What to do if u are suspecting that ur husband is a child molester?

Question

It is under evaluation already, but i am scared that will wont be prooved right!

Answer 1

First thing you do is call the police,
Second you get your kids and yourself away from him,
Third thing you do is find a good therapist. try the YWCA
The kids need to know they are safe and you are there to protect them. Remember most are threaten with harm to them or siblings and even the threat to the other parent or grandparents.
In the childs mind they have to do what they are told to protect the family from the offender. The offender uses control tactics to keep the child from talking and he makes the child believe that is her/his fault that this is happening, so the child doesn't want to get into trouble therefore they never say anything. And at this point the child trust nobody, so you need to reassure them over and over that the offender will never violate them again, and that they have done nothing wrong. Make sure the child understands that it is okay to stand up and say no to the offender and what happen was wrong and it was not my fault.
Your fears of it not being proved does not fall on you it is the D.A.
job. You need to file for a divorce, if you do not have a job, or you are not financially able to get a safe place for you and your children, go to the state aid office explain what your problem is and get that started first.
Right now you are in a state of shock, once you get away from from your husband and you know your children are safe you will start to see things in a better light. Good luck to you and your children as you start this new chapter of your life, hold your head high and do what is right for you and children.

Answer 2

I agree w/everyone else. Trust your "mommy instinct". I love my husband but if I even SUSPECTED that he might be a child molester and I was uncomfortable -- I'm outta here. It's not worth all the life altering affects that it will have on my children. Besides, even if it's not "proven" and you stay.... will you always be wondering?

Answer 3

I'm with everybody else on this one...trust your gut, get out of there with your children and report it immediately. As painful as it might be I'd rather be proved wrong afterward than stay there and be proven right and forever scar the children.

Answer 4

if you think he is a child molester then you need to get some outside help fast. call the dept of health and human services and they will point you in the right direction.

Answer 5

If you've got reason to be suspicious I would think this is reason enough to get away from this guy, fast. If you have kids then really really fast, for their sakes & I'm sure you don't want to be found complicit in the abuse by staying with him if he indeed is doing these terrible tings.

Answer 6

Trust your gut instinct, it's seldom wrong. If he's being investigated you'll just have to wait it out, but watch over the children.

Answer 7

i thought my step dad was so i beat him bad cause i really thought he was one but there was no prove my sisters would talk to anyone but still think he is or he is gay not sure but i hate those type o people that go near kids . so for mind and kids future i hope he is not but do not let Ur guard down in case he is one and not proven of it

Answer 8

I dont kno what id do,id go crazy I think,but I hope u r proved wrong,and you and ur family will b ok

Answer 9

If it's your child/children he's molesting then you should leave. Trust what your gut instincts are telling you.

Answer 10

if you got kids..umm take them away from him..and call child protective service, the cops. and if he is proved to be wrong threaten his ***..say if you touch my kids or other kids, i'll --(you can fill in the blank)