my boyfriend and I live together .Been together 7 months he tells me he loves me but says he isnt ready for a commitment right now . he is 36 i am 31 i have never been married and i am ready to settle and i am confused please help me
2006-10-18 14:03:49 · 33 answers · asked by aquaris01975 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he doesnt cheat he comes home -
2006-10-18 14:05:29 · update #1
You guys seem to have rushed into a "commitment", living together so soon is a huge commitment. He "says" hes in love with you or that he loves you atleast. I think in my opinion hes very commited. I mean by commitment is he saying I dont want tto get married yet, which would be ok, or does he mean I want to see other people. If thats the case he needs to move out and move on. He made a huge commitment moving in together.
If its that he doesnt want to get married yet, give him time they all say that when they feel the walls closing in. He will come around if your important to him.
Dont over think it.
If hes good to you and with only you, dont stress. You already have the commitment.
2006-10-18 14:09:05 · answer #1 · answered by Stacey F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is not bad that he does not want to commit right now. It should not be seen as a negative sign. Just chill after all you have been seeing each other for 7 month's, should there be a rush? But if you feel that you want to be in a commited relationship like in this moment than you should find someone who shares the same ideas. If you want to be with the guy your with right now than just let it flow. He loves you why should that be questionable? Another thing to keep in mind is not to pressure him at all because you might loose him in the long run depending on the guy.
2006-10-18 14:15:33 · answer #2 · answered by biochick11220 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
has he ever been married? u been together for 7 months, if he isnt ready to marry u then he is just not ready. maybe he is not the one that u are suppost to marry. he can love u and still not be ready to settle down. either give him some time or find someone else. he will come around when he is ready, even if u already are.
2006-10-18 14:07:42 · answer #3 · answered by C.C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK just relax maybe he is thinking the same thing. Has he ever been married? You know we as me don't usually like a permanent end. We like options! lol Maybe he has just been accustomed to being single.. It happens I was single.. well .. not married til i was 32.. it wasn't that i didn't want it. We all do! But just didn't want to settle down and commit without knowing it was gonna work. We all have a fear of failure. Men hate being a failure at anything. Stroke his ego and build his confidence then ask what his intentions are.. marriage or not ..
2006-10-18 14:10:10 · answer #4 · answered by R J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
7 months is not long enough for a commitment to marriage. Are you really sure you want to get married to this person or do you like the idea of marriage? Give him time, you don't want to force someone into something or else you will have trouble down the road.
2006-10-18 14:07:49 · answer #5 · answered by Need Answers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he isn't ready for a commitment at 36, then he will never be ready!! Girl, your biological clock is ticking and you won't get that time back. I suggest you have the "talk" with him one more time and then move on if he isn't trying to start a family. Geez, you guys live together!!
2006-10-18 14:07:25 · answer #6 · answered by b_sampson98055 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I am not ready for a commitment right now" in guy talk really means "I don't want a commitment WITH YOU." Seriously, that is what it means. (ask 10 random guys if this is true and see what they say) If his dream woman showed up today, he would be gone in a heart beat and committing like the world was about to end. If you you really want a partner for life, you will likely need to end this comfortable but not completely satisfying relationship and grab your prince charming when he shows up.
Aloha
2006-10-18 14:13:53 · answer #7 · answered by Genji_77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well 7 months isn't enough to know a person fully especially where it comes to marraige. Sweetie take your time the best is yet to come and beside y want to marry some one who r no ready or a committed relationship. Take your time.
2006-10-18 14:12:37 · answer #8 · answered by Keisha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've only been dating for 7 months. Slow down. You barely even know man, yet you want to live with him? Give him some time.. at least 2 years. So you've only got 1 year 5 months remaining. I suggest you invest in a PSP or DS Lite. It'll keep you company.
2006-10-18 14:06:50 · answer #9 · answered by Yosh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the relationship is an 'open relationship' then you probably need to switch partners. Otherwise, he may not be feeling that vibe just yet. Consider the fact that it may take up to a year and a half (in abnormally short cases) for someone to decide whether or not he wants to settle down with you.
2006-10-18 14:06:10 · answer #10 · answered by RivatricHistrionic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋