can only one help me?

Question

ok me and my boyfriend broke up and he wont talk to me but i called him and talk to him today and he said that i told my friends to talk about him and i didnt how can i make him beleive me.....i hurt him during our relationship and i dont know how to tell him im sorry.....i would love to go back out with him but he tells me he doesnt want to get hurt again....i dont want to hurt him again we have a kid together...what can i do? what can i tell him....im suppose to go back down where he lives soon....what can i say when i see him? plz help and plz no smart remarks......i need some real help and i think everyone that helps me out just a little bit....

Answer 1

"It's not about your feelings or my feelings. It's about our child's feelings. To break up would be selfish and take a father and mother away from an innocent little person. The baby needs a family together, not torn apart. I will go to couples counseling and do whatever it takes to keep you in our life. I am willing to change for you. I love you and I want you in my life as well. I remember how wonderful it was in the past. We can have that again. I am willing to give everything of myself to you to make this work. This isn't me begging for forgiveness, what I did and said was wrong. But I don't need forgiveness if you don't want to give it. I do want to say that I'm sorry for what I did, and I can't go back in time and change it. I'm sorry for what I did, and I will do everything I can to earn your trust back. I'm doing this for our child. I have no motives other than to create a healthy family for your baby. We have to make this work for him/her. It's not about you or about me. It's about the love of this child. I'm asking now what you want from me? Counseling? AA? NA? Church? Give up my religion? Anger Management? Seminars? Yoga? (Yoga fixes everything by the way) I want to love you the way you want to be loved. I want to know if you're willing to work with me? Can you learn to trust me while I learn to earn the trust? I can't promise that I will do everything perfect, I am human. I can promise... I will promise that I will give my all into keeping you as a lover and as a father. What do you say?"

That's what I would say.

Answer 2

It is perfectly understandable that he doesn't want to be hurt again.And you too do not want to do it either. What is holding you back?. In INDIA, we have a special usage " father of my child" which is randomly used by women to convey a range of situations , including the one in which your man is now. Address him, precisely in those words. It will touch his parental instincts and make him read what you write. TELL him how much you are really sorry for whatever that happened. Promise to work out with him ways to avoid recurrence of such situations.. He will understand, and , if he has hurt you in retaliation, he will make amends on his own. Don't ask for any verbal apologies or anything of the sort. Men say sorry through their actions and not in so many words.
You owe this to your child for its healthy future. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 3

if you really, deep down, want to be with him.. then dont let anything hold you back. especially with a kid together. it is better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all. it is way worth the hurt to be w/ somebody that tyou love

Answer 4

You have to communicate about your child..SO keep that door open. the other part the relationship between you and him.. the only thing to do is show him actions, because he is not going to listen to the words if he has heard them all before..

Answer 5

YOU NEED TO JUST TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL. BUT SINCE
YOU HAVE A CHILD TOGETHER BOTH OF YOU NEED TO
THINK ABOUT WHAT GOOD FOR THIS CHILD. I HOPE THAT
FOR YOUR CHILD SAKE YOU BOTH TALK TO EACH OTHER
ABOUT WHAT REALLY IS GOING ON.

Answer 6

be real and tell him how your feeling. and if he doesnt wanna be with you anymore dont pester him about it thatll just push him away