how do you know he's cheating?

Question

what are the signs that hes cheating?

Answer 1

If you are asking the question, you have picked up on something. Step back and consider it. Why do you think he's cheating? If there is something that is causing some alarm, investigate it. Has something changed? If it's just his personality, ask him if something is upsetting him, see what he says. It may have nothing to do with your relationship. If you have found something that indicates another person that he is seeing, ask him about it! You don't have to be accusatory... but there's nothing wrong with asking someone a question if something appears "funny"...

Answer 2

There are many signs to look for when THINKING your boyfriend is cheating, however, these signs are NOT a definate sign of cheating
1. He is starting to spend less time with you
2. He rather be with his friends more than with you
3. A noticable change in his everyday routines or behaviors
4. Sex between the both of you is dying down. He does not want it anymore or as much. And when you and him are having sex, he does not seem as into it
5. Whenever you two talk on the phone, the conversations are short, boring, and not interesting
6. He is getting calls late or more often than before

Of course there are many more, but these are some. But remember, these are NOT definate signs but do keep your eyes open

Good Luck :-)

Answer 3

He acts different......
He starts accusing you of cheating (with the guy friends you've had since the relationship started)
He smells womanly
He gets defensive when you ask where he's been/where he's going
He's just all around a different man.......you really think your's is cheating?

Answer 4

he avoids addressing real feelings, doesn't like to be cornered, or questioned. Is distant emotionally. Atleast thats the way my husband was behaving when he cheated on two different occasions. It hurts like hell to feel traded in, sorry your even having those thoughts because if he isnt cheating then he will be very comforting and attentive to your emotional well being. good luck

Answer 5

I had no idea everytime my wife cheated on me. yes there were sighs but I always looked the other way. It has happened four times that I know of. Prolly more. It hurts so much but I still love her and want to hold her... crazy huh....don't put up with cheating run while you can....

Answer 6

Check his cell phone to see who he has been calling. You can install a keylogger on your computer to see what he types. You can rummage through all his stuff and search for condoms, phone numbers, etc. You could also follow him one night, or have a friend do it. If you want to spend the money, you can have a gps device installed in his car so you can see where he's been. LOL, no end to the possibilities if you really want to know.
Also, sometime when he comes over and you suspect that he's been with someone else, pull his pant down and check him for residue!

Answer 7

Tell Tale Signs of A
Cheating Spouse

By C.R. "Bob" Brown
Master Investigator

The following is a guide to help you determine if your mate is cheating on you. After reading this list you may find there is some area of concern. Do not confront the cheater. This will only cause them to clean up their act and make it more difficult for you to catch them. You may not have enough proof to make your case. I would urge you to seek professional help.
* At the beginning of an affair the mate that is cheating is more attentive to his spouse. This is due to guilt that the cheater may be feeling at the time.

* After the affair has been going on for a while the person cheating seems to find fault with the person he/she may be living with to try to justify the affair in their mind.

* Cheating spouses may lose attention in the activities in the home. They don't show interest in the livelihood of you or the children that live in the home. Nor do they have any desires to do any fix-ups to the home (i.e. lawn care, house repairs, etc.....)

* Intuition (gut feeling) that something is not right usually is a sign you may have a cheating problem "when in doubt check them out".

* Cheaters may have a change in sex life (i.e. more sex, less sex) as well as unexplained sexual requests.

* The cheater has a definite change in attitude towards everyone in the home, especially the mate (i.e. if he/she didn't act the way they do, well then maybe I wouldn't be doing the things I do).

* Another sign is "Finances". "If someone wants to play they have to pay" therefore keeping an eye on their monies (i.e. check stubs, bank account balances, credit card bills, etc...) would tell you whether their spending more money than usual.

* Grooming habits will change. Cheaters will be more attentive to their person (e.i. the way they dress, frequent bathing, physical fitness, grooming of their hair, switching of colognes, etc...).

* Physical signs to look for to determine whether or not someone is having an affair is lipstick on the collar, odors of cologne/perfume on a shirt/blouse, checking underwear for secretion stains. You can also check their wallets and/or the glove compartments of their car to see if they left receipts, pieces of paper with phone numbers, addresses, condoms, etc.

* You may want to monitor your spouse for two weeks. During this time keep track of the mileage on their car. Monitor the time they leave for work and the time they come home. Keep a calendar and note the times, this should help you establish a pattern. If your mate claims to be working late, check paycheck stubs to verify this overtime.

* Be tuned in to home telephone calls when your mate has a tendency to whisper or gives a quick answer and immediately hangs up or when you answer the telephone and get an abrupt hang up.

* Many cheaters use cellular telephones to communicate with their lovers. Should your mate have a cellular telephone you may want to get a detailed billing of the calls made from the cellular phone to determine whether a certain number has been frequently called. A good area to start looking is for the first number called when your mate first leaves for work and the same number called again right before they return home.

* Female cheaters are more discreet in the selection of a lover . This is most likely because of their concern of Sexually Transmitted Disease's (STD's). Most females are looking for a longer lasting relationship rather than a "one night stand". In past years men were the aggressors, in society today, with the increase of women in the work force, women have become equally aggressive.

* When a female is having an affair she tends to have more of a "glow" about her.






C.R. "Bob" Brown, has been working and dealing with thousands of "domestic" related cases over the past 30 years. He recently received the "Lifetime Achievement Award" for his excellence in domestic cases from the National Association of Investigative Specialists.

If you would like to schedule an appointment to speak with Mr. Brown, please call him at Brown & associates, Inc. [phone] for "PEACE OF MIND".

Answer 8

most of the guys cheat

Answer 9

His habits change he is not home much he calls and says i will be late,, his appearence changes... loses weight ...colors his hair works out......forgets things....comes home late,, lots of hang up calls..is at the computer alot sending emails..buys new clothes and wants to know if he looks good ,,,sureilll

Answer 10

follow him/ investigate...lol. just kidding, but don't accuse him of cheating if you are not 100% sure. Thats going 2 mess everything up b/w yall. If he starts acting different...talk 2 him and ask him whats up.