Can anyone share their experience? Are some men afraid you'll enjoy being with the woman more than with them?
2006-10-18 17:19:09 · 20 answers · asked by anneboz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
by the way, I'm NOT married
2006-10-22 16:56:25 · update #1
yes and no. some love it some get jealous. but if they dont like it they shouldnt be doing it.
2006-10-18 17:22:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think most men love the idea of a FMF threesome and really don't see another woman as a threat to them.
Some men seem to have the problem with a MFM because they are afraid their girlfriend/wife will like sex with the other guy more than with them.
It's insecurity on their part. They put very little faith into themselves and really don't have a good grasp on what makes a relationship tick. If it is built just on sex, than yeah, maybe you could get left for someone else. If the relationship is built on love and friendship than there is never any worries.
Any swinger will tell you that sex with others isn't better, it's just different. Sex when you are in love with someone is completely different than sex with someone don't love. Some are just better at seperating the two than others.
Now this doesn't mean that swinging (yes, a threesome is technically "swinging") is right for everyone. Not everyone can handle it emotionally because you to have to be very secure in yourself and in your relationship. Basically, you can't be the jealous type. For those that aren't, it is a great adventure with your significant other. For others, sometimes a fantasy is better left just that.
As long as you set down ground rules and both of you (as well as your third) are on the same page, everything will be fine and you'll all have a great time. Just be sure to talk about it, and then talk about it some more. Make sure you are both very clear on what you expect of each other and of the experience. If you do this, it will be allot of fun.
2006-10-19 01:52:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Threesomes are not good if one of the women is in love with the man. There will be jealousy right away and that does not bode well for a good 3some to work. And yes, some men will be afriad you enjoy being with the woman more than them. Be careful whom you select for the 3 some. You need to know the personalities well of all parties concerned or not know them at all. Casual friends don't make good 3 somes.
2006-10-19 00:22:19 · answer #3 · answered by elanabutcher 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Its Considered Infidelity, Marriage You Know is Union between a Man and a Woman whether you like It or Not, Its also a Monogamous Union with Two Partners, having Threesome will Interrupt a Marriage.
Unless He or She Bi-sexual you or Your Partner will Cry Foul and call this Cheating, Experience all kinds of Relationship, People who are Gay, Lesbian, Transgendered or Straight are Monogamous, but Being Bi-Sexual means that's Threesomes are Necessity, you or your Partner is Bi-Sexual You can have a Threesome but If you're not, You're going to Lose Your Marriage to this you and your Partner are going to Break-Up or Divorced.
2006-10-21 18:02:04 · answer #4 · answered by tfoley5000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with 3somes as long as both partners are aware of the situation BEFORE getting into something that could possibly change the relationship dynamics.
From past experiences threesomes are a lot of fun, but after the novelty wears off, I would rather be a one-woman-at-a-time kinda guy.
2006-10-19 00:19:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men are. My wife is bi, so when she first started to say she was willing to fulfill that fantasy for me, I was worried about it a little. It worked out well for us, though. But then, my wife is also the type that told me after that when I asked if there was another male in our future, she said, "Eww, no. After being with you three times, I wasn't sure why I'd wasted my time with any other men. I should have just waited, then I wouldn't have ever had to deal with bad sex. Couldn't we just keep it to just other girls?" So you know she's a bit of a kiss-up.
As to rules, make sure everyone is on board with them and everyone thinks they're the right rules to have and everyone is going to try to stick to them. In the heat of the moment, it's easy to forget that you're living life under a new set of rules, and "oops" isn't what you want to hear or say after it's all happened.
2006-10-19 12:40:54 · answer #6 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every man I ever been involved with would have been estatic if I agreed to a threesome, and been more turned on themselves if I did turn out to be more attracted to the woman...but I guess it all depends on the person.
2006-10-19 00:22:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Threesomes complicate things. Nothing wrong with them if everyone fully understands what is going on. Open communication is a must.
2006-10-19 00:21:10 · answer #8 · answered by Ian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my experiance was with 2 other guys..
my #1 rule in 3somes is to not be in any relationship sat the time.. and not forsure not with any of the guys you do it with..
no feeling involed just sex..
i had a great time and would have done it again..
but i'm now married and would never do anything that mighht hurt my marriage..
so we went and bought a doll!
and it does the trick!
2006-10-19 00:22:20 · answer #9 · answered by chrissy30753 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probobly because it's more personal when there's just two.When ther is 3 someones likely to feel left out.4 is the lucky numbah.
2006-10-19 00:21:56 · answer #10 · answered by Sexy_Duck 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Threesomes can be great and even grow into a poly family. Its not for the possesive or jealous types.
2006-10-19 00:21:53 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋