ITS BEEN SEVERAL YEARS. ON AGAIN OFF AGAIN. NOW HAS SOME WOMAN STAYING IN HIS HOUSE (THEY ARE NOT MARRIED) STILL TRYING TO CONVINCE ME TO TRUST HIM,THAT HE LOVES ME AND THAT HE'S GETTING RID OF HER. I GO AWAY, CHANGE MY NUMBER STILL MANAGES TO FIND ME. I MOVED TO ANOTHER CITY TO AN APT AND UNKNOWINGLY HE HAD A RELATIVE LIVING THERE. HE SAW ME OR SHOULD I SAY HE FOUND ME. FATE IS REALLY CRUEL. NOW WHAT SHOULD I DO?
2006-10-18 14:11:45 · 14 answers · asked by TLC41 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'VE TOLD HIM TO FORGET THAT WE EVER EXISTED.
2006-10-18 14:36:40 · update #1
Its been several years of on again, off again, so history has shown this man that you will go back with him time and time again. He is probably only reacting this way because he knows you still care about him. Yes, you have moved, changed your number etc, but he still knows you care about him. I dont know why he tracks you down this way unless of course he has a mental illness and he knows you really dont want to have anything to do with him. Most people have pride and if they know they are not wanted then they dont usually persue somone/something that they know is useless. Maybe you havent made it clear enough to him. Maybe you need to tell him that you are no longer interested.....and mean it. Maybe, if you really want to get rid of him, tell him you are involved with someone else and that you no longer want him in your life and if he continues to harrass you this way, you will have no option than to get a restraining order out on him. If that doesnt work, then get a restraining order out on him. You have to be strong, you have to make it clear that you no longer want him in your life. Its very hard when you love someone to do that, and thats probably the reason why he feels he can treat you this way. Youve got to make it clear in no uncertain terms that you are moving on with your life and you dont want him in it now or ever. You have to mean it. Once he knows you are serious then I am sure he will leave you alone....but are you sure you want him to leave you alone or are you hoping that his words of love are true and that one day the two of you will be together? Only you can decide where your feelings lie. But if you trully do want to move on with your life, then you have to make him believe it....and if it takes a restraining order, then thats what you need to do.
2006-10-18 14:22:07 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like the game, like seeing him from time to time and not stuck with him all the time, keep on doing what you do. But, time is passing and you are losing out on a chance to meet the right guy, get married, etc. You are being used, but some people like the game and they settle. It depends upon what you want.
2006-10-18 14:37:41 · answer #2 · answered by ALWAYS GOTTA KNOW 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he is or can be a stalker I would stay away and not even let him know where I live move again he is a disturbed person if you must... report him so it will be on record keep safe,,sureilll
2006-10-18 14:17:59 · answer #3 · answered by COOKIE 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
TAKE OUT A RESTRAINING ORDER ON HIM........move out of your place into another and have a silent number, change your car or at least your plates, and forget the doofus....he must really think your a dummy or be so full of himself that he believes his own garbage.
2006-10-18 14:15:57 · answer #4 · answered by Linda 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are trying to get away from him. So have a talk with him and say to leave you alone. He has put you through enough, and if it was meant to be, you wouldnt have to feel like you have to run away to escape him..
2006-10-18 14:13:44 · answer #5 · answered by Steph 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well obviously he isnt trying to hard to get rid of her all he has to do is call the cops, maybe he just doesnt what to settle down yet
2006-10-18 14:15:30 · answer #6 · answered by someone_you_wish_you_knew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like a stalker
forget him find another person that cares for you and only you
2006-10-18 14:15:36 · answer #7 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't even bother with him. Find another man. There are so many others out there.
2006-10-18 14:13:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's a stalker with a girlfriend. Leave him alone.
2006-10-18 14:13:50 · answer #9 · answered by kyle g 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a big male roommate.
2006-10-18 14:13:41 · answer #10 · answered by Justwondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋