Last night me and the girl I'm dating went out and we went to this bar that she wanted to go to. There we're other girls there and we all got really drunk. One blonde girl started freaking me and sitting on me. My buddy who was also with his girl said that my date got mad and left with my buddy and his girl because I asked the blonde for her number and was telling her to come home with me. I was really drunk and didn't even know how I got home. I said sorry on the phone with my date and she said it was ok, but I feel like such a heel. What can I do to make it up to her?
2006-10-18 16:55:44 · 27 answers · asked by MisterO 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I actually believe that you are sorry about this, and I don't beleive most guys. I think if you have a chance at all, tell her exactly what you told us.... the true story you just wrote. She may say it's okay but TRUST ME, it's not. She will never forget it. If you truly were drunk and don't feel like you had control, then a. Don't get that drunk again/at all, and b. Remind the girl you like that you would NEVER do that under sober circumstances. She also should be 50% mad at the skanky blonde that was on your lap.
2006-10-18 17:00:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yeah. You screwed up. I don't know if you can make it up to her. I guess it depends on her personality, and how much you two really care about each other. The more she cares about you, the more your actions would have hurt her. If you did something like that to me on a date, I would think you didn't care much about me at all, and you had no concern for my feelings. The drunk excuse doesn't cut it, either. You were so into the blonde that you forgot who you came with. Now it could be really difficult to convince her that you do really care about her (do you?) and that it won't happen again the next time some little hottie comes along (will it?) Flowers are good (stargazer lillies) and a meaningful, heartfelt apology. If she does agree to go out with you again, you better keep your eyes on her and keep other girls off your lap.
2006-10-19 00:22:33 · answer #2 · answered by Shanshan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one should get THAT drunk first of all. But I know you don't want to be preached to about that right now. First off, if you don't have any more respect that for someone maybe you should grow up a little before you try dating a on a serious level. Emotions are nothing to take playfully. As for your girl you have to give her time. You should have told the Blondie at her first little hip sway you were there with someone and you were not into her. Your date would have heard that and you would have been on a whole other level in her eyes.
2006-10-19 00:02:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW!!! We are talking major league screw up here...
Prepare a special evening just YOU and HER... That's all. No bars, No discos, NOTHING...
I assume you can't cook being a single guy... So here's something easy.. Go to the store pick up some Fettucine Noodles and Alfredo Sauce... Get a couple of chicken fillets and grill them or pan "fry" them... You just want to make sure they are cooked... The Noodles and Sauce are pretty much ready to go Botellini's (I think makes a very good sauce/noodle combo in a refrigerated section)...
Anyway, Essentially you'll make Chicken Fettucine Alfredo.. She should appreciate the attempt. Make a nice salad which is about as hard as watching Pam Anderson run on Baywatch reruns.
Now then, here's the hard part... Find a somewhat uncluttered area that you can make into a miniature dance floor... Put on a very soft jazz album... Slow romantic... women love the glow of candle light.... That's right, you might have to go buy a couple of candles... OH, one SINGLE rose in her chair at the table...
OH one other touch... Some women are CRAZY about chocolate... You might consider... Chocolate covered Strawberrys... OR Strawberrys and a Nice Champagne... (Eh, you blew it, she's worth it...)
You call her up... You say, "You know I can't get you off my mind... I really am taking this hard. I want to do a little something special to show you exactly how special you are to me. I don't know who that other guy was, but it wasn't the real me... How about I treat you to a nice dinner and this new place that I understand is very nice for dancing... It's just a quiet little place off the beaten path... So quiet, you can hear each other breathe...
Anyway, once you've got her agreement to go out with you... Take her to your place... And be as romantic and thoughtful as possible...
OBVIOUSLY, you can adjust the idea as needed... If he's lactose intolerant you want to stay away from the Alfredo Sauce... You can handle it... Show her a romantic idiot that messed up and I think she'll forgive you...
Of course if you treat her too well, she might want you to go out and get drunk more often...
2006-10-19 00:17:27 · answer #4 · answered by James B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oooh!You need to do something very special together. Yeah you screwed up. Sorry on the phone does not cut it with bad screw ups. Send some flowers with a I'm sorry card and tell her you are sorry in person. Reassure her that you care about her and cut the crap. Learn to recognize your limit with the drinks when you are in that situation so that kind of thing does not happen again. Better yet ask your girlfriend to help you recognize how many drinks you had when she calms down so you can resolve that situation.
2006-10-19 00:10:06 · answer #5 · answered by Still_21_nheart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you are not in a relationship with this girl she shouldn't be to upset, what do you think happens when people go to a bar and get drunk. This stuff happens, you sound sorry for it, just don't let it happen again. Or don't put yourself in this situation again if you guys are serious.
2006-10-19 00:01:32 · answer #6 · answered by BIB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay kent, right on for not understanding people! Your answer is ludicrous! Granted, i'm not 15 yrs. old, but when it comes right down to it, we all just want some respect & affection. ALL OF US PEOPLE. Funny flirting is fine i would think, & if your not serious, who cares? All in good fun right? Right- until someone's feelings get hurt, then it's a big drama! Try to be a little smarter, or you'll just get stuck with "too little, too late " all over again......:)
2006-10-19 00:01:51 · answer #7 · answered by DarkDeb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur in deep buddy ... you probly have to convince her that u were drunk and was unaware of what u were doing and i would promise not ever to get drunk again and stick to it .... being drunk is irresponsible since u dont kno how u got home .. it means someone had to look out for u ... people get robbed..killed ..or kill other people when they are drunk .. so stay sober .. and work on earning the trust and respect of your girlfriend
2006-10-19 00:02:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try surprising her with designer roses and a nice night out for dinner at a fancy restraunt. How long have you been together? If you have been together for a long time now. Maybe you should try getting her a ring and purposing to her at the nice night out for dinner. OR if you haven't been together long enough to get engaged, still take her out for a nice fancy dinner and let her know just how you feel about her. And tell her that the next time you go out for drinks make sure she stays by your side to let other girls know that your spoken for. Hope this helps and good luck!
2006-10-19 00:03:22 · answer #9 · answered by cryssyhenry 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
What else is there to say? You really messed up and probably lost her for good. Would you want the kind of woman who would WANT to go out with a guy who did that? If she does, she has no self-respect.
2006-10-19 00:02:11 · answer #10 · answered by sweet_leaf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋