Should We Decipline Children?

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And How?

Answer 1

Children need decipline. They are blank pages, waiting to be filled with either good or bad manors. It is up to us as parents to guide them, and point them in the right direction. To encourage them when they do good, and repremand when they do wrong. NEVER HIT THEM!!!!!!! Do not raise your hands to your children. If you do, not only are you a coward, but you should be ashamed of yourself. I wish i would catch a parent hitting thier child above the waist. A spank is acceptable. A smack, or a punch to the face or head. Well, let me just say, you should hope i am not around to see you do it. Anyway, communication and verbal instruction is all you need. Spend time with your child. Talk to them. They want to learn. It is thier nature to be absorbant. They will remember and process information at such an early age because it is what they are mentally prepared to do. It is a survival instinct. To learn and adapt to thier surroundings. If they grow up afraid, they will be defensive as adults, if they are raised in an angry home, they will follow suite when they are adults. It takes alot of education and understanding of ones self to overcome such tribulation as a child. Shrink's prey on the mishaps of bad parenting. Mommy didnt hold me, daddy used to beat me, mommy was an alcoholic, daddy was a womanizer. Pick the cliche, it exists. It is our responsibility to be role models, not just parental bystanders. Take an active role in your childs up bringing, and they will reward you for it later in life. The process of action and reaction, choice and consequence, are the best way to teach a child. Let them make thier own choices, and you be there, single or married, to acknowledge thier accomplishment and reinforce the good, and explain the wrong, not just repremand and dismiss.
Good luck.

R

Answer 2

Yes, all children need some means of discipline growing up so that they can grow into well behaved teenagers, and respectable adults.
You should always make sure they're punished for talking back or getting out of line. They should also be punished for getting bad grades in school. A child needs to learn how to work hard because the real life will not be easy. Children should do what they're asked from a parent, such as chores, because it's their responsibility to help out around the house as well. A punishment should vary for your childs age.. some forms of punishments are fifteen minutes in the corner, no video games, no going over friends house, no phon, no computer, and more.

Answer 3

Yes
As a parent and a child I can tell you that I believe in discipline. I know that to be able to teach our children the difference between right and wrong we must sometimes discipline our children. What kind of discipline is the question. It is important that when we tell our children that we are going to do something if they continue their behavior it is important that we follow through and not repeat ourselves over and over again.When we do discipline our children it is important that they know why they are being discipline and what they must do to avoid discipline again. If you spank you child do it in a loving and caring way never with your hand and never with a belt or some other demeaning item like a board or whip. I say not to use your hand because when you touch your child with your hand they should not associate your hand with discipline. It should repersent a loving and caring parent when you take their hand with yours or you reach up and carees their face or touch their shoulder. I always recommend using an alternative to spanking when the situation allows for it. If you can successfully disciline your child with time out or some other method than do it. Also remember that the older your child becomes the more difficult it becomes to disciline your child. Spanking don't work for a 13 year old any longer. That is why you must disciline your child. As Dr James Dobson says " you are not raising children you are raising adults. No one wants their child to grow up to be a child."
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Answer 4

Of course. Life is all about actions and consequences, we are raising future adults and if they are not shown how to behave at home no one else will teach them, I am not saying that children should be beaten or locked in closets. But they need to know right from wrong, I think the whole sitting hands folded a minute for each year of their age is a great method for younger children it worked with a friend of mine, for older children taking away their privileges and making them earn them back by good behaviour.

Answer 5

Do you remember back when parents had control of there kids? They disciplined.
Now the kids are running the parents, they do what they want when they want, and dam on anyone that tries to stop them. No discipline.
You have to start whooping the behind when they are young, not try when they are about 10 or older. Discipline must start at a early age.
You are the parent. You set the rules. Not the reverse. Who pays the bills? You or Them?
Whoever pays the bills, makes the rules.

Answer 6

DEFINITELY - children need discipline & boundaries in their life so they learn to take responsiblity for their actions.
if that does not happen from an early age then it will be MUCH harder later on- what is **cute** behaviour in a toddler usually is not when the child is older.
you need to work out what is the best thing for your family & to keep it age appropriate - e.g:- time out for little ones; loss of TV priviliges as they get older; as teens grounding;confiscating game boys etc
most importantly you need to be consistent with whatever you decide; if you say NO TV- don't giv into whining & allow them to turn it back on. in some instances for smaller children a smack on the hand or bottom makes them realise they could be in danger (( I KNOW-- smacking is generally not accepted or approved of these days)) but for some children it is the only thing that works- for others it will never work; if you have stated that a particular action will meet with a certain reprimand then make sure that is carried through-; just as promises of rewards for good behaviour must be kept
in all things you are slowly preparing your child for life in the wider community as they get older
I tell my adult children & other young people with children to listen to what others say has worked for them & then decide what is right for you & your family
also remember that children will always push the boundaries that are set for them & in disciplining them keep in mind their ages - dont expect a 2/3 yo to be able to think & reason as a 10y/o would

Answer 7

Children need to have discipline, or they turn out to be the most horrible kids on the face of this earth. There are many ways to discipline a child, if time-out works great, if taking away something they enjoy works, go for it, if that doesn't' work a small spankin works, I know it worked on me when I was young.

Answer 8

They say each child should be disciplined based on their age.. if your 2 yr old is having a tantrum, then give s/he a 2min time out, seat them on the couch where they have to sit there for 2 mins, them same goes for a 3, 4, 5 etc yr/olds..

Answer 9

YES, if we never discipline our children then they would never know right from wrong. How we discipline our children i think should depend on the child and the parent, people do things allot different than others and depending on what the child did.

Answer 10

The right way to Discipline children is good? I believe there is wrong ways and right ways to do it. But you can't let kids get their way all the time it makes them spoiled and they make things hard. Then later on it gets harder to control them and they rebel. Grounding is the best method and you have to stick to the punishment.