move ahead with me, but there is the mother of his kids and he says there is alittle string still there,and he wishes she would just go away so we could move ahead,What should I be feeling?What should I do?
2006-10-18 18:47:14 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can count on this ,,,,,, If he's already been involved and still has a wife or girlfriend and kids then his relationship with them was over the minute he stepped out on them so what kind of person is he besides selfish and self centered ? ,,,, Allot of guys aren't mature enough to know what the word commitment is or means ,,,,,, It's I do until they don't want to anymore and they realize that they were in lust instead of love ,,,, allot of times though he realizes this one or two or more children too late,,,,, Women can be like this too ,,,,,, This isn't just a male trait exclusively ,,,,,The saddest thing about this whole situation is the children ,,,,,,, They didn't ask to be born and commitment to them is not a yea or nea option ,,, it's ABSOLUTELY MANDITORY ,,,,,What kind of a guy is he that he's willing to leave his children just so he can get on with his life ,,,,, Well if it involves children then his life is no longer just his life ,,,,, His body was mature enough to father these children but his mind evidently isn't mature enough to be a father If there is still ,,,, as you say ,,,,,, strings ,,,, then there is a problem ,,,,,, and one of them is that he's making a fool of not only the mother of his children but you too ,,,,,,,Don't let him do this to you ,,,,,, So what should you be feeling and what should you do ? You should be feeling used ,,,,,If he's doing this to the mother of his childern then whats to say he's not doing the same thing to you right now ,,,,, How do you know for sure you aren't just one female in a harem of females ,,,,So what should you do? ,,,,, Drop this guy like a hot rock and stick to your guns ,,,,,, Don't let him talk you out of it ,,,,,, No matter what he does or says or if he crys or carries on in any other way ,,,, Guys are very good actors too you know ,,,,, You don't need this crap ,,,,,If you did take him back he would most likely just do it again only to you this time ,,,,,Another question you should consider is just how many kids does he really have ,,,,,You only know about the ones you mentioned in your question ,,,,,, He may have children you don't even know about ,,,,,,, There are allot of other fish in the pond ,,,,,,, Hook one that will stay hooked ,,,,, There are others guys you could meet that aren't like him and also probably trouble free ,,,,, His situation is putting a strain on your relationship and you are in a quandry as to what you should do or you wouldn't be asking advice ,,,,,, A relationship should be fun and exciting ,,,,,, not fraught with troubles and struggling ,,,,, So the way things stand as I see it is that you dont' have a relationship with this guy at all ,,,,, You have problems ,,,,,, Which do you want more ,,,,, What you have now with this looser or do you want someone that is fun and exciting and someone that you could love and be comfortable with and could easily return your affections ,,,,, You can't be any good for anyone else until you are good for yourself first ,,,,, It's all up to you ,,,, You have to make the decission ,,, no one can make it for you ,,,,,, Hope things work out for you ,,,,,,, Yoda said this
2006-10-18 20:34:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is the mother of his kids there will always be some kind of connection. If I were you I would want to know what it was that was keeping him from moving on with you, it just might be best for you to move on. If they are no longer together there should be no reason he can not movbe on with you unless he still wants to be with her than if I were you i would get out while I could.
2006-10-19 01:52:37 · answer #2 · answered by melthule 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put the guy down and back away... and when you are far enough from him to turn around and run... do so. This relationship spells a future of disaster and seems like you will not only have a relationship with him... but the mother of his kids as well. Run away...
2006-10-19 01:50:22 · answer #3 · answered by Whatev' Yo' 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are but there will always be a "little string still there" because they have kids. You have to be able to accept his kids into your life. Big change.
2006-10-19 01:49:29 · answer #4 · answered by 7yrs2go 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be cautious but that is because I don't completely trust what guys tell me. If I were you, I'd feel hesitant and I'd want to know exactly what to expect if the relationship progressed. There needs to be boundaries. Hope this helps! Good luck!
2006-10-19 01:49:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What should you feel? That’s a personal question only you can answer. If commitment to this man is what you want--then that’s what you want. However, in a situation such as yours, you must be cautious not to interfere with your boyfriend’s previous relationship because this could be damaging to the relationship between you and him.
2006-10-19 01:51:33 · answer #6 · answered by Yahoo Medic 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he says he wants her to go away, but doesn't cut that string so she can, he is playing you.
2006-10-19 01:52:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask him what the string is all about...is it because they have kids together or because he stills like her. depending on his response you follow your heart and whatever you feel is best for you then girl do it.
2006-10-19 02:05:41 · answer #8 · answered by Cutey Cutie QT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like baggage are you desperate because if you aren't then leave now run away find a real man.
2006-10-19 01:50:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should know he has a past and if you really like or want to be with him,give him time but be careful.He could fall on either side of the fence.Yours or hers.
2006-10-19 01:51:07 · answer #10 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋