My husband has been overseas for 3 months and he has 6 months left. I am not handling this well at all. Right before he left we found out our oldest daughter (just turned 2) has celiac, which puts her on a very restiricted diet. I am having a hard time with it, her GI specialist said that he would write a letter to try and get my husband home. I talked to him about it, but he is skeptical of this woking because there isnt really any non deployable jobs. Any ideas of what we an do?
2006-10-18 15:21:34 · 10 answers · asked by Margaret H 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
I am sorry you are having this problem, but honestly your husband needs to keep his mind on what he is doing, esp if he is in the middle east ( did not say where he was at)
You are going to have alot of familiy issues and problems over the years and years he will be deployed in the life of military.
You should look into getting with other military wifes and some help for you to learn to decide things and do things on your own.
I doubt he can get sent back, this sounds fairly minor in the aspect of soldiers life.
2006-10-18 15:26:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No offense, but you're pretty much SOL. Your husband has a job that doesn't show much sympathy towards family members. I have two children enrolled in the EFMP and that didn't keep my husband from going to iraq. If having him gone for long periods of time is going to be too much for you, you should definitely talk to him about getting out of the military. It's a hard life and not everyone is cut out to be a military spouse. Good luck with everything.
2006-10-18 16:42:06 · answer #2 · answered by santokieann 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Theres not really much you can do. Though your daughter is on a restricted diet now this is not enough to bring your daughter home. It seems you have the right doctors in the area to handle the situation so you may just have to handle it yourself. I dont know if you are looking maybe for him to be able to retrain into a job that will keep him home or not. There arent really any jobs in the military to where he will not deploy.
2006-10-18 15:27:07 · answer #3 · answered by JB 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to sound callas, but your problems aren't any more pressing than the problems every other family has during a deployment. If you can't take the stress, and many families can't, I suggest you talk to your husband about getting out of the military at the end of his enlistment. In the mean time, there should be plenty of support groups on base. Join one.
2006-10-18 15:47:40 · answer #4 · answered by Yak Rider 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i`m afraid this will not help get your husband back.
Even with a red cross message they will not let him back.
Military life is hard and not for everyone,but you always have to make the best of it.
It must be hard for you right now to deal with the new situation but you got to step up for your family now and be strong.
Ask your Doctor if there are any other parents with the same situation,mebay they do have support group there.
Make sure you enroll in EFMP they do do a lot for you even set you up with childcare if you need a break.they do have support meeting through them its possible to find another parent in the same situation as u are.
good luck
2006-10-18 22:25:13 · answer #5 · answered by Sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife had cancer while I was in Iraq last year and unless it was life threatening at the time, they wouldn't send me back. The best thing to do is find your closest Family Readiness Group, alert them of the situation, contact your base Chaplain and ask them for guidance. When you have all the information together they can assist you with a RED CROSS message, it is the only thing that will get him home
2006-10-18 15:27:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear about what you're going through. Really though like everyone is saying you're SOL. I wouldn't recommend writing anyone because it can get him in trouble rather than help, this comes from an experience with my hubby. They threatened to put my hubby in jail and dishonorably discharge him, so I wouldn't write anyone. Let your FRG know and they should help. I hope things turn out better for you and your family.
2006-10-18 23:40:18 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If every spouse who had a problem could just have a doctor write a letter and get their soldier back home, then there would be no one over there. THIS WAR. Not gym class. A doctors excuse won't keep you from participating.
2006-10-21 13:22:02 · answer #8 · answered by Butterfly Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the chances of him getting a Humanitarian reassignment are slim to none. your daughter's condition is not terminal, nor is it life threatening.
My husband deploys all the time, and I have a chronic disease as well. I am also not allowed to drive due to this disease, but it doesn't get him out of deploying nor wouldit ever prevent him from getting Unacompanied Orders somewhere. If it happens, i will have to make do.
2006-10-18 18:31:09 · answer #9 · answered by Mrsjvb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'll tell it like it is....deal with it.
He has more important things to do right now...like protect yours and my freedoms.
Him being home will not change the situation.
2006-10-18 21:27:57 · answer #10 · answered by TOPKICK 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋