Mean girlfriend?

Question

My girlfriend and I have been off and on for 2 years. Right now we are on. I've broken up with her maybe two times because she is just plain mean. But I always find myself wanting her back, because I love her a lot, and I know she loves me. But tonight was a great example of her being mean. She flipped out on me because I wanted to go to a volleyball game with her and her friend. She was just like "Oh, okay. I'll just ditch my friends like I always do and go with you and not Alishia (her friend)." And I was like "Um, why can't we all go together?" And she had no good reason why we all couldn't go together other than Alishia doesn't have a boyfriend to go with. Which I understand, but it's no reason to flip out like she did. But I told her "Listen to yourself! You are being a *****! Why can't you be nice anymore?" And she started crying and she said she can't date me because she doesn't treat me like I should be treated. So I asked her if she was breaking up with me...

and she said no. But she KNOWS she is being mean. I can't see myself breaking up with her because the good times outweigh the bad times. But the bad times suck! And she's the hottest thing my ugly *** is going to get haha. She she thinks she might be depressed. But if she loves me I should make her happy right? She says she can't be happy with me, but she can't be happy without me even more!

Answer 1

W H O A. Sounds like this girl likes the drama. Is she really worth all this headache? Come on man, why put yourself through that. She could be pmsing or something, but if it's on the regular, the girl has issues....Maybe she's depressed or bi-polar? Work it out if you love her, but honestly there may be no solution if she's not willing to work with you on it. You know, there ARE girls out there who are just plain b!tches by nature, and there's nothing you can do 'bout it. It's up to you to decide if that is what she is, and if you're willing to put up with it.

Answer 2

Well, stop confusing the burn with the passion. Relationships are full of war and peace. The key is to learn to be okay with who the other person is, and forgive their flaws. Breaking up means that you tell the person, "I can't be in a relationship with your personality." You do it too many times, and the person won't care how much they hurt you, you'll just come back anyways... etc...

Would you be okay if she wanted to go to an all guys poker game with you? No one else brings their girl, but would you make an exception? Try putting yourself in her shoes, and regardless of her emotional reaction.... ask yourself... would I be okay if she did this to me?

A relationship starts with ONE person giving all they can to make a relationship work. It means risking and giving with the thought that the other person might not return the giving. It's not being her slave. It's WANTING her to be happy, and if you don't want her to be happy, you just want revenge.... get out of the relationship. ASAP.

Answer 3

I would've been a little po'ed about you asking that, too. You shouldn't just impose yourself onto her planned times like that. You don't know, maybe she and her friend wanted to vent about something "girly" or just personal. And don't call her mean if you call her a *****! That's mean to and it doesn't show respect! Be supportive of her if she is depressed and talk to her about problems when the both of you are cooled down. Young relationships are usually really dramatic. Ya'll will be okay if you love each other! Love IS enough if you make the choice for it to be.

Answer 4

I don't know how old she is but when I was a teenager up until maybe 20-21 years old I had a hair-trigger temper. I would get so mad and be so impatient, it was weird and I grew out of it. It might have been hormones. Encourage her to recognize when she is about to lose it and to try to calm herself down. It may take a while but if she tries she will be able to see when she is about to blow up. Talk to her about respect and how you don't blow up at her when you are angry and that is out of respect. Let her know you will try to work on it with her. Maybe when she is getting mean you just tell her to breathe and she has to take time out and not yell. Try to make a plan that you two can work on together.

Answer 5

sounds like you have the issue my friend she a ***** and are you willing to take the abuse then shut up and stick it out if not move on plain and simple shes not a doll that needs help shes human and she knows how to treat a human the right way and shes not treating you the right way
you cant love somone whos screaming at you all the time

Answer 6

lol, i'm not sure how old your girlfriendd is, but relationships can work based on love... tell your girlfrien the same thing you are posting here... no one knows her like you do, and you know how much of what she says she means.... if her being mean bothers you, tell her in a constructive way- you dont want her to flip out on you...

Answer 7

your g/f is so insecure and her emotions seem to be running every which way. it seems best for you to move on, cuz it sounds like shes just treating you as a temporary b/f. she doens't respect you. there can't be love if there isn't truth and respect. obviosly there's no respect. good luck with her tho!!

Answer 8

YOUR GIRL FRIEND HAS SOME ISSUES THAT MAY BE
SOMETHING THAT CAN BE WORK OUT, BUT SINCE YOU
AND HER OR ON AND OFF IT REALLY SOUND LIKE THIS
WILL CONTINUE TO BE A PROBLEM FOR YOU. YOU MAY
HAVE TO MOVE ON. BECAUSE YOU CANT CHANGE SOMEONE THEY WOULD WANT TO CHANGE THERE
BEHAVIOR THEM SELF.

Answer 9

is it that time of month? that's about all i can come up with. just fight for what you love man. dont give up on her if she's what you want, and you know she wants you

Answer 10

MANDALA A LA BURGER KING!!!