Ok, so I was dumped by my bf two weeks ago now. I didn't really get an answer and have been having a hard time dealling with it since he told me he loved me and wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. Today, I found out that he does love me and thought we had something special, but that his ex came back and told him she changed and wanted him back. He said, he had to try, because he never got over her. I asked if he would come back if it didn't work out, he said no that he didn't deserve a second chance with me since he hurt me and I didn't deserve it. He says I'm a really nice person and he loved the time we had, but he needs to move on. I really want to wait for him, since I love him too. I told him this today. We both cried and he nodded and I left. Am I totally lame? I intend to wait for him, but who knows over time.
2006-10-18 16:50:38 · 16 answers · asked by nursejuley 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't wait sweetie. He won't be back. Just cherish the memories and move on. He was only trying to spare your feelings. He's obviously made up his mind. It won't be easy but stay busy and go out with friends. You'll meet someone special soon.
2006-10-18 16:55:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really doesn't matter if you guys were only dating for 2 weeks, 2 months or 2 years. It's the amount of emotion and care involved that really matters. However, I think you should go out and date other people to occupy yourself and switch attention to someone else other than him. It will be hard since you always be comparing the guys to him but hey, at least it got your mind off things, right? If you don't feel comfortable dating yet, just keep busy. Go running, or better yet, go shopping! If he comes back to you, he'll see that you're a happy person and not miserable with lots of issues.
2006-10-18 17:05:35 · answer #2 · answered by tumble9845 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not lame. You just are hurt, and you want to believe that it's not over. But unfortunately... it is. Completely over!! We have all been there, and it takes awhile to get totally over it. I'm going to say something you will not want to believe, and that you probably will not like. But, he didn't love you. And he doesn't love you. He chose his x over you. If you were special, and he loved you like he said he did. The x would stay just that. An x, and that's it. He is trying with her, because she won. She is where his heart is. He said he wouldn't come back, even if she dumps him. Why would he say that. Would you leave someone who you really love?? Would you go chose your x boyfriend, over the man you love now?? Or would you say... no I never want a chance to get back with someone "you supposedly love"
Sorry honey..... he's gone, gone, gone. You can wait. You can waste your time as long as you want. I know you want him, but wake up and smell the roses.
2006-10-18 17:02:55 · answer #3 · answered by junebug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look two weeks is not a long time.
Move on. Besides, the line about getting back together with an ex could be just an easy way out for him. I am considering using it next week when I dump my gf after one year of great sex. Read the article below.
2006-10-18 16:58:45 · answer #4 · answered by 30 something 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't wait. I had a similar experience and I waited and then found out that he just didn't have the balls to tell me that he didn't have true feelings for me. He thought it would be nicer to give me a different excuse.
Breaking up was hard, but the waiting is what really broke my heart.
I wish you the best and I hope you can find a really good man that will be honest with you and truly love you.
2006-10-18 16:59:39 · answer #5 · answered by juniper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not lame. I would do the same if my faince' left me. I know that I love him enough to wait. But I also know he wouldn't do that to me. You need to dig down in your soul and make sure he is the one you want. Don't let another love pass you by while you wait for him. Explore other options. Let others know you're interested, IF you end up being so. Do not give up your life for him. Keep him on the side, let him know you still want him, but that you too need to explore love. IF you find it, and you know you love this other person, don't do the same thing he did to you, unless you are SURE he is who you want.
2006-10-18 16:56:28 · answer #6 · answered by ShaBAM! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the more tie you spend thinking about this, wanting him again the more it drives you insane , Not that you are lame the same thing kinda happened to me before and well thats wat hapenned there are probably some better thigs in life and so maybe you should wait a little longer probably go out with someone else, and then when he is ready to get back together compare him to the guy you are going out with choose and make a wise decision
2006-10-18 16:57:45 · answer #7 · answered by Banstaman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not lame but I think your love for him is clouding your judgement. He doesn't want you. Harsh, words but take them now, because if he ever comes back he'll be singing a different tune. You deserve someone who will love you FIRST. No second guessing. Don't wait for him.
2006-10-18 16:58:53 · answer #8 · answered by Arikbo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on girl. He was just passing you a line to make things easier. I'm sorry but he played you. Don't wait. There is someone out there that will want to be with you and nothing or no one past or present will make him change his mind.
2006-10-18 16:56:03 · answer #9 · answered by itistigger70 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could wait, but not wait, You know what i mean? I mean go out there a find someone else and try and find someone else while seeing how things go for him and his other girl and see what happens. But don't intend on anything happening again with you and him.. but wait and see.. But find yourself someone else.
2006-10-18 16:54:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋