DH and I decided to have our first thanksgiving dinner at the house this year. I told him that I wanted to invite his dad, b/c I want our daughter to get to know him. Both of my granddad's died before I was even born, so it is important that my daughter knows him. Whatever happened (or didn't happen) b/w his mom and dad is their business and we should not need to exclude her granddad.
Anyway, my husband said that his mom and aunts can cook dinner at our house and that he did not plan for us to cook. Folks this man has lost his mind if he thinks they are cooking dinner in our home. Why would I invite them just to have them to cook. They are welcome to bring a dish to share.
How can I keep the peace or did I invite trouble?
2006-10-18 16:06:31 · 7 answers · asked by hrmom02 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You know how they say you can catch more bees with honey than you can with vinegar? Try gently telling him that, since it is your invitation, that you would rather cook and go the whole nine yards for your guests than have them slave at the kitchen all day. If he still doesn't get it, you can always speak to his mom and aunt yourself and tell them that it is not necessary for them to cook and that you would be more than happy to cook for all of you. Maybe they will talk to your husband themselves and you won't have to do anything.
If none of this works, then my suggestion is to go with the flow; and keep the peace. However, I would definately take control--subtly--in the kitchen and allow them to help if they're really adamant about doing so. Try to look for the positive: at least they'll be of help to you. Good luck!!
2006-10-18 16:11:18 · answer #1 · answered by *Jessy* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the dinner is at your house, you are the hostess. You're the lady of the house, you set the menu and cook, and you call the shots.
Of course, I'm sure mom and auntie-in-law will offer to help, and you should of course graciously accept their offer. Either tell them the menu you have planned and ask them to bring a dish, or share the menu with them in advance and tell them their help is welcome. Or - tell them you'll take care of the dinner, but would they please bring their delicious (insert dish or dessert here).
Remember honey - they're ALL family now! :-)
2006-10-18 23:11:13 · answer #2 · answered by Z Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that the two of you are going to share cooking duties while his kin come over to dinner.
If I was invited over for Thanksgiving, I'd expect the HOSTS to prepare the meal, not myself
2006-10-18 23:09:14 · answer #3 · answered by chrstnwrtr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may think the dinner will be too much for you. When you invite them, just ask what they would like to bring and let them know all that you are going to prepare.It is you house, it should be your way. (get them to bring what you don't like to cook)I think it is wonderful that your child will be around her grand dad---get pictures for her..Have a great THANKSGIVING........
2006-10-19 14:37:30 · answer #4 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got problems. If I were you, I would quietly go to a local diner, alone, and order the turkey plate and a large milk..after dinner, get a piece of apple pie (no pumpkin) and a cup of good coffee.. savor the dinner, take your time and when you finally go home, everything should be fine..
2006-10-18 23:10:09 · answer #5 · answered by steinwald 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask them to share some of their favorite holiday recipes but insist that you do the cooking. Make one or two of their items together with your stuff and ask them if u made it just right. Or ask them to bring a dish for themselves. Just make it clear to them u are cookin most of the food an that's final
2006-10-18 23:16:30 · answer #6 · answered by swrskitlz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a sis that loves to argue ,u could give her a compliment, and she would turn it into an argument, this year i desided to have a nice quiet dinner with just me and my hubby,...maybe u could call them up and tell them u have had a change of plans, that something personal came up,and your daughter can meet her grandad another time where there will be no disturbances
2006-10-18 23:12:45 · answer #7 · answered by cc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋