I´m a shy girl and whenever I´m around people I freeze up I just can´t get a word out of my mouth. I guess I´m also insecure of myself. My problem is that this guy I really like is asking me out on a date tomorrow and I said yes but I´m afraid that he´ll find me boring because I know I´m gonna have a hard time getting words out of my mouth, somehow when I´m with people I´ve just meet I become almost a mute and I don´t even know what to say !!! So now I´m thinking about cancelling the date and not going because I´m afraid that I´m gonna be so nervous that I´ll freeze. Any suggestions?
2006-10-18 15:02:42 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Relax and chill for a moment with him ok. You need to be use to his presence. Meaning be around him more. Find something in common with him and then make a long conversation about it. The more you two talk, the more you feel comfortable with him and be less shy. It work! If you don't have time before the date, then do it during the date. It just take saying, "What you like doing?" or " What's you want to be in life?" My boyfriend and I, too, felt that way when we went out. We both are capricorns. So we are naturally shy. But after I ask him a question about his favorite anime show. He replied, "inuyasha". It was my favorite as well. We was talking about Inuyasha so long. We ask even more questions about eachother. We open much, much more every second being together. So try it. By the way, tell him you are really nervous about the date. So he will understand how you feel and take it easy on you if you make a mistake or being too quiet. By the way, use that same thing iI told with your new friends it works as well. I hope this helps. Ciao!
2006-10-18 15:39:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) He probably already noticed that you tend to be shy and asked you out anyways.
2) Cancelling the date definitely won't help matters. He may never ask again.
This may seem radical or embarassing to say, but I would tell him either before or in the begining of the date that you are shy around new people but open up later. If he has a maturity level above a 2-year-old, he will respect that. He will know it isn't because you are boring and will want to stick around for you to open up later. He may even find that to be an attractive trait for many reasons like: probably less likely to cheat, hasn't been "around the block," timidness can be a very sexy trait, and as you open up to him he will get a nice ego boost because you like him and feel safe with him.
Don't cancel on him girl.
Aloha
2006-10-18 15:11:46 · answer #2 · answered by Genji_77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BREATHE! :) Don't fuss, Dear. And don't cancel the date!
Look, he asked you out because he is interested... it will be ok. So worse case scenario: you "freeze" (by the way, you won't). It's ok. This happens to a lot of people. But remember, he asked you out because he is interested in YOU. He's either going to like you for the person you are, or he's not. Be yourself. Even if it means just smiling and saying... wow, I'm a little shy sometimes and I don't know what to say right now.
You'll be fine. Go have fun!
2006-10-18 15:09:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U should definately go out on the date! I know how u feel im going out next week with this guy and we are both shy! But you have to go on one eventually and if u like this guy then yeah u should go! He mite loose interest if you dont! If you dont know what to talk bout ask him questions bout him! Like where he went to school, about his family what sport he likes just stuff like that! Im sure you'll find something you have in common you can talk bout! And if all else fails have a shot of vodka before he picks u up! Good Luck
2006-10-18 15:08:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to sidestep procuring issues for the reason that would recommend dealing with the guy in the back of the counter too. I even prevented lunchrooms in college cuz there are lots of of human beings there. i'm very advantageous in my visual attraction yet I truthfully have a social phobia and that i truthfully talked to a therapist (properly regularly my mom purely talked i sat there fidgeting) and he started me on prozac (or notwithstanding it rather is termed) which helps my tension some. Plus having somebody, a pal or family contributors member boosts my self belief some.
2016-10-02 10:55:23 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Katie -- You wrote an excellent question which gave details that make me believe your problem is not shyness. You either have moderate to severe anxiety OR a condition known as Selective Mutism.
Check out the main site at www.selectivemutism.org
You may also check the FAQs site at
http://selectivemutism.org/FAQ.htm
I highly recommend the FAQs site as it gives answers which sound VERY similar to what your symptoms are.
2006-10-18 17:04:31 · answer #6 · answered by Ozz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes don't cancel the date write a little note and tell your friend that you are shy on it and give it to him and he will treat you special and wont run away but will come back for another until he breaks your shyness everybody gone thru that stage good luck
2006-10-18 15:12:12 · answer #7 · answered by poda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a mental state only. i used to be like that but i kept repeating myself that if people are are not shy they why should i ? always concentrate on ur positive strengths and pray. effective prayer realese inner power by which you can acheive your target. no person who prays has this problem
2006-10-18 15:21:10 · answer #8 · answered by johan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just dont care about what they think really sit down and think about whats the worst thing that can happen if you say something stupid so what if they laugh at you that feeling is way better than the one your feeling now
2006-10-18 15:10:06 · answer #9 · answered by Kara J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats ok, its normal, youre just going to have to copp, i didnt kiss a girl till 7th grade, i was terryfied!!!
2006-10-18 15:07:14 · answer #10 · answered by Dr. Yasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋