dont know how to love.
2006-10-18 19:35:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the poster above me, better to9 be heartbroken than to hate.
Hate will always affect you and you do not gain anything from hate.
Being heartbroken hurts, and sucks for a while, yes, but ultimatly you learn from it
2006-10-18 19:34:04 · answer #10 · answered by Nicole P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋