This past summer I worked at a summer camp and met this amazing amazing guy. Though he lives in Quebec, CA and I live in Michigan. We are close to 12 hours apart. After camp I went home with him for a week and it was amazing, and I fell in love with him this summer or so I thought. He came here for my birthday (a month since the last time I saw him) and I have never been so nervous in my life. I was uncomfortable, and unsure if I even liked him anymore. Then as soon as he got back on the plane to leave I missed him terribly. Now I'm so confused. Should I try to make this work or was it just a summer fling? He calls me like 10 times a day and that is driving me crazy. He is probably the sweetest people I know and I know he's good for me and he will possibly be moving here next year, but I'm afraid. I don't think I want him to move here because I'm am not ready for anything serious right now. What should I do? I'm all stressed out and I do not want to hurt him by any means.
2006-10-18 15:19:03 · 11 answers · asked by crazy4flipin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds to me as tho you are not ready for a relationship with him. That is okay, you know. You did not sign a contract. I'm glad that you are concerned with his feelings. He is obviously smitten with you. Sit down with a trusted person and get your feelings out. Listen to yourself. You WILL come to a course of action. If he is moving to your town based solely on his feelings for you, I would suggest you tell him before he makes the move!!! Good luck,sweetie.
2006-10-18 15:23:51 · answer #1 · answered by I am Sunshine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going to be honest with you and give you my best advice. TELL HIM WHAT YUO'RE TELLING ME RIGHT NOW. It will be very hard to do, and you will be nervous, but it is the best ting you can do. Explain to him everything. He doesn't know how you feel right now and he won't unless you tell him. So explain. Tell him you don't feel ready to get into anything serious right now, but you don't want to lose his friendship. If he truly respects you, he'll understand and be patient with you and stay your friend. If he gets angry or anything, don't try to make it work. It will just mean that he's not the one for you, and that's okay. Love isn't work,at least it's not supposed to be. It's supposed to be fun and enjoyable. So take my advice (if you want) and talk to him. You may find that he's not the one for you, or that he's an even greater person than you thought.
P.S. he calls you because he cares about you and he misses you and he's afraid to lose you. This shows that he's had his heart devastated before, or that he's new to the whole relationship thing. Give him support, and see how that works. But you have to communicate.
2006-10-18 15:29:12 · answer #2 · answered by Kai Baz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had the same thing happen...i think you should be honest with him and tell him you dont think its going to work...tell him that you would rather just be friends and although you had an amazing time...you feel its best to leave it like it is...OR, if you want to give it another chance, do it! because, you were probably nervous while he was out there but it seems like you are pretty much set on telling him the truth. PS...if he is probably the most sweetest person...perhaps you will find someone who IS the sweetest person??!!! good luck.
2006-10-18 15:23:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should probably break up. If you aren't totally comfortable with him right from the start, thats bad. There is some other prince charming out for you :) and he is just being a distraction. Also, if he is moving closer and you dont want a serious relationship, he might just persuade you to get into some relationship you might regret later! Break up! Good Luck! xoxo
2006-10-18 15:22:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It helps when you are sure of what you want. If you are absolutely sure you dont like him anymore. break off with him.
He will be hurt, he will try to win you back a bit, but he will just shrug it off you wont. It is usually girls who agonize and agonize making decisions like this.
I think you are kind, but if you dont love him anymore after the separation, then it was just infatuation.
2006-10-18 15:33:11 · answer #5 · answered by QuiteNewHere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question, you said you are not ready for anything serious. Tell him that you would love to remain friends but that's all for the time being.
2006-10-18 15:21:41 · answer #6 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i could understand you in a way because i didn't want a serious relationship either but as the time went going i wanted to be with him and i know you wouldn't like him if he got with another girl,my advice is to give it a try it sounds like he really likes you !hope i help
2006-10-18 15:24:49 · answer #7 · answered by `~*sheila *~` 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try talking to him about how you feel. If you say you love him then it should be worth at least a talk.
2006-10-18 15:22:07 · answer #8 · answered by Beauty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel and see what happens. honesty is always the best. if its a right ralationship for you, you wouldnt be so nervous.
2006-10-18 15:22:48 · answer #9 · answered by tajura001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. Talk to him. Talk to him. It may not work but it also may be that he is your soulmate. Good Luck.
2006-10-18 15:22:27 · answer #10 · answered by dvdnedbalek 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋