Has anyone ever had a long distance relationship that worked out?

Answer 1

i am in one right now and so far it is working out as good as a long distance relationship can

what i noticed is that you have to learn to ignore petty issues and immediately address serious issues and things that you cant get off your mind and need to get off of your chest, no matter what it may lead to. Be completely Honest about your feelings and thoughts.

It can be REALLY hard at times, sometimes i have felt like punching holes in the wall for doing this, but in the end, we both realize that this is just a challenge that can change us both individually and the relationship for the better if we can make it.

we call eachother, write eachother occasionally, webcam eachother, and report to eachother's family on occasion and write sexy text messages to eachother periodically throughout the day lol. he has been gone for 5 months now and i have already gone to visit him twice (traveling is expensive!) and we have not gone more than 7 days total without talking to eachother. He is scheduled to visit me in 3 weeks and again for my birthday and christmas! It is also very important to try to set dates where you know you will see eachother...it gives you two something to look forward to and it makes it official that you two will see eachother again.

by the way, my bf decided to come back when his lease is up where he lives now on the west coast (im in the midwest) and we are in the process of finding a place together and taking the relationship a step further.

its not easy but it is well worth it if you can get it to work! :)

Answer 2

It's a lot of hard work and the success of it has a lot to do with the individuals and how they handle being alone. People will say that if you truely love each other it will work but after experience in a long distance love that held on and worked, I think the biggest part is both parties ability to love themselves. To be able to trust another and be able to be alone so much, a person must be sure of who they are, what they want and be able to enjoy their own company. If there are insecurities of any kind, it will be too difficult.
There are so many ways to stay in touch these days that long distance love has a lot of help but at the end of the day, if you can't be confident in being alone, it will be too much strain. You have to be happy in yourself first because your partner is not around to make you happy. It's a lot of pressure for anyone to be away from their loved one and to feel responsible for that persons loneliness or sadness is very hard to bare. If both people love themselves first and have a good understanding of who they are and what they want from another, they have a better chance at making it work.

Answer 3

I ended up getting married after 3 yrs of long distance..so I guess I'd have to say yes...lol Ask me again in a year though and we'll see if the answer is the same. Long distance relationships take alot of work and patience not to mention trust. Good luck!

Answer 4

I met a guy on Excite chat in 1998. He lives in Maine and I live in North Carolina. We chatted on line for a while and then we progressed to the telephone calls. I had to have surgery in 2001 and he called to check with my son on how I was doing. He recently had to have back surgery and I called to check on him. We have a very strong friendship and a deep love for each other. But because of distance we have to settle for a few times a year getting together. In October, he comes down and goes to Florida. He lives there during the winter and works with his friend's construction company. They rebuild a lot of places that were messed up by hurricanes. On his trip down, he has to pass within 30 minutes of my house. He is still planning to come down this month even though it has only been a short time since he had surgery. I am waiting for him to call and let me know he is on the way and then we will have our time. In April of next year, he will come back this way on the way back to Maine. I will be waiting to hear from him then too. I can't tell you that it is working out because there are problems, but somehow we have managed to work through it. We haven't made any definite plans but we are taking one day at a time.
I was very skeptical and very cautious at first. But I am glad I took a chance and called him that night 8 years ago. I think we will always be friends and I know I will always love him no matter what happens. This may not happen with someone else, but I am so glad I have him in my life.

Answer 5

Yeah my mum and her BF were having a long distance relationship (3 hours away from each other) She eventually moved over with him after 3 years of dating! They've been going out for 8 years now! And they've both never been happier! They can definately work!!!

Answer 6

I am from australia and my husband is canadian and we met while I was on vacation in canada and then I went back home and now we have been married for 8 years and have 3 kids, so YES long distance relationships can work out it you work on them... and trust each other...

Answer 7

Yes they work out. It is important to maintain contact as often as possible, be romantic, and playful in your communications. I recommend a web cam if possible so u can talk to each other and kinda still be together. Letters, postcards, pictures, love notes are so fun to make too! My relationship is working.

Answer 8

Yes w/ a lot of hard work and dedication.

Answer 9

it does work. but it is really hard. especially with the trust issue, and then the whole "i never see you i don't think i love you" thing too. its hard, but its possible

Answer 10

not many, sadly.