no matter what i do they all seem the same. they pretend to care then everything u say to them the use it to torment u some more. anything they can find out is like a tool in a game they plan to play later. most of they hide it pretty well then one day it all goes down hill. how do u get out, be in a healthy relatioship
2006-10-18 15:11:29 · 26 answers · asked by J-bean 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yeah, there are. my boyfriend is one of them. he can be mean and obnoxious to other people but has always been gentle and kind with me. you're probably just attracted to the bad boys. try dating someone that your not so drawn to. you have to have a little attraction, but chances are the guys that really turn you on are the bad ones. the only way to get different results is to try something different. don't settle. you deserve to be happy. good luck!
2006-10-18 15:22:21 · answer #1 · answered by roci 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course there are. As we get older, we sometimes get wiser. I have never hurt a woman....as far as I know. I don't know how old you are but don't give up and DON"T SETTLE FOR ANYTHING LESS THAN A PERFECT GENTLMEN. Just keep looking until you find the right guy. Any guy that treats you like **** is not worth giving the time of day to. So be patient and you will find the right guy. I am 39 and still looking so be patient.
2006-10-18 22:21:41 · answer #2 · answered by mebarsky 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The honest answer is get some individual therapy for yourself. You you always end up in the same dysfunctional relationship with every new guy, then you are seeking those relationships (probably without knowing). Some psychologists have theorized that situations like yours are us trying to change a past relationship by reliving it again. But regardless of theory, you are not likely to regret therapy the way you are regretting your relationships.
Aloha
2006-10-18 22:19:46 · answer #3 · answered by Genji_77 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if they seem to do that.. all they want is to be a Night-Stander.. ( a person that only wants you on nights )..
and to answer you question.. yes there is some guys out there.. that are not a Threatner..
Like me for example.. I have been dating this girl for little over a month.. and we still haven't done anything.. it is because she is the person that should make the decisions.. because if I dare to move in.. and take over.. it will seem that I am a Night-Stander.. and no.. I don't want that.. it is because I love this girl.. and Girl don't like to be pressured much.. so I just leave her to her own decisions.. and if she wants to be in something.. she comes to me and we talk about it..
2006-10-18 22:16:38 · answer #4 · answered by Default Line 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get in touch with an abuse center so they can give you a list of things to look for in a guy that might make him abusive. Try this website.......
http://www.womenhelpingwomen.org/
They might not be your right state, but they will hook you up with the one in your area so you can get the information. There may be some small signs that you're overlooking. I recommend everyone to do this. It's easy to laugh off and say you know what to look for. Trust me, it's real easy to get into and very hard to get out of.
2006-10-18 22:20:32 · answer #5 · answered by freedove06 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you see, your first qualifier was that the guy needs to be "dominant". So, what do you expect. If you eliminate that from what you are seeking, suddenly, you are dealing with NORMAL people. Try that. I am sure you will have a LOT more luck. Going about it the way you are is the epitome
Good luck.
2006-10-18 22:18:06 · answer #6 · answered by Jon 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
not all guys are like that :)
i guess if you keep going out with guys and they seem to be not what they seem then maybe its not them, but you.
as in, you seem to be attracted to these kind of men, which would explain why u always encounter them...if you think about it
im a guy and i dont do any of the stuff those guys do.
i guess if you want a good tip, guys that arn't 'dodgy' usually have good friends and its the little things that set them apart.
i guess think about what you want from a relationship and dont settle fro anything less.
peace out.
2006-10-18 22:28:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that is happening to you baby. Feel free to e-mail me at leged56@yahoo.com and I will be more than happy to help you in any way I possibly can. I am a guy despite my avartar being a girl if you are questioning that I just wanted to clear that up with you as well.
2006-10-18 22:17:36 · answer #8 · answered by leged56 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blunt answer:
One woman asked, "Why do all the guys I date turn out to be drunks"? She met them all in bars. I am not suggesting that you are meeting these men in bars. I am suggesting that where you are meeting them is not a good place to find a gentleman. Try someplace else.
2006-10-18 22:54:16 · answer #9 · answered by Jack 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answer is NO! Stop dating that kind of guy. Stay out of Bars, you will never meet Mr Right in a Bar.
2006-10-18 22:17:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋