Can a girl with kind of a slutty past get redemption after changing her ways or will she be a slut in peoples mind still
2006-10-18 19:06:54 · 24 answers · asked by Caramel Delight 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There can be no redemption.
2006-10-18 19:10:47 · answer #1 · answered by S h ä r k G û m b ò 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She certainly can.
I was great friends with a girl that most people thought was a "slut". Yes, she slept around. Yes, she went to the bars and picked up random guys. We had a conversation about her past partners at one point and she couldn't count how many people she'd been with.
However, she met a fantastic guy and she completely "reformed". Not that she changed personally, but her habits did. "Slut" is such an ugly word... It's ambiguous, for one, and it can be taken in SO many different ways. Most of the time, a "slut" is simply a person who's lonely and finds personal connection by hooking up with people. But when these hookups don't lead to anything, he or she goes out looking for another person who can hopefully keep him or her company. At least... for a little while.
My advice to the person who you have in mind for this question is to ignore other people and the words that they can use to hurt her. What that person thinks about herself is the most important opinion anyone could ever have about her. If she believe the things other people say about her, then she'll have an EXTREMELY difficult time breaking out of whatever pattern she's found herself stuck in. She should speak with her trusted friends about her self-image and go over all of the great things there are about her personality -- it's not hard to find something good about someone. They're great listeners, they give good advice, they're polite, they've got a good sense of familial duty, etc. Once she understands that she is NOT what everyone else is painting her to be, she needs to resolve not to slip back into whatever pattern it was that she was following before that's earned her this reputation.
Best of luck to her.
2006-10-18 19:15:25 · answer #2 · answered by Andrew Jesse Brown 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sincerely, that' s depend on the people' s character, way of thinking, or personality. Some can forgive and forget the past while some don' t. Some won' t mind the past of a girl a ll and may start a new life but some do care. So it all depends on the kind of person you come across.
2006-10-18 19:12:47 · answer #3 · answered by Wild_Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, with time and avoid the crowds that caused the bad rep.
Hate to say though, even if she becomes another Mother Teressa, some of the ones she slept with will still think of her as "easy".
Just have her change her ways, and don't look back. A very strong Christian girl I worked with said she was a wild child growing up, but she is now one of the more outstanding people I know.
2006-10-18 19:12:00 · answer #4 · answered by captn_carrot 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on two aspects..
1. if the reputation is based on truth
2. if the person is reall wanting to turn over a new leaf or just play-actin for a while..
Even if the reputation is based on truth, if the person has really transformed, then in a short while it will show on the person. If not by any other means, a persons real persona can be judged from his/her eyes. If the person changes over for good, then in a few days the glow of goodness will return to her eyes and it will not take long for others to realize it. No matter what past a person has, what really matters is what one does about it. if one carries on with it then she is not a human being.. but if she learns from it and adjusts herself in the future, then she is the enlightened one and such people are always attractive.. because there wisdom speaks for them through their eyes..
2006-10-18 19:11:55 · answer #5 · answered by Raj 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Change Your Circle of Friends, Change your Attitude(or even the way you Dress if Needs be).
Once you've adopted this New Stance-then Give yourself a Better Reputation to the World and those that you encounter!
Change can Only come from within!
And You've got to want it seriously as well!
2006-10-18 19:10:17 · answer #6 · answered by J. Charles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They must forget what other people think. Yes they can have redemption.. people make mistakes. If she shows confidence and moves on w/ her life and does postive things, people will see w/out her having to say anything. and if they continue to think badly of her and/or gossip there is nothing to worry about thats their problem that they have so much time on their hands to be thinking of the past and they are probably not wanting to face their own mistakes.
2006-10-18 19:13:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
People who still think she's a slut are the ones with the problem. If she has truly changed, and they can't see that, they are too closed-minded to worry about. People who mind don't matter, and peole who matter, don't mind. Make sense?
2006-10-18 19:09:10 · answer #8 · answered by NSisifo 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
people talk, i wasnt a slut but the rep of one cos i dated a lot of guys and they told lies about me
just keep being the pure person u are now and the people u date now will let people know that ur not the person u used to be or that others thought u were
2006-10-18 19:10:08 · answer #9 · answered by livachic2005 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my girl believes that you can change as long as you have not cheated on a person a sl?t is hard to say don't take and be the same way that you were to get that rep. just believe that you deserve so much more than to be a sl?t and it will help good luck
2006-10-18 19:13:12 · answer #10 · answered by jam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it varies depending on the people,
see i used to have that name, but i changed my ways and people did start to realise and respect me,
although there are still the people that dont give you the chance,
so in a way you do get rid of the name but to some people it will always be there
2006-10-18 19:12:28 · answer #11 · answered by Boots 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋