I emailed him and told him to call me when he has a moment.
I thought this 'I am pregnant. I am not asking you for anything. I am just informing you.'
That ok? Suggestions?
2006-10-18 19:14:58 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yeah, just tell him you are pregnant, no need for the rest. i think i would become defensive if i had heard the i am not asking...just informing...just tell him like it is. and good luck
2006-10-18 19:46:27 · answer #1 · answered by locowherto 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not a guy, but as an experienced female in this field, I just told him I was pregnant. I left out all the drama of "I am not asking you for anything". He didn't have anything to do with my daughter until she was 16 months old and I had moved on with another man and then he wanted to be there. So Good Luck and I hope it all works out for you.
2006-10-19 02:20:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him in person, preferrably with proof from a doctor (not that you can't be trusted but guys can act retarded about this type of thing) especially if you have not known him that long. You should probably not tell him your not asking for anything, just tell him and then drop it unless he wants to talk about it. You re gonna have to give him some time to let the shock wear off.
I wish you luck.
2006-10-19 02:20:16 · answer #3 · answered by blondeokie73 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think something like that should be told in person not in an email. I understand you feel he needs to know but telling him in an email is just wrong. Tell him in person or do not bother telling him at all emails can be lost read by other people you better to tell him in person.
2006-10-19 02:30:40 · answer #4 · answered by melthule 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You "don't know him that well" but you had sex with him, and apparently, unprotected sex? I would also think it's important to go to Planned Parenthood and get tested for various diseases as well, just as a precaution. It's usually done during routine prenatal care, but it's extremely important to your baby's health during the development stage.
I don't mean to frighten you, but homicide is one of the leading causes of death for pregnant women. I would NOT recommend you tell him in person or alone, especially since you don't know him well enough to know how he will react. Seriously, either discuss it over the phone or on neutral territory with witnesses around.
It's not fair that anyone should have to support your child except you and the baby's father, so telling him you don't want help is unrealistic. This is just as much his responsibility as it is yours. These kinds of choices often lead to these kinds of situations. Also, you don't get to choose if he is in his child's life if he wants to be. You will have to get to know him better if he wants to be a part of his child's life. At some point, your child will ask questions so it might help to get to know him better anyway.
Take care of yourself and all the best to all of you.
2006-10-19 02:33:04 · answer #5 · answered by mgtysn 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you are doing the right thing by telling him so he can have a choice and not blame you in the future for not telling him about the baby, try this"i just want to let you know that God has blessed us with a baby as a mother I'm keeping the child if you want to support you are welcome if you decide other wise I'm still fine with that all I'm asking is for you to LOVE this baby nothing more nothing less" bare in my every child born is a gift from god it is NEVER a mistake. take care both of you!!! best of luck
2006-10-19 02:25:46 · answer #6 · answered by COCO 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have a good start, but you have 2 things that you need to consider
1: he may want to be part of the kids life
2: even though you are saying you are not asking for anything he may tweek cause the fact is, you can require child support.
2 ways it could go. as I said, it is a good start but I think there will be far more to the conversation.
2006-10-19 02:21:00 · answer #7 · answered by daggermouth 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Great question. This is obviously going to be tough no matter how you decide to tell him. But if it were me, I would want to be told face to face. There's no easy way to break this kind of news to anyone, and telling him in person certainly won't make it any easier, but it's the right thing to do. Best of luck.
2006-10-19 02:21:12 · answer #8 · answered by Michael B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter if you have dated 100 years, he will probably ask,"Is it mine?" Don't get upset if he does, it just the dumb generation we're in. and the way TV has the guys always asking it. Even Forrest GUmp asked it of Jenny. (ANd with the kids name like Forrest Jr. duh!!)
Your dude would have to be supercool to already know and not ask. Just tell him calmly that it is his, you just thought he should know.
G/L
2006-10-19 02:22:43 · answer #9 · answered by captn_carrot 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends on age
i was a dad 17
they she told me was she does no care if stay with here or help pay for the kids as long as i be a part of kids live and be a dad to it
2006-10-19 02:27:01 · answer #10 · answered by doomlord 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋