my boyfriend wants to take our relationship to the next level (sex) but i dont think i'm ready. i love him very much and i dont want to regect him or deny him that what do i do? help
2006-10-18 14:35:10 · 12 answers · asked by hawaiian 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell him you just need a little more time and that you want to take it to the next step you just wanna be sure about what you are doinf because it is really imortnant to you...if he knows it is importnant than he should understand that you wanna take your time....and be careful
2006-10-18 14:38:56 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. He knows you are "not ready" and if he cares, he will not make you do something that you will feel guilty about and regret. Remember, if he gets you to compromise here he knows he can get anything he wants and marriage will not be an issue for him most likely. Also, men respect women who have morals and values and who can explain the sense of it to him. You chance losing him but chances are he will come back. Never get involved with sex until it is right for you and hopefully it will be when you get married. At least you should have a ring and a date before you take the plunge. Hang in there with your values.
2006-10-18 21:40:56 · answer #2 · answered by ALWAYS GOTTA KNOW 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him honestly what's in your mind and heart and if he cannot accept it and choose to walk out from the relationship, then i would really say to you congratulations! cause at least you get to know this person better than later! having a relationship is not about having sex, if he's unable to respect you for who you are would he be able to respect you the way you should be respected in the future and if he really can't which also tells that he is not even respecting himself as the matter of fact (which i don't wish all these are taking place) and all the best.
2006-10-18 21:44:21 · answer #3 · answered by - 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A big factor is how old you are...But, it doesn't really matter. Not ready means not ready, no matter how old you are. Let him know you want to take it slow cause you don't want any regrets later. Good luck.
2006-10-18 21:38:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him lead the relationship. You should. If you don't feel comfortable, tell him. After all, he is your boyfriend and he should respect that and wait till' later on.
2006-10-18 21:38:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him what you just told us. if he's a keeper he'll respect your choice and be the great boyfriend he is. if doesn't, well, he's probably not worthy of your love, honey. i know it's not what you wanted to hear, but...
2006-10-18 21:38:40 · answer #6 · answered by Cheyenne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? If he really loves you, he'll wait until you're ready.
2006-10-18 21:38:38 · answer #7 · answered by Bob_123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him your not ready if he loves you he will wait for you , never do something you don't want to do
2006-10-18 21:37:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel, he loves you, he should understand you and give you the time you need..
2006-10-18 21:38:35 · answer #9 · answered by noeidola 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are right. do not go for sex right now. explain the same to him.
2006-10-18 21:38:10 · answer #10 · answered by prince47 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋