I broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years a few weeks ago. I did this because I was afraid that since I was so close to him, he would break my heart. Now that I've tried living without him, I understand that I can't. I miss him so much, and I still love him. I tried to tell him, but he said he didn't want a relationship with me right now, and then he went and asked my cousin on a date, and now they are in a relationship. I need him, what should I do? Any advice or personal experiences?
2006-10-18 13:24:38 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My advice to you is DON'T GIVE UP...
I think that it sucks your cousin would ever consider dating your ex and to top that one that you just broke up with..
As much as this sucks and yes i know from personal experience. I did the same thing you did. Except i thought that i was missing out on something. Turns out the one thing that i missing is the person i let go... This person moved on and i was left shattered in a 1000 pieces i thought that i was never going to heal... And to be honest not a day goes by that i don't think of this person. and its been a little over a year... Although i have a new love now. I learned a great lesson...
Good Luck
2006-10-18 13:29:51 · answer #1 · answered by Mellisa C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you throw a 5 yr relationship out the window? Im sure you broke his heart when you broke it off with him, But him dating your cousin is a big no no...why didnt he find a girl who wasnt related to you? He might be just trying to get you back,,so you can feel the pain he had. Let him alone,,if you and him were really meant to be then he will come back to you sweetie.
2006-10-18 20:29:27 · answer #2 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well how long did he wait after you broke up with him to ask your cousin on a date?
do u think he loves u? i was in a relationship with this girl and we were doing fine then she broke up with me because of the same reason u said. i didnt understand it. she wanted me back and i said no cause she screwed up. i only give one chance. maybe i shouldnt be that way. but thats the way it went down. Is he and ur cousin sexually active? if so i think you should just find some one better. he doesnt deserve u.
2006-10-18 20:30:06 · answer #3 · answered by C.C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
eih i think you got a dose of your own medicine..when you broke up with him just because your afraid he might..might hurt then that's stupid..you just hurt him so much and now that he's trying to move on your reminding him of the pain you caused him...that's unfair..he's now getting a life started and let him have it..i think the best thing you can do is just leave him alone in a moment..you don'y know that eventually he would realize that he's still into you..but for now the you just have to hope...or why not open your heart in a new love...like what he does..
2006-10-18 20:31:50 · answer #4 · answered by queen_maan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was a stupid move on your part...you left him and now you want him back? You can't do that kind of stuff then just hope that it's all gonna go back to how it was before. Here you are worrying about him breaking your heart so you break his...that makes no sense! He has moved on now and your just gonna have to deal with it and move on. If you are lucky he might realize that he wants you back, but it's very unlikely.
2006-10-18 20:34:28 · answer #5 · answered by ram_this911 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing you can do. What's done is done and he told you he didn't want you. You might consider getting some therapy so you can have a close, loving, real relationship- without fears.
2006-10-18 20:30:41 · answer #6 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he doesn't need you in his life, so why should you need him? If you need a guy, find one who isn't seeing your cousin. But consider that for a while: Do you need a guy to be happy? If the answer is no, just forget about them. They're not worth your time.
2006-10-18 20:27:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not break his heart in the first place, unless he was never good to you. Would he give another chance to be back with you?
2006-10-18 20:26:58 · answer #8 · answered by leazngurl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You let him go...and now you want him back? You need to realize that he has moved on and you should do the same.
2006-10-18 20:26:54 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm i dont understand why you broke up with him if you loved him sooo much.....no offence but you broke up with him cause you were close to him...does that make any sense!?
2006-10-18 20:30:54 · answer #10 · answered by carly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋