Yeah why do i get angry when people call the girl i like fat as a joke, why do I always have to tell everyones she's not fat and like get angry at them even when its a joke, I know she thinks its creepy seeing me defend her, but i can't help it, its like when people say mean things about her my mind is set to "defend the girl" mode or something. Can someone help me not be as defensive over her????
2006-10-18 18:56:01 · 21 answers · asked by Spring is Awesome 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, if you like her, it's a good sign you're willing to defend her. She probably appreciates it when you stand up for her. She knows someone cares about her.
And you could get mad because not only are they making fun of her, but they are making fun of you in a way too. You like her, so they are making fun of your tast in women. Make sense?
Try to let them know you're offending more than one person when they make fun of her. Be the bigger person, and maybe they'll grow up and learn from you.
2006-10-18 19:00:20 · answer #1 · answered by NSisifo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a good person. Never join in when a joke is hurting someone. Even if she acts as if she doesn't care, defend her and don't feel bad about it. It's the right thing to do. When you love someone, you get very protective of that person.
2006-10-18 19:02:29 · answer #2 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as its not bothering her, then let it go. If u see that she is o.k with the jokes then u should not be so quick to jump on the defensive side. But because u like her, it's normal to take up for her. Only when you see that the jokes are hurting her is when you step in.
2006-10-18 19:00:55 · answer #3 · answered by chloerochelle102887 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've a boyfriend, someone that cares about you :) this is truly awful you ought to take care of this.....it amazes me how there's a lot crap on the archives about youthful ones being bullied and then bullies themselves do not end their personal movements. i imagine this is to the point the position you want to communicate over with a school counselor (and that is advantageous, i'm 20 and that i have had crap in center college too the position counseling did help me). you want to positioned an end to this, to shop your self from being depressing. I guarentee no longer something is faulty with you, you probably did no longer something incorrect. bear in mind that. in case you want a replace, you want to take action your self. Do what you sense is ideal and also you are able to't be afraid. do not enable her convey you down. you are able to and receives by ability of this. Ask God for help, he somewhat works wonders too :)
2016-12-04 23:54:33 · answer #4 · answered by lot 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If people are saying mean things in front of you about your girlfriend then they have no respect for her, or you. That isn't joking, that is being an asshole. You should think about who your hanging out with or where your taking your girlfriend. Because if they are talking bad about her, I can guarantee you that they are talking bad about you too. So grow some balls and tell these people to F*&% OFF!
2006-10-18 19:11:20 · answer #5 · answered by ncamedtech 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont stop trying 2 defend her if the convos involving u!
she may thinks its a bit creepy u trying 2 defend her but if u dont and join in, then she will think ur a pric;
its ur choice how u want her to see u; either as the good guy or a bastard
2006-10-18 19:00:52 · answer #6 · answered by another_gorgeous_chick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For starters, Be proud of yourself for defending her.
Let's look at this as a whole picture...
Maybe the reason you are so defensive is because deep down inside, you believe her to be overweight? (there is nothing wrong with this as long as you accept her as the beautiful person that she is)
If this is so, you have to start by NOT feeling guilty about it. It is not possible to control all of our thoughts, however we do have the ability to control how we respond to them.. Of course, we can't all be supermodel thin... We can't all be "average"... And we sure as heck can't all be "perfect" (as a matter of fact, NONE of us are!).
Heck, I consider you to be a "real man" for accepting her for who she is and standing up for her.
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Sadly, the majority of each of us have made negative comments towards others without thinking how it would effect their feelings. Truth be told...IT WILL COME BACK TO HAUNT US!!
Something that I would recommend you doing the next time you are placed in such a situation: Ask this person what is it about themselves that they find so miserable, that they have to find someone else to judge in order to build themselves up. (As much as I would want to do it myself, do NOT put them down in return... You would only be stooping to their level) Who knows... It may start an argument... However, I would be willing to bet that the majority of those, who you ask this question to, will stop and think about what they say before they say it the next time.
As far as helping you "not be as defensive over her"... As long as you care for her and her feelings... You will always be defensive.. You and her both should be proud of this.
2006-10-18 19:51:27 · answer #7 · answered by VannaMoe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really care for her and they're too shallow to ever understand. Don't start a fight, but always defend the lady you love.
2006-10-18 19:04:23 · answer #8 · answered by curly98 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well one you have to learn to ignore what others say about you or anyone you may like... people are just plain mean and alot of people in your life are going to say hateful things about someone esle... but you are not wrong for defending her you just have to learn to control your anger
2006-10-18 19:00:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop hanging out with thoe people that make fun of her.
If they can't respect that, then you shouldn't hang out with them.
Fat people need some love too.
2006-10-18 18:59:48 · answer #10 · answered by Kings Fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋