Bad situation with my co-workers and my child?

Question

I took my son to work which was permitted. I work with 2 guys who are 28 & 24 yrs of age. Anyway's things were going quite well my son was being extremely well behaved better than usual. Then all of a sudden the 28 yr old guy has the nerve to ask my 3yr old son why he is such a retard? Also saying to him oh it's because you have to wear those stupid glasses! Then the 24 yr old guys says to my son go kick your mom in the stomahe so you can kill the baby and yes , I'm expecting. My son just got glasses 2 weeks ago and they both new that. My son has no choice but to wear them. My son looked so embarassed and uncomfortable, At the time I was in total shock and never said anything back. I took my son and we left for our appointment. I dropped my son off a daycare and went back to work. I never said anything to either one of them about 3:00pm The 28 yr old came up to me and said oh I take it your pissed at me why? Then i told him the situation and he denies that he would say such stuff.

I totally forgave them both but know they are treating me so badly and I feel like I should have told my boss or did somthing. It's so uncomfortable to goto work. How can this be in anyway my fault when they were the ones who totally dis my son. I can't belive I forgave them and yet they have no remorse why?

I saw the whole thing as I was there when it happened and I will never take my son to work again I like my job and wanted him to feel proud of me.

Answer 1

Sorry I am not sure I would even give them the right to be called men. They are both 2 immature boys in their 20's that have the stupidity to insult your son and make a rude remark about your unborn child. I would document this give a copy to you're boss and HR. This type of behavior is not called for in an office or anywhere else for that matter. Sending this letter puts it on their records and you may not be working with them much longer because companies that allow children to come to work or not will not tolerate this type of rude HARASSING Behavior. If you have to you can go above the company if no action is taken to the AG office. No child would make something up like that. Calling your son that name (I will not repeat it, is uncalled for). They owe both your son and you a sincere apology. Saying something like that about your unborn could be considered Sexual Harassment. I bet the company doesn't want that on their hands.
My heart goes out to you and I hope these two kids not men are let go. Tazachusetts

Answer 2

Go to the boss and tell him what was said. Tell him you are so sorry that you brought the son, and if it is so, tell him you fear the one who was having your son kick you. It really is possible that he wants to kick you himself. If the boss has any sense, he will either call the man in, or give you the opportunity to confront him in front of the boss.
Unfortunately, it might end the it's OK to bring the kid's to work policy, but it does not sound lke it is working, anyway.
The kick comment is child abuse, and this guy needs to know he could do jail time for his comments. If you called the child abuse hotline, the police would be required to have a chat with him, by law. Bet he would not be making any more homicidal comments. And that is what he did. He threatened homicide.
Unfortunately, you are the one who has to decide what to do. If it were me, I would not let it rest. A threat is a threat.

Answer 3

you heard him say these things. And then he had the nerve to deny them, i do not know why i am shocked. to say these awful things to a child is just unbelievable. What is wrong with people in this world today. that is just rude and very immature of these so called men. i would go to the boss, i do not know that any thing harsh will be done. however, they should be talked to and told what is proper and improper office behavior. This is just unbelievable. They both owe your son and apology. how dare they say such things to a little boy. Good luck and God bless you.

Answer 4

You should go to your boss, even if some time has passed. How can you let those fools treat you and you son like that? You need to file paprework on the incident, so they know that their antics will not be tolerated. What kind of message does it give your son to see you let people wlk all over you? Do this for his sake.

Answer 5

did you overhear those statement being said? If so, I would go to upper management and report him for harassment (for that matter go to the police!) No one should have to put up with that type of violent behavior anywhere, especially at work. It is against the law!

If you didn't here the statements being said, then you probably have a case of he said/she said and will be difficult to get to the bottom of it.
I wouldn't wait for it to happen again. If you have email at work, I would write to your superior so they have a copy of the incident on record. They may choose to take immediate action - - or they might wait for it to occur again. But if it occurs again, then you have ammunition from the first time to build on to this guy's degrading behavior. (who knows? Maybe this has happened before and they didn't do anything, but with you reporting it will but a bug in the sup's ear that there maybe a pattern of behavior that they don't want around representing their company.

My best to you. I know it's a difficult time.

Answer 6

Yes,My dear,You do need to tell your boss!THey don,t have no respect for you,Let your boss know what they said!Do you now how hard it is for little kids that have to were glasses,that was so-so cruel and if anybody ever talks that way to my children{Who are teene now}I would rip them a new AssHLOLE!please it will just get worse if you have to bring your boy in again,your he,s mom,Get your Lioness out,ATTACK!And you make sure you tell what they said to son about kicking you in tummy,They should get fired for that stuff,Thats Mental abuse!Good Luck,HollywoodP.s. I would have a talk with my son and tell him those men were mean and wrong and he looks handsome in he,s glasses!Hollywood

Answer 7

Dude, you need to TOTALLY tell your boss about this. That is harrassment and TOTALLY unacceptable. If you let them get away with it now, they will continue to keep doing it. Bless your heart. Those F-tards need to pay. You are a better woman than me because I would have cornered them and asked them who they thought they were picking on a child like that and what a horrible example they made of how men are supposed to act. They could so totally be fired and would CERTAINLY deserve it. Unacceptable.

Answer 8

Honey, call a meeting with them with your boss present and advise Bevis and Butthead that they need to immediately apologize to you and your child for making utter and complete asses of themselves in his presence and the next time they act up you will seek an administrative remedy and guarentee they will regret the day they were born.

An administrative remedy could include but is not limited to calling the child protective authorities and reporting these grown men for talking to your child inappropriately and going as far as to encourage your child to act in a way that could resut in physical harm to you and your unborn baby...and do it if necessary.

It is completely unacceptable for grown men to act the way these two acted. You are obviously a very sweet forgiving person. However when you deal with jerks like this do not hold back...go for the jugular, so to speak. If your workplace allows children and they talked to your child in this way, truly, they should be fired.

Answer 9

My God where in the world do you work. I would find another job for the sake of the children and what they are being exposed to. Those guys are butts. My 5 yr old godchild has glasses, I know its hard on them. Just keep praising him! Kids, and apparently guys too, can be cruel. Keep him thinking positive. My godchild now loves hers and wouldn't be caught without them!

Answer 10

Your three year old son sounds like he has more sense than both the 24 & 28 year olds. At least he had couth enough to be embarrassed for them. It's too bad that sometimes circumstances force us to work with idiots like that. I hope that you can somehow erase that horrible experience from his mind - at least minimize it. I don't think that I would ever take him to work again. Even if it meant that I had to call in sick. Hope that you don't have to work with those morons much longer.