A guy who loves his girl Friend. Would do anything for her..buys her nice things, cares for her at all tyms, esp when she's emotionally down..( like coming down in an exam or arguments with parents...stress etc.)he even pays her phone bills, travelling and all that...and doesnt expect much in return...he loves her for who she is...never trying to change her...
but after the 1st anniversary or so...he changed a bit in a bad way.like he got a a bit jealous and then was over protective and was a bit harsh on her...( ALL THIS BAD STUFF ARE IN ADDITION TO HIS "GOOD" QUALITIES) he has even asked this gal in marriage...
HE HAS ALWAYS WANTED TO HAVE SEX INSPITE OF THIS GAL TELLING HIM THAT SHE WANTS TO REMAIN A VIRGIN UNTIL MARRIAGE...HE HAS EVEN TRIED TO DO IT...
WHT DOES ALL THIS TELL ABT THIS GUY?
2006-10-18 17:09:39 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he's not extremely rich..the gal is richer than him. he has been wanting sex from the very beginning of the relationship..so he's not trying to buy her...
2006-10-18 17:21:04 · update #1
Sounds pretty normal to me.. most guys can get a bit jealous - sometimes its because they should be because the girl is doing something she shouldn't and sometimes it's all in their head. As for the sex thing - all men are basically ruled by what's in their pants and their real brain takes over only sometimes, lol, so that sounds normal - just keep on saying no and he should absolutely realize that no means no :)
2006-10-18 17:14:33 · answer #1 · answered by Rae T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK i have seen this happen many times before... Basically when you first got with your bf he was the so called "perfect gentleman"... this means that he was trying to sweeten you up so he could get you to love him, by trying to make you feel good and buying you gifts etc... i can tell you now, its obvious that after a year he couldnt make love to you and now he is getting angry because you have been together for so long and he hasnt been able to get what he wants... therefore hes taking it out on you by being controlling and possessive etc... BUT i believe that the reason he is being like this now is because he is feeling guilty.. either he is feeling guilty about trying to get in your knickers or he is cheating and thats why he has become controlling!!
Please please get rid of him if he doesnt respect you being a virgin, he CANT force you to loose your virginity, if he REALLY loved you, sex wouldnt be an issue at all, he would agree to wait.. Why do you think he is so keen to get married to you? maybe because he wants to break your virginity because he is so frustrated..
Guys like this are not worth it, they are extremely sly, you need to think hard about everything thats happend in your relationship and see if it all adds up.. and think to yourself -does he really love me?? If he does, then he will wait years for marriage and not pressurize you into sex and he certaintly wouldnt cheat... i hope you make the right decision..
Good luck... x
2006-10-18 23:22:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this girl needs to be treated a bit harsher, and things will change more in a marriage. The jealousy is a bit scary if it was carried too far. Without sex before marriage, you are leaving a VERY big IF in the relationship. Certainly for him, and probably for you as well. What if sex is bad? Kiss a marriage good-bye.
Overall he sounds like a keeper. I think you need a bit more maturity before making anything permanent, or having sex.
2006-10-18 17:17:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he could be bad news... the beginning part sounded great. But being jealous and overprotective will be a HUGE problem that only gets bigger as time passes. It can really become a huge monster of a problem - I've had a jealous-possessive boyfriend before, and toward the end I felt like I was in a prison.
Also, he clearly doesn't respect her wishes and values if he keeps pressuring her for sex, and ESPECIALLY if he TRIED to do it! No respect at all! What was it, attempted rape?? Actually, the more I think about it, the more his actions infuriate me! Be careful of this guy!! He sounds like no good at all!
2006-10-18 17:15:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one does all those things for nothing. And you shouldn't have a guy buying you things so you screwed up right from the beginning never sell yourself and that is what you did you sold yourself to the devil. If you are smart you would try to get your sole back, your dignity back and find someone that you can be attracted to without being bought.
2006-10-18 17:19:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well sounds like an abuser to me, starts out slow and then...... what ever your friend does she should leave this guy and find some one more to her liking and someone that does not have the traits of an abuser. look up domestic violence and check out the warring sign and have your friend read them and see how many he is showing. Good Luck
2006-10-18 17:16:29 · answer #6 · answered by stormyjoem 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is a tough one, ive been in a relationship similar to this, for about 2 years actually but towards the end he got physically abusive. its a long story. but anywho, it sounds to me like he is trying to buy your love, and buying you to accept him and maybe even trying to buy you into sex. and he probly got jealous and protective because he had been trying to 'buy' you for so long and saw you still wanted to be a virgin til marriage that he got impatient, and asked you to marry him.
sounds like a possibility.
goodluck,
nicole
2006-10-18 17:14:05 · answer #7 · answered by zanobibug 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hes trying to get some and to do so, like every other guy, he works hard at it and after being so nice and great for over a year, i think he expects soemthing in return as in for his investement, but he may still really love her, but sex seems to be important to him. he should relax
2006-10-18 17:13:46 · answer #8 · answered by winky479 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a werido
I'm serious.
He did a lot for her, but he doesn't respect her.
That's odd.
Is he rich? If he's rich then he's not a good bf, since his money is easy, if he's not rich, he could be a good guy who's just deperate to control her physically.
2006-10-18 17:20:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is interested in the chase. If you were to put out, he'd probably drop you like a hot potato. He's not been real with you, because he wasn't sure of himself with you. Now he's more sure of his hold on you, and the real him is coming out.
2006-10-18 17:22:19 · answer #10 · answered by Chatelaine 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋