I think I'm developing feelings for my friend who is a bisexual female. The problem is she has a fiance, who lives several states away, and now a girlfriend. I was hurt a really long time ago and haven't been truly interested in anyone since then until now. However, I value the friendship enough that I can't lose it because I don't have anyone else I can be that open with and I don't think she has the same feelings for me. I don't ever open up to people but opened up to her pretty quickly. It's cool talking with her about everything, but when she starts talking about her girlfriend it's really painful for me. Is there anything that I can do to work through it? Losing her friendship is not an option for me. Please help!!
2006-10-18 16:47:07 · 12 answers · asked by Confused on east coast 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
One of the hardest lessons in life is accepting the fact that often the things we desire in life aren't within our grasp. Love comes and goes a lot faster than finding a great friend will ever be. Here is where you have to be mature and accept that for now you and she are good friends. Cherish your friendship with her. If you're meant to be together, it will happen. Don't think so much about it, enjoy your friendship - go with the flow...
2006-10-18 16:59:27 · answer #1 · answered by indepwman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say that I think this is one relationship that you really should just keep platonic.
A couple reasons but the main ones being that she is obviously not a loyal and committed person (engaged to be married yet cheating)....and being bisexual you will likely have to compete for her attentions throughout your relationship.
Sometimes we can become so close to our friends that we confuse those feelings initially for something deeper.....just leave it be....
2006-10-18 16:51:39 · answer #2 · answered by mildly_adiktiv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ruin what you have with her by getting into a relationship. Talk to someone other than her about the problem because if you reveal your feelings to her, she might start to feel guilty about your feelings.
2006-10-18 16:49:50 · answer #3 · answered by radiantqueen_t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel. She might feel the same way about you, but scared to tell you. You never know she might leave her boyfriend for you. Give it a shot!
2006-10-18 16:49:17 · answer #4 · answered by Heaven 2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing ventured, nothing gained! Tell her how you feel. She may be more les than Bi; the fiance may just be a "front" for convenience.
2006-10-18 16:50:45 · answer #5 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU NEED TO BE HONEST WITH HER ABOUT HOW YOU
FEEL BUT BE WARE OF WHAT COULD HAPPEN, SHE'HAS
OTHER PEOPLE IN HER LIFE, SO YOU MAY BE A FRIEND
TO HER AND THAT GOOD. BUT DONT GET YOUR HOPE UP
THAT IT WILL BE ANYTHING ELSE.
2006-10-18 16:51:38 · answer #6 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, you are self destructive. Congratulations. Get some therapy.
2006-10-18 16:49:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give up the feelings, bud. hold up the little white flag. this is reality, not tv. sometimes i wish it was the opposite, tho!
2006-10-18 16:49:28 · answer #8 · answered by jess l 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you let your self be in a situation like this? only sh*t can come from this.get a real life!
2006-10-18 16:49:53 · answer #9 · answered by yubuggin? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL AND THEN TAKE IT FROM THERE! GOOD LUCK!
2006-10-18 16:48:55 · answer #10 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋