He only calls me 1 time a week to tell me what time to come over to see him one time per week.He's been abusive a couple times and is very controlling.He says it's suppose to be this way because we been togather 7 years.True or not true? He ask me to move in with him several times,but then makes excuses and changes his mind for a while and ask again later time.Please help,thanks.You can e-mail me if you like.
2006-10-18 13:49:49 · 13 answers · asked by Breanna P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I had a boyfriend like this once. Honestly, he is using you for sex. He has no intention of having anything else with you and that is why he only sees you once a week. Also, hello, why do you have to come to him? Why can't he get up and come get you?
If he cannot treat you like a lady and see you more often than once a week and come get you and bring you flowers after 7 years then you need to move on. Come on, you are worth way more than that! Any body is worth more than that!
And, just because you have allowed him to control you for seven years without marrying you does not mean he gets everything his way. He is abusive because he has no respect for you. Let him go and get a restraining order if you have to but get away from this person now!
2006-10-18 13:59:09 · answer #1 · answered by r_k_winters 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you know the answer. It is not the way it is supposed to be, especially if he's hit you. You should have been out the door that second. Relationships always are different when you're in it for a long time, but there is no excuse for what he's doing. You have got to realize that it is wrong, and he is a coward. Unfortunately, he's pushed you down so far, that you don't even know reality. Please leave him. He hit you a couple times, next time it could be worse. Good luck.
2006-10-18 20:57:27 · answer #2 · answered by s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me that he is being unfaithful and cheating on you. He offers you to move in when his other girlfriend has moved out, or isn't around. Absuive is he? Its funny how the other partner still sticks around afterwards isn't it? Personally, In my relationship I myself am the abusive one. I don't do it on purpose. And when it happens I can't control it. I don't beat him up badly, nor do I leave brusies. Its just I yell and shout and hit. I know this is just going to drive him away, because he doesn't need another mom figure in his life. I tell myself this so many times and i've tried. But we only get into fights once in a while. I think that you should keep a close eye on this guy, you never know what he might be doing when you aren't around for those 6/7 days.
2006-10-18 20:55:55 · answer #3 · answered by Liliac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is hard to answer since we dont know the whole situation or your history together, But if you re- read your question maybe you will find your answer.Ask yourself what would you benefit from being and living with a man who has been abusive with you. Do you get any real satisfaction from this relationship. Perhaps asking you to move in is his way of keeping you around or to give you something to hope for. Only you know for sure what is best for you it sounds stupid but listen to your inner voice . Do not ever comprmise your life for a man who isn't treating you the way that you should be treated. From experience I know that it is hard to get out of a long relationship but once you leave a bad relationship you really start to live and learn how to love yourself. best of luck.
2006-10-18 21:04:48 · answer #4 · answered by viva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a dysfunctional, awful relationship, no offense!!! I've been in one for 5 1/2 years, and while it's not 7, it's not that far off, and we have never been unkind to each other in any way. Our relationship is more loving and healthy than it ever was. Your relationship is not supposed to be like that. And you need to tell him that. Don't move in. In fact, consider moving on. There are better men out there. Maybe what you had used to be incredible, but things change, and it isn't like that anymore. Not to mention that NO ONE deserves to be abused!!!
2006-10-18 20:53:36 · answer #5 · answered by ixi26c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well... i know its hard to wanna listen to what other people have to say because you have been with this person for 7 years.. but just because he has only hit you a couple of times, doesn't mean that he wont do it again. i am not sure if you have ever lived with a past boyfriend before, but it is completely different once you move in with them. your relationship changes alot.. its not bad, but it could be stressful. and that stress can lead to him hitting you more.. and no.. there is absolutely NO excuse for a man to EVER hit a you. that means that he is insecure with himself. THERE IS NO EXCUSE AND IT IS NOT RIGHT! good luck
2006-10-18 21:03:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably unsure about what he wants to do. Once a week girl??? And 7 years???? Well sounds to me like someone wants to be a free man and have an "on and off relationship" which means he just wants you to come over when he needs something.... tell him to call you when he decides that he wants a more serious relationship and not a weekend fling.... Trst me honey
2006-10-18 20:57:01 · answer #7 · answered by LeighAnne K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well just tell him to back off you control what you want to do with yourself not what he wants to do with you. I had a boyfriend like that and it was over before it started. So remember if you don't want to do it then don't.
2006-10-18 20:53:42 · answer #8 · answered by sportychick4824 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did answer you own question. He is controlling and abusive. You shouldn't continue this way and don't move in with him.
2006-10-18 20:52:50 · answer #9 · answered by Justwondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only see him once a week? And talk to him once a week? I honestly think you should move on.
2006-10-18 20:53:07 · answer #10 · answered by Jen F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋