My dad has a Master's degree and is very bright. He is a devout Christian. He actually had the nerve to ask me the other day why, if I love him as much as I claim to, and have so much respect for him, why I don't want to be JUST LIKE HIM?! I told him I am not his clone and he told me not to state the obvious. I told him that I pick and choose the good parts and ignore the other parts and he seems to have a problem with that...lol! I am my own person and have no desire to be just like him. He has many faults in my personal opinion. (He tells people they're going to Hell for example and that they're not really Christians for another example, he fought for and got custody of my nephew in a nasty custody dispute and I don't think he fought fair for another example) My point is I think he is being unreasonable and arrogant to think I should want to be JUST LIKE HIM if I claim to love and respect him so much.
2006-10-18 16:01:47 · 8 answers · asked by icu812 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You are your own person, and therefore your father has to except
that you have other interest. You may in fact want to attend college and study something totally different. And that's okay. Everybody is different, even the twins are different. Now he might
be upset for a while but he'll get over it. Just as long as he see you working your *** off, he'll be alright. If not he's going to either
get used to it or see you when you see him. And don't get me wrong, but he has to let you make you own chooses in life as
a young adult. Because when you become and adult you'll have
everything taken care of. That is you will be independent. And every parent wants their children to be just that. I have a 22 year
old and she is on her own with her family doing just that.
As for the religion he needs to slack off a bit, that's his choice
also, not yours. And as for the custody battle that's just a hole
different story. And just because you don't want to follow his foots
steps doesn't mean you don't love him or respect him. He is just feeling sorry for himself, so don't feel guilty.
2006-10-18 16:19:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow..u sound like a very smart girl...I am so glad u are your own person and u stand up to him. good for you. you are doing the right thing...otherwise you would be living your life with his standards which will end up making you very unhappy. you need to do what is right for u. don't let him manipulate you ever. proud of you girl! i know he is your father but he should let you make your own choices in life. as a parent myself ..i could and never do that to my child..it's not fair.
I think u are already doing the right thing. Keep reminding him that he needs to respect you and treat you as a person who has her won mind and opinions and persecptive or he will lose you.
2006-10-18 23:39:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you are you and not him. you do love him and respect him you have aspirations that are different from his. (if u do) u would like to be like him some areas but not all. God has his own path for u.
2006-10-19 03:57:17 · answer #3 · answered by thenewzepplin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
respect is earned. he respecting you, and you respecting him. i am a father of 4 kids age's 22girl,17girl,15boy,4boy. and i respect each one for their separate views. your fathers views should be listen to but you don't have to follow them. respect him by listening to his views, but following them is totally different. he just wants the best for you. what you do now, for you and your father is to hug hime and tell him you love him and inside and only you know what you believe and what you want in life.
2006-10-18 23:19:01 · answer #4 · answered by joe cool 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you love and respect him but choose to live life as
God leads you.
2006-10-18 23:07:18 · answer #5 · answered by zqx357 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man ... what a arrogant bastrd, If I was you I wouldn't want to be anything like this cnt. Fk him and move on.
2006-10-18 23:06:06 · answer #6 · answered by Balaclava Man 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
does your father want your box ?
2006-10-18 23:09:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he's going to hell.....
2006-10-18 23:04:03 · answer #8 · answered by bardstale 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋