2006-10-18 17:03:07 · 22 answers · asked by Tionk 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
For me, having my baby has completed my life. I can't imagine my life without her now.
Having a child will not complete a marriage if you don't have a good marriage to begin with though. Don't think that if you are having problems that it will bring the two of you closer together because it will create more friction and it isn't fair to the child.
2006-10-19 01:25:26 · answer #1 · answered by Julie F 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi! I think that if you have a strong marriage and have been through enough together, then having a child would complete the picture. But if you are trying to substitute it for something that is missing in your relationship, then I would advise against doing it. Having a child really tests and pushes things over the limit sometimes and if I didn't have such a wonderful partner that shares everything with me, then our marriage would definitely be on the rocks. If you have a rock solid partnership and understanding, then you will be happy no matter what. So I guess me answer to this is that if your husband believes that you will share a good life together with or without children, then that's all you need to know. Good luck and answers will come to you with time and you'll know what to do.
2006-10-18 17:18:14 · answer #2 · answered by Mom_of_two 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a child doesn't make problems in a marriage go away. The marriage should be whole first. A child should not have to bear the responsibilities of his/her parents. It would seem healthier if the couple had a life outside of the baby (couple time) and family life as well (with baby). That sets a tone and creates balance in the home for the child. Do all you can for the kid(s), yet keep in mind that children grow up... but you should still have each other.
2006-10-18 17:17:13 · answer #3 · answered by Teoshe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it just makes it more complicated. However, in my opinion it completes a WOMAN. A woman who has a child enters a new universe - a sisterhood of women all with the same focus - the marvellous baby! But men don't get the same intensity of feelings about parenting. That makes the marriage suffer sometimes - the different degrees of dedication to the child/children. It's easier for a woman to be a parent.
2006-10-18 17:10:33 · answer #4 · answered by Miz Teri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it only compliments a marriage if both are ready and willing to commit to the challenges that raising children will bring. If your marriage feels incomplete, that is a seperate issue and should be addressed before bringing a child into this world. Children amplify problems in a marriage, they do not cover them.
2006-10-18 17:18:45 · answer #5 · answered by Supplicant 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not necessarily. I know my husband and I had an unexpected early surprise when we were only married 1 1/2 years, and i do think we could have lived a bit more before we expanded our family. It just depends on the couple. If the two of you want to have a child or not.
2006-10-18 17:20:11 · answer #6 · answered by Jessy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not the end-all and be-all of a marriage, but our having one was a wonderful way to show our love with each other. I think it would have been just as special if he weren't ours biologically, though. Have known two sets of married couples who didn't have children, and they loved their lives just as well.
2006-10-19 00:54:50 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! That's silly. Unless you want to say that all infertile, childless and childfree couples are in false marriages. I love my future husband very much but, I'd never ever EVER have his or anyone elses child.
2006-10-18 20:03:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
having a baby is tuff on a marriage and if you dont have a firm standing it will push you over the age..
you have lack of sleep lack of sex lack of free time lack of money lack alone time...
and if you dont have love trust patientince and can give and take in a relationship and baby will just make it harder..
if you have a good marriage.. and baby can be a blessing!
because you become a family instead of a couple!
you giving tons of yourself to this lil person and its a completley growing experiance
2006-10-18 17:09:27 · answer #9 · answered by chrissy30753 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's the beginning of the completion.
2006-10-18 18:19:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋