sex or no sex?

Question

I just know this guy for like a month and there is something about him that is just so inresistible and I cant help but to think of him all the time. He has told me that he wants me too and well....we have talked about having sex but should we take things slowly or if he wants me and I want him should we go for it? I really like him and he says he likes me too so I don't know what to do...someone please help me make a choice.....thanks!

Answer 1

I will say this,, the 4 F's, Find'em, Feel'em F**k'em, and forget'em,, if you let a guy know you want him that bad,, sure hes gonna want you back,, hes thinking hes gonna get laid,, If you decide to,, then dont be suprised if he doesnt call or contact you afterwards, when a guy gets what hes after he has no reason to stick around unless you keep offering the sex, but look deeper at what he does around you and for you, does he stick around long after, does he call only when hes feeling lucky, does he stop by to visit "just for the hell of it" ,, whatever happens,, Listen to that womans intuition,, Im a guy I know how we think and feel about things,

Answer 2

You are still young and you barely know him. Don't be in a rush too grow up too fast. At this point you don't really know if he is just trying to use you for sex. I think you would be better off waiting until you are married. Don't let society's ideas rush you into an impulsive decision? Waiting shows a sign or maturity, confidence, and self-respect. And the way I guess I've always viewed it is, I know that I know that the idea of the guy I ultimately end up marrying being that intimate with someone else wouldn't be something I want so If I wouldn't want that for me I shouldn't do that to him. Maybe I'm just hopeless, romantic, dreamer, but whatever your choice is don't do it just to try to give him what he wants or any other of the wrong reasons.

Answer 3

Well if you are cheap and accumstomed to being used by guys then continue your low morals and have sex with yet another guy (I can tell from your comments this guy will NOT be the first.) Just remember that some time in the future you are going to meet a guy that you actually love and respect and then you will have to tell him of all the guys you've had sex with in the past and your relationship with him will NEVER be the same as it is for those of us who did NOT have sex with every person we liked. Just think how you will tell your future husband that you had a habit for spreading for every guy that you "liked." I'm sure he will think a lot of you after he hears that. You will end up only being able to attract a guy with morals as low as your own. You two will get married and divorced within two years and you will back at square one--looking for a quality guy even though you are no a quality girl.

Quite the life you're working on there, babe.

Answer 4

When I really like a girl, I'd rather not have sex with her. It's too easy to get trapped in relationship where humping is the only thing bonding you together. (I've just barely escaped some bad relationships for that reason.) If you really like him, you are better off waiting and seeing if your relationship can still burgeon on other food. Not necessarily until marriage, but at least a while longer than your instinct tells you. On the other hand, if you're just horny...no one will blame a 20-year-old for satisfying a basic human need; use it while you've got it.

Answer 5

If you want a relationship based on sex, than yes. Can it work, if you go ahead a sleep with him? Maybe. But, does it have a better chance, if you let your minds become in love first. Yes. I understand you are attracted to him. I understand he is attracted to you. But seriously... you haven't known him for very long, and I didn't see you mention that you guys are already committed to one another. And you can't just jump into something without understanding the cons of your actions. Are you going to be ok, if you do sleep with him, and then it's over? Or do you think you may feel better, if you don't sleep with him, and it's over? Just think about it. If he likes you that much, he will stick around for the dessert when you are ready to serve it. Do not ever sleep with someone just because they want to. And don't ever think you have to sleep with someone to get them. Go with your gut. And, your gut must have said "No" some of the time, or you wouldn't have asked the question.

Answer 6

You can do what everyone else is doing, and that is "do what you feel like doing" However, if you notice the HUGE number of divorces (one out of every two marriages), unhappy marriages, problem relationships, you might want to consider a different approach...

Consider the fact that premarital sex has been the cause of countless problems and immeasurable unhappiness. Even though it may feel right and proper, the religious establishment calls it a sin. And, with sin, there are consequences. Even ignoring this, you (and him) must question someone's morality if they "do it" before marriage.

Just ask someone who's been happily married for many many years whether they "did it" before they got married. Chances are, they waited.

Answer 7

Don't do it just yet. If you give it to every guy within the first month you've been done had sex with too many men in your life time. Let him do a little proving then give it to him. What if ya'll break up tomorrow. You'll meet another guy thay you'll like, in a month give it to him, then so on and so on. Until you'll look like feak or something.

Answer 8

I mean really, if you both are two consenting adults and you guys want to be with eachother then I say go for it. Unless of course you are a virgin or it goes against your religion. Nothing is going to stop the urge unless he does something that really makes you hate him. But let's be real, what are the odds on that happening?

Answer 9

Decide for yourself whether you are ready or not.
If your a virgin, think about it, some people let go of it straight away, you'd want it to be special. Does it feel right to be around him? Don't ever feel pressured to have sex with him, take it slowly and the time will come when its right.

Answer 10

Ok it's not enough to just like someone...get to know him really well ..let him take you out and wine and dine you..i think you should wait till u feel it's the right time..what is your plan after sex? does he want to date you? is he interested in you just for sex? you better find out girl...or else he might just have sex with u and leave you....