Ive got a 28 year old guy friend i think he likes me we're even going out next week! I'm afraid to tell him I'm a virgin (he's had a lot of women)! Will he laugh at me or will he like it? Or am i jumping the gun should i wait to tell him for a while?
2006-10-18 13:54:03 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm guessing you are female.
You, I hope, know him well enough to be able to determine the purpose he has for you.
I'm guessing that if yopu are a virgin, you want to be one....and if this guy has had many women before....and a high hit rate, so to speak, than I'm guessing that he "likes" you, to add to his collection of statistics.
Keep in public places, keep sober, watch he doesn't use date rape drugs....just be cautious......completely.
There are no men that can be trusted completely to understand you. So, see whether it is you....or whether you are another opportunity for him only that he is after.
It's a date....and silly brain, slack living, immoral people assume that a date, means sexual activity. Sorry to say, the world is full of those type of people...and our TV programmes are braimwashing us to think their slutty way.
So, be careful. Trust him only a tiny bit. See what are his motives, and there's is no reason in the world to tell h im that you are a virgin, unless you find you need to use it as a weapon against any threatenning conduct. A date is COMPANY, it's not sex. It's only used as sex by people who don't know what to do on a date.
Do you want a mindless dill who can't figure out what to do on a date? If he is a gentleman, he'll assume you are a virgin, and treat you well, not the sluts he's dumped or been dumped by.
2006-10-18 14:27:51 · answer #1 · answered by hello 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I actually think that this is a situation that could work well for both of you. I personally find the best part of being intimate with someone is finding out what they like, what they don't and so on. Although he may be a virgin and not as experienced as you, you're both completely new to this relationship, so put experience to one side and concentrate on what you both want/like. It is likely that you may have to guide him or help him at some point, but also encourage him. He may be feeling a little inadequate that you have more experience than him, so keep that in mind. Otherwise, patience and communication are key. Don't feel afraid to speak to him about it either. Sometimes talking can really help in resolving a situation. If you want to initiate something, don't let age get in the way. If it feels too awkward for him, he can always tell you to stop. If you feel there is a time that is right, go with it, and if it doesn't work out to begin with, it's all a learning experience and you can build from that and start again.
2016-03-28 01:03:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure why you would have to tell him at all, especially during the first few dates. It's not like being a virgin makes you a bad person.
If you do reach a point where the relationship becomes intimate, and you are feeling nervous about it, then you might discuss your situation then. If he is a good man, he'll take things slow and make sure that you're comfortable.
2006-10-18 13:59:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are a Virgin, you are a novelty. Even though men like to have sex with women, when they realize you are a virgin, it adds even more to the mystique. You automatically rise to the top of the cream and instantly become a real challenge. A man will dine and wine you and will pay LOTS of ATTENTION to you, of course if you are a looker, all for one thing. And you know what that is.
2006-10-18 13:58:22 · answer #4 · answered by GQCPA 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is the exact same situation I was in. I'm 28 and...
We actually watched 'The 40 year old virgin' the first night out. She told me afterwards and everything was okay. Don't worry about it.
2006-10-18 14:01:19 · answer #5 · answered by Nep 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell him sooner rather than later- I went out with this girl once...we talked online and on the phone for a couple of months, then we went out a few times, we started to get intimate and she told me she was a virgin- I never saw her again- not b/c i just wanted sex but b/c I felt decieved by her- I would not of cared that she was a virgin if I would have known from the get go- but to hide it- that's the wrong move.
2006-10-18 13:58:28 · answer #6 · answered by geom1974 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just wait. if things start to get to heavy then just be like look i dont feel real comfortable right now cause ive never done it before. if hes a decent guy he'll understand and respect whatever decision you make. if he's not and laughs at you then he was never worth your time anyway!
good luck and have a good date!
2006-10-18 13:56:33 · answer #7 · answered by ice hcky rulz 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What the hell? He just hit jackpot.
Now he can't suck in bed. This is the equivalent to a Gold ticket to the Chocolate Factory.
2006-10-18 13:56:39 · answer #8 · answered by Yosh 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if the subject comes up then you should just tell him. its a little embarassing and everything but if he is your friend then it shouldn't really matter...when i find out if someone is a virgin its just a fact to me. i don't really like it or dislike it, it just is....i'm usually a little surprised though
2006-10-18 13:59:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
on the first date --- dont worry about it
if he likes YOU then being a virgin or not will be a non event
dont bring it up -- its not really light dinner conversation :)
2006-10-18 14:04:08 · answer #10 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋