i need help with self esteem. i always feel like people are judging me for some reason. how do i change this prpblem ? i feel dumb talking to people because im afraid they might judge me for saying something stupid.
2006-10-18 14:21:23 · 13 answers · asked by mary c 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
See you should really listen to me (ur grrl aleria)! First of all, you shouldn't be worried about what other people think. Second, just talk to people anyway b/c if you don't then some will still have something to say b/c they will think ur anti-social. And third, if somebody say something about you just don't stress about it; kill them with kindness.
2006-10-18 14:26:14 · answer #1 · answered by Aleria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing, RELAX! Take a BIG breath. Release all your fears, and go up to who ever you trying to talk to, or spice up your clothes with your style so people recognize your personality. And you may be approach more by a person who has the same style as you. That's how many cliques starts out. And along the way, people will stop to complements on how you dress and may want to talk to you if they see you again. You are thinking to hard of yourself. People may not be making fun of you, it's just you thinking that. You need your friends around you so you fill much better of yourself and less concentrating on others judging you. When talking to someone, be yourself. And talk about what you two have in common. It's just that simple. You are making it harder than it really is, you know. I have the same problem, But the difference is that I feel more comfortable in my skin when with my friends. I always relax and think positive things when talking to new people as well. You should do the same. Even, pretty and popular people have their problems too. I hope this helps. ^_^ Ciao!
Buy yourself some time. It will be come natural, so don't force it. Don't let people think less than you, then you think of yourself. Keep that in mind, Everybody is the same from the inside.
2006-10-18 21:57:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Mary,
Self Esteem I feel is something everyone has to work on. You are not alone on how you feel!
Woman try to do everything not leaving much time for our self esteem. Then if we have people around us who put us down and reticule us this is even a bigger issue!
Look over everything you do in one day. Look at all the great things you finished! (or not finished but you got some of it done) Feel proud of this!
A problem....well if you would like to change this about yourself maybe you could say to yourself "I don't care what others think" every time you worry about what someone else is thinking? You are obviously not dumb, do not give others so much control over how you think and feel. Most people are not worth it!!
Maybe start doing something you know you are good at more often? This would help your self esteem.
Well I hope I helped some?
Have a great night!
2006-10-18 21:36:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me, it's taken therapy. But what helped more was my being honest with myself when I thought I did something good. I surpressed it and still do because I feel like I'm being cocky or something. Now I know that's not the case. Besides, you wanna know a secret?... If you walk into a situation and act confident, like you know what you're talking about, it doesn't matter what you say, as long as you act like you know what's going on, other people will think you do. The truth is when you start taking charge even when you're clueless, you'll see how insecure most people truly are. Be confident YOU CAN DO IT!!! ;)
2006-10-18 21:26:23 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa, That's me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mary this is a normal feeling but its time to let go and grow up what do you care what people say are they better than you of course not,,your not dumb and stop beating yourself up ..we all say stupid things sometimes.. no body is perfect Mary so go out and have fun and stop this you will be fine..sureilll
2006-10-18 21:27:30 · answer #5 · answered by COOKIE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not stupid, you just need some self assurance.
You are most likely more intelligent the the people you are meeting.
2006-10-18 21:27:14 · answer #6 · answered by festus_porkchop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a comm-an problem,just try don't think of what your saying be polite & enjoy the momment......you shouldt feel that way i am sure you'r not dumb ,&to build self estem look in the mirror and practice talking to some one.......
2006-10-18 21:29:15 · answer #7 · answered by Jazzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK first i have to say one thing you need to stop putting your self
down that lowers your self esteem and another thing you are
beautiful your beautiful its true !!!! in every way every body has someone so that's my advice okay
2006-10-18 21:28:07 · answer #8 · answered by mz.thang 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your gonna have to say F'em if ya know what I mean... people always judge others...it's human nature... just be ya self and if someone don't like it ...O'WELL... thats life... you cant please everybody no matter what... so power up your confidence by accepting this fact of life and there is nothing you can do about it but be ya self
2006-10-18 21:27:28 · answer #9 · answered by 411sponge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry about what other people are saying. it's up to you how other people feel about you. if it helps stand infront of any mirror in your house and tell yourself how pretty and smart and funny and talented and nice etc you are. find your own inner beauty.
"no one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
2006-10-18 21:25:49 · answer #10 · answered by Coke-n-Snickers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋