I have a 10 yr old girl that is talking to herself, not thinking out loud. It is driving me nuts!?

Question

We have talked to her about it, have told her it is annoying, asked her to stop, tried all I can think of. She is not lonely as we have 8 kids so there is always someone to talk to. Have tried paying extra attention to her but no matter what I do nothing helps

Any ideas?

Answer 1

Inore it. With 8 kids it might just be her way to get attention. Or she might be a very creative child. Why not get her writing stories and plays that then she can get her brothers and sisters to act out. I also talked to myself 9and to be honest still do sometimes)

Answer 2

Well i have a little niece about 4 years old.Shes very outgoing and has some friends.But for some reason she will talk to herself sometimes.Kids sometimes feel as if a imaginary friend is special to them.Kids may get annoying when they talk to themselfs but you really have to accept it.If she feels comfortably with it then leave it.Don't tell her shes annoying she feel affended and she'll feel that shes weird and left out.Be nice to her shes only ten.If she keeps this up by the time she's 13 then you need to talk to her.Good luck and don't tell her she's annoying.

Answer 3

This is normal behavior and is part of being human. We all talk to ourselves. When we get answers back that is when there is a problem.

She is likely less lonely than she is bored. Even with eight kids anyone of them can feel out of the loop sometimes. (There were eight in my house so this is experience talking.)

A good idea is to get her reading more. It will occupy her mind and with that she wont need to talk to herself as much.

Just so you know I did this as a child and found out a couple of years ago that I'm a genius. Talking to yourself is a sign of high IQ (hence the boredom.)

Answer 4

My Step-son is thirteen and still talks to himself. It is a constant, non-stop conversation. It all started about five years ago. When I asked him what he was doing he just shrugged his shoulders. He says he doesn't know why he talks to himself, he just does. About a year ago he started writing short stories and an article in the school paper. My husband and I have started recognizing his stories as old "conversations".
Think positively. All I can honestly say is trust your gut. You'll know when it's time to get her professional help.

Answer 5

maybe she has an imaginary friend some child do. even if they have a lot of brothers and sisters.its like a security blank my niece who is 8 does the same thing. she should grow out of it.try to reward her for not talking to herself or sign her up for some sports or other activities

Answer 6

My daughter is four, and she's yakking all the time. She's off singing right now. The same song. Over and Over. It does get annoying, but I don't want to inhibit her imagination. She may grow out of it, or perhaps she'll put it to good use.
Maybe you could try to involve yourself in her "conversation", sort of forcing her to interact. That's my plan anyway!! Good Luck!

Answer 7

Does she talk to herself at school? Does she have many friends? Maybe she is just waiting for someone to listen to and she is craving one on one attention, try taking time out of each month and take her out to the movies alone with just you and her, I am not too sure

Good luck!

Answer 8

lol, sorry i don't mean to make light of your situation. I also have a 10 year old girl. Be very glad she is talkative, I know someone who has a 11 year old who is just so quiet, doesn't share anything with her parents, thus her parents are scared she won't communicate any issues she has going into her teens.

My only suggestion is to stay consistent in reminding her not to do this. I wouldn't go into punishment, just consistent reminders. She will grow out of it.

Answer 9

children have a very strong imagination, and i encourge it 100%. the more their brain works, the more they are challenged. the imagination they have, the more ideas they share will give them more opportunities in life. better self esteem.

great ideas come from great people. those ideas and dreams keep this world turning.

encourage your daughters ideas. never tell a child to shut up. especially when they are still learning themselves about imagination and how to use it. she is learning to have ideas. ideas can be opportunities in life.

intelligent children are constantly exploring their thoughts and ideas.

encourage her to write it out, and share it with you. there are reasons why children talk to themselves. ask her to share it with you. instead of telling her its annoying. that will destroy her sense of personal creativity.

Answer 10

I have a 8 year old grandaughter who talks to walls. No kidding. She also feels the wall as she is talking to it. The doctor said as long as you can snap her out of it, its normal. She has imaginary people she talks to. It all started with my refrigerator magnets. She used to move them around and make stories with them. Who Knows ????