Ok i really need help , i got raped 2 years ago and my parents didnt know nothing about it and i kept this secret with my cousin and after a while i told my mom and she started crying.. and everything but she told me not to tell me dad so no problems would happen because im muslim and he's really religious i mean if he finds out about this i dont know what would happen , and i got into this huge fight with my cousin and just a couple hours ago he told my dad that he has a big secret about somebody from his family and he wants to tell him it but he said that he will tell him uless i sleep with him again and i dont know what to do but i have a feeling in my heart he will..right to this point of life i think about suicide im crying my eyes out while iam writing this i swear please anybody out there help me..
2006-10-18 18:59:06 · 19 answers · asked by parrotlover65 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you've got to tell your mom - if she doesnt want dad to know-she will be on your side. Do NOT let this creep blackmail you -it will never stop.
2006-10-18 19:02:05 · answer #1 · answered by cassiepiehoney 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As a Muslim , I say not to go in the hands of ur cousin agian.He is really a ..... guy . He is making trick to get u again. Just feel calm got to ur father thru your aunt or mom or your brother or thru your frend atleast .I think you can find a way. Suicide is a big Sin than sleping with somebody so dont do that . Allah wil help you. If you feel you can also communicate me in personal .
I will pray for you . Everything will be ok
Just relax !!!
2006-10-19 02:30:00 · answer #2 · answered by biker 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your dad about your cousin blackmailing you into having sex with him. Blame EVERYTHING on your cousin and make yourself to be the victim, which is true. You should try to get your cousin in trouble by telling your dad and 'his' dad that he have pressured(forced) you into having sex. He will get his and you will be free from having to live a life of lies and guilt.
The worst is you having to move out and be on your own, oh well. You are not living in a healthy environment anyways, better now then later.
2006-10-19 02:31:45 · answer #3 · answered by Inquisit 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont let your cousin take the wrong advantage of this. I am also a muslim, and am sure that as there's no fault of yours, your father would help you out inspite of doing anything wrong to you. God has given us parents to help & safeguard us. If you are very frightened facing your father, then tell your mom about the bad intention of your cousin. Was that this cousin only who raped you? If yes, then its necessary to take action against this evil.
2006-10-19 02:16:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay honey, first of all try to calm down. It isn't the end of the world, I promise. Go to your dad and tell him that your cousin is threatening you with telling your dad a lie about you if you don't sleep with him. This way your dad will have a heads up about what is going on and won't believe your cousin. Plus he will put a stop to your cousin trying to get into your pants. okay let me rephrase it so you can understand better. go to your dad and say, Dad, (say your cousins name), is threatening me. He said that he is going to tell you some horrible lie about me if i don't sleep with him. I hope this will help. Keep a stiff upper lip and deny whatever it is that your cousin says about you.
2006-10-19 02:10:46 · answer #5 · answered by flwrgrl692001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad may be religious, but is he so religious that he won't try to help you? If he is, find someone you can talk to about it. It wasn't your fault so you shouldn't feel guilty. Your cousin should be locked away right now, with people plucking his pubic hairs one by one for his torture. Seriously. If you can't talk to your dad, is there a guidance counselor at your school? An aunt? Anybody? If not, post that you need to talk and I'll find you some help.
2006-10-19 02:03:47 · answer #6 · answered by NSisifo 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No need for suicide my dear. However your cousin would probably tell not only your father but anyone else or everyone! I believe your parents will be on your side if they are really religious. If not, many would still care for you. And certainly, if you believe in GOD, HE always care for you and will always be on your side.
2006-10-19 02:09:01 · answer #7 · answered by Aldro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
now 2 yrs later, no body can prove that u were raped. so tell ur dad that he wish to sleep with u and is blackmailing u by telling him some disastorous lie.
be firm that u were not raped, treat thay guy as badly as he is doing to you. no need of being afraid.
vagina can be broken of some physicsl injury also apart from rape.
2006-10-19 03:55:06 · answer #8 · answered by anami 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i m feeling so sorry 4 u.
just go n tell ur father that ur cousin is trying 2 rape u and if he blurts out the truth just say that he is lying.blame everything on ur cousin.say that he is blackmailing u.
2006-10-19 06:41:50 · answer #9 · answered by cutey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like cousin is the one who raped you, don't cry over this, not your doing,he took advantage of you, and now wants to again. tell you mom how you feel, or your dad. your dad loves you and doesn't want anyone to hurt you.he is holding you emotional hostage and your letting him do it. have confidence in yourself, it was your cousin who did wrong not you.
2006-10-19 07:23:45 · answer #10 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why did you sleep with your cousin the first time? either go ahead and sleep with him again or stop all the lies and secrets and bring everything out in the open. Sorry you don't have very many choices here so stop your whining and crying show and fix the problem.
2006-10-19 02:03:57 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋