Ladies,
I have a bf who is Asian and earlier tonight we were intimate for the first time. My bf expels the myth about Asian guys being small because he is about average length 6.5" but his girth is what was killing me. I am 5'0 tall and 95lbs and he is 5'7" tall and 150lbs. I had to get him to stop several times because he is thick. Finally I had him pull out so I could lube him. I want to have sex with him again but it hurts. How do you tell a guy that his thickness of 4" feels like it is tearing you even after relubing him?
2006-10-18 16:48:54 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like you aren't wet enough. Girl you better drink more water or something because if we can push out 8lb babies surely you can take a 4in thick d**k.
2006-10-18 16:53:19 · answer #1 · answered by MsT 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you two were intimate for the first time, i have to ask: are you a virgin? I ask this because when you have sex for the first time the muscles in the walls of your vagina have to move and expand to accomodate a penis quite a lot and ometimes they can rip and tear a bit - all this equals pain. unfort, if this was yr first time, it's gonna be a few more times till it starts to not hurt at all. If it's not that, then one thing is that unless your vagina's ability to relax the muscles and move to accomodate a penis depends on how relaxed and comfy you are and how turned on you are. If it starts to hurt then tell him to go slowly, also don't use positions that shorten the length of yr vagina (eg u on yr stomach, doggy style) till it doesn't hurt other ways. the skin around your vagina is VERY DELICATE AND SENSITIVE. see if , whenyr not having sex, any of the skin around yr vagina or anywhere hurts, it was probably caused by yr over excited guy not giving you time to relax and yr muscles torelax and widen. Don't have sex again till those bits heal, or else they'll just hurt more and again. lube him up alot BEFORE you try sex next time, don't bother waiting till have way through sex and you're already sore, by then you're not too relaxed or turned on because of the pain and discomfort and it'll just go down hill from there. lube him up make him give you more foreplay till your really really wet and relaxed (if you can't relax then try clenching yr pelvic floor muscles - muscles that stop you from pissing yr pants - and tighten them real hard for abt 10 secs then let them go and yr muscles shld auto relax from there), then get him to penetrate slowly and keep going slowly until your comfy and it doesn't hurt you any more. Remember, the vagina is designed to widen to fit a baby's head and body, so it can fit a guy's thick penis, just help it along.
2006-10-18 17:06:23 · answer #2 · answered by mischief 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on if you like him alot or if this is just a passing relationship...cause i am 5ft 10in and i dont want a man with a 4in girth!!!!But if this is the man for you then you lube up , take it slow and work through it.
2006-10-18 16:58:54 · answer #3 · answered by Red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just relax next time....the more nervous you are the dryer you will be.
If you relax and use plenty of product you will be fine....you know even 5'0 ladies give birth to large babies.
It will fit, you will just need to prepare yourself a little more and try not to be so tense. Ask him to be gentle and eventually you will feel like the perfect fit.
2006-10-18 16:53:31 · answer #4 · answered by katie.sugar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i was with this guy who was 12 long and OMG he was so thick that he had ta lub up every thime we had sex im 5'2 and about 180 he is 6'3 about 170 and there was no position that we could get in that it wouldnt hurt and i never came when we was together so i ditched him but what i wouldnt give ta try it again hang in there im sure it will work its way in and start ta fit good luck
2006-10-18 16:57:18 · answer #5 · answered by Jeannie T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm....try this---make sure you are plenty aroused before you actually have intercourse and also use tons of lube---your own saliva is the best, but sometimes store bought lubes can be better.
2006-10-18 16:53:29 · answer #6 · answered by SuzyBelle04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him slow down and really take it easy. A word of caution though, make sure you're doing your Kegels if you plan on being with him for a while
2006-10-18 16:51:31 · answer #7 · answered by radiantqueen_t 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him. When telling him, let him know that you need him to go slow. Eventually, your vagina will open up and let him in.
2006-10-18 16:53:30 · answer #8 · answered by cheermb22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hez asian dat cooooolllllll!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-18 16:58:20 · answer #9 · answered by d freaking gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, that is way too much info.
2006-10-18 16:52:08 · answer #10 · answered by sweethyedreamer213 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋