we have been dating for almost four years. i love him, there is no doubt about that but in high school i drank waayy too much one night and slept with another guy. i regret that more than anything. two years later he does the exact same thing to me. he slept with a girl that he had promised me was just a friend. they hang out every weekend and she is constantly texting him. he works with her and he wont leave his job. ive forgiven him for sleeping with her cuz i understand but he wont stop talking to her and he works with her all of the time. it makes me feel like ****. when i try and talk to him about it he completely brushes it off, it's like he doesn't even close to regret doing it. does he have feelings for her? what the hell? he had been hooking up with her when he and i broke up for a few months and then when we get back together he sleeps with her? should i stay with him? he wants to move in together but i don't trust him and he isn't doing anything to help that.
2006-10-18 14:07:27 · 27 answers · asked by justme 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it sounds like he has lost respect for you... if he wants to do something that hurts you then he doesn't really love you... yes it hurts but you have to face the facts... do you really want to be with a guy who doesn't truly respect you... the longer you are with him the more it's going to hurt in the end, but you have to be strong because irregardless of the mistakes you've made, every woman deserves to be respected.
2006-10-18 14:11:56 · answer #1 · answered by Victoria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off... He's still seeing that girl!!! Don't be a fool. If you move in with him, you will regret it. Reverse the roles... Be more of a challenge to him. Don't chase him the way you are, by keeping the situation in you constant thoughts. Find a friend (a guy) even if it's just for pretend (he doesn't have to know that). Don't revolve your life around his. He's playing you and that girl. Play the game in reverse. Always be 2 steps ahead of him.
2006-10-18 21:15:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you made a mistake and so he did it now its even.But i think its more with him and the other girl. I believe he has a relationship with her. Yea right he wants you to move in with him .So he can keep and i on you and make you think there was no feeling between him and her. I think you should let him go. Now he shouldn't be talking to her if the wasn't still doing it. That's why he brushes you off. He wants his icing and his cake . But he can't do both . He got to give you or her up. but he is not. So ditch. push him out to curb. drop him like sack potatoes. Push him the roost. Put him on a boat and give it a push.
2006-10-18 21:18:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He forgave you for cheating on him so and you two have been together for a while now so actually, NO...he can not justify cheating on you. It sounds like he's having more than a one night stand with this other woman. You need too break it off with him, you're going too get your heart broke. Don't make matters worse by moving in with him.
2006-10-18 21:12:15 · answer #4 · answered by Rose T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hahah..well first of all he is either a dumbass or a player..in a players point of view..well I used to play around when i was younger...never got cheated on and when they tried I didt it first. Its a nasty game but guess what, now he knows hes got you from the neck. At this point he is superman, he can do whatever he want or so he thinks....if you cheated on him u dont love him and if he cheated on you ohh well u did it why cant I..u all will never work out...If he sees her often then she might have shown him some tricks in bed, or shes more honest to him than u ever were cheater...ahh kids grow up if u wanna *** around dont get in relationships
2006-10-18 21:13:19 · answer #5 · answered by jmol72001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh... this sounds like a recipe for disaster. I really don't think you should trust him. Personally, it seems to me that he must have feelings for this girl. Sleeping with her was no accident.... If they spend so much time together they are probably still emotionally and physically connected (more then he might be telling you)... hum mm... don't move in with him, you'll regret it sooner or later. good luck in finding someone new, someone that will love you, be loyal to you and respect you. He obviously doesn't.
2006-10-18 21:13:39 · answer #6 · answered by Tania 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have no trust........therfore you have NO RELATIONSHIP.... what a horrible way to be living with doubts, wonderings, jealousies, sick feelings, nagging feelings. You drank too much and cheated on him, you need to take responsibility for that which you may have already done. (dont drink so much again) He has cheated on you and is close to the person he cheated on you with........ I'd be saying byw bye.....he's still sleeping with her, they have some hold on eachother. There is no justification for cheating on your partner from any side for any reason. You need to break up and take some time out for yourself to re-evaluate what you want in life.
2006-10-18 21:13:32 · answer #7 · answered by Linda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should talk 2 him and tell him u will not do it again and that u love him and u feel bad about what u did and ask him if he really meant sleeping with another girl . if he didn't agree with u then just simply dump him and move along and try staying away from drinking and find a guy who will understand .
2006-10-18 21:14:28 · answer #8 · answered by unknown 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him that the relationship should just involve work and that you dont want him having any contact with her away from work because it is disrespectful to you and your relationship. Ask him how would he feel if you started talking to the guy that you cheated with on a daily basis
2006-10-18 21:11:33 · answer #9 · answered by <<SEXY MOMMA>> 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first mistake was cheating. By doing that you gave him a 'Cheat Once For Free' card. But you need to leave that relationship. And guess what, he probably doesn't trust you either.
2006-10-18 21:16:00 · answer #10 · answered by Bob_123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋