Any one in a polygamous realtionship who wants to give me some advice on comtrolling jealousy and anger about the situation I am in? I love my husband and my jealousy is taking bad toll on my marriage. I chose this life as his second wife, and it's not fair for me to take my anger out on him or his first wife, but I do sometimes and it causes problems. My email is my user name.
2006-10-18 15:13:05 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
it's normal for you to be jealous, try to be strong and not show your jealousy. pray and ask God, he'll answer.
it's also the man's job to try to work it out in a fair manner that would satisfy both of you.
if he's not being fair he'll have to answer for God.
2006-10-18 15:15:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
I don't believe you.First I happen to know 2 Muslim men and I asked about polygamy and they told me that it is lawful to marry more than 1 but most do not out of respect to the woman.
One of these men is in Turkey and the other in United Arab Emirates but they both answered the same.I'd say if you really have gotten into a marriage like this,you knew what you were doing and you asked for it.
2006-10-18 22:26:56 · answer #2 · answered by jackiedj8952 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
jealousy is normal in any marriage. even Saidatina Aisyah R.A get jealous whenever Rasulullah S.A.W keep on mentioning Saidatina Khadijah's name. there's nothing wrong in being jealous except that you must control your jealousy.
don't let your jealousy get in the way and destroy your marriage. get to know your husband's first wife and befriend with her and her kids.
good luck!
2006-10-19 22:33:24 · answer #3 · answered by immortal1983 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought you were getting DIVORCED? That was in your questions just recently.
What is your story? Are you just a liar? Are you fishing for something?
What is it you want to hear?
2006-10-19 15:01:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you choose to be his second wife in the first place? You like other woman's man don't you? Have you ever think of how she feels about you ? 'Husband thief'. Bear in mind that you are second! YOU ARE THE THIRD PERSON. Have you no dignity?
Hey how does it feels to steal someone's happiness? How does it feel to steal away the kids' father (if he have any .PITY THEM)?
You know , normal thieves are considers as saint compare to people like you .Thief!
The nerves....pity that woman to have met the man and YOU
2006-10-18 22:23:23 · answer #5 · answered by TheWillBe 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋
That is why group relationships are just a bad idea.
2006-10-18 22:18:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sweetie, you need to get out of that dysfunctional relationship (not to mention the dysfunctional religion you're in) and find a man who truly respects and appreciates you. Don't let anyone tell you differently.
2006-10-18 22:16:57 · answer #7 · answered by Writer of Truth 4 · 2⤊ 4⤋
well try to an open dialouge between you husband and his young/old wife and your husband....relax don't be mad...try to sort things out
2006-10-18 22:27:34 · answer #8 · answered by RASENGAN 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't be jealous, be better!
If you can't stand the heat don't attempt to go into the kitchen.
If anyone should be heating the kitchen up, it should be you.
2006-10-18 22:16:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
why you so much like to be slave woman for man? why you dont have any dignity? please leave islam and be free sister. islam is bad religion, and moslim man is very bad man
2006-10-18 22:17:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋