I think this guy (who shall not be named) thinks I am pretty (or, he acts like it), but he is too shy to talk to me. He has talked to me on a few occasions. We met a couple months ago. We have to work with each other a lot a work. But we don't talk often. He stares at me a lot, sometimes smiles and stares, I have checked my reflection, and there is nothing weird he could be staring at (I was thinking, Oh, God, he thinks I am hidious!). He is cute, but he is funny and charming too. I am not the best at taking the "first step" and don't like to go up to someone and talk to them unless I have officially become chummy with them or have a real reason to. I guess I am just confused, I have mixed feelings, and I am not understanding his actions. Should I just not think about it so much? What is a girl to do?
2006-10-18 18:24:59 · 8 answers · asked by Norah 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Most women are of the opinion that it's the mans place to make the first move. He is obviously interested in you but is having the same difficulty that you are. He is shy and is afraid of how you will or will not react. If your not comfortable making a first move until you are "chummy" then get that way and start talking to him. Joke around with him, flirt a little bit. Then if he doesn't make some sort of move then hopefully at that point you feel you are able to.
2006-10-18 18:31:12 · answer #1 · answered by sirelyas 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe when you're standing near each other in the workplace, you could say, (it's sometimes easier to stare at your shoes) "I was thinking of getting a coffee and danish (whatever) or a coke after work and walking in the park (or whatever) would you like to join me?" Then glance up shyly (because you are!). Now it's his turn to make a step. If he turns you down, (1) remember that guys have been suffering turn downs and surviving them alot longer than girls have (2) you've opened the door and now you won't have to wonder anymore. Maybe he's shyer than you are, and will be mightily relieved that the wall has been breached between you. Why not think about it so much? If you haven't had a date in a long time, it's normal to want company, so go ahead and ask. If he's not interested, you might be embarrassed for awhile, then get busy with a craft or hobby or group to take your mind off him..
2006-10-19 01:39:13 · answer #2 · answered by Casperia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't understand his actions? He is shy, curious and can't walk and speak at the same time... he is a young male... so you need to help him along....
ask him out for a hot chocolet or something after work... or what ever....
he likes you... just scared to death of you... in a good way... now go help that Romeo out!
2006-10-19 01:42:41 · answer #3 · answered by Maken trax 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you like him talk to him --- shy or not he will respond and you can find out if he likes you as well
how can you be "officially chummy" if you dont break the ice :)
2006-10-19 01:40:45 · answer #4 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you think he's cute... "evaluate" him over a drink or possibly dinner. Just... he's looking at you in awe. He's just... when you see someone that is absolutely beautiful, you just can't help but marvel at it. He likes you (a lot probably). So... go for the cues he's giving you!
2006-10-19 01:30:37 · answer #5 · answered by gyrferret 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmm..i think maybe its time to buck up and take some action..see if he wants to go hangout sometime, keep it casual and fun, so it doesnt make things akward..if you're not ready for that try getting to know him better, ask him things about him and what he likes, (also guys love compliments! tell him you like his shirt, see where he likes to shop..very good convo. starter)
2006-10-19 01:29:26 · answer #6 · answered by wish1oh1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U should do wat ur heart tells u to
Ask urself do i like this guy?
if u do and he is constantly staring at u he probrably likes u.
take a chance and take the first step ull be amazed if it works!!
2006-10-19 01:31:43 · answer #7 · answered by licketyslip 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him.
He is too shy to make a move.
2006-10-19 01:28:05 · answer #8 · answered by S h ä r k G û m b ò 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋