I've been attracted to my hairstylist for about 2.5 years now. We have a lot in common and our personalities are very similar, but I've only spent about 30 minutes with her every couple of weeks during that time. I was married until about a year ago and she just told me on Sunday that she's getting a divorce - husband cheated on her. That afternoon we went to see a movie together (Jackass 2 - i.e., not a "date movie") and then talked a little afterwards. I'm an honorable guy and absolutely will NOT take advantage of her when she's vulnerable, but I want her to know that when she IS ready to date again, I'd like her to at least consider me. So, do I tell her all this now or do I wait until I get some cosmic sign that she's open to dating again? The last thing I want to do is add more chaos or drama to her life right now.
2006-10-18 14:49:17 · 3 answers · asked by ricktheirish1967 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
More often than not there is a lot of emotional baggage after a divorce. She is going to want time and space if/when she gets her divorce. You two are acquaintances and may become good friends in time. Thirty minutes every two weeks is not enough for either of you to say you know each other. For both your sakes I'd be patient and supportive. An occasional movie or cup of coffee would not be a bad idea but don't push. I'm sure she's not looking
and if she's friendly and out going it's part of her job. BE PATIENT
2006-10-18 14:58:29 · answer #1 · answered by big dawg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write her a note and let her know your feelings for her. Also,
in that note, let her know that you are concerned not to take advantage. Ask if she would like to go out with you now, just as friends, then see where it goes from there. I think that you need to spend some additional time with her now, not just wait until that cosmic sign appears. It may be, however, that she just needs you as a friend right now and not have all the emotional
stuff that comes along with a relationship. Spending more time with her now will also help you know when it's time for that relationship to start.
2006-10-18 21:54:39 · answer #2 · answered by LiveLifeBeGood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be too soon. Wait it out. Try to spend as much time as you can with her without revealing too much, as you might scare her. Feel things out as things progress. Maybe you won't have to tell her how you feel. Maybe it will just happen. Or if you do have to tell her at some point, you'll get a better idea of what to say and how to say it. Just keep telling her "I'm here for you."
2006-10-18 21:57:22 · answer #3 · answered by MoMoney23 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋