Now I am Very Angry with this situation, i live in a 3 bedroom house with my granny and 9 of my other relatives and we all were getting along perfectly until one of my relaitives decided they wanted to preach and get their life right so they have been holding up ruckus with everyone else in the house. They have called me all types of names like "satans child, eve's sister, and many more" but today topped it off when they got into a conflict with another house memebre and i was caught in the middle due to where i was standing when it began, and when i tried to calm the other house member down they spit in my face, and it really ticked me off. I am always trying to move out but when i do they come up with every excuse as to why i shouldnt move out, but i need to get away some one please help tell me what you think i should do. Now Keep in mind i am grown, a college student, and i work 32 hours a week.
2006-10-18 13:17:56 · 16 answers · asked by beautifulpersona 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
miss lady
this is definitely not good..... if when you said your family member is trying to get their life right you meant religiously. explain to them that all faiths that include a belief in God speak of him as judge. it is not another human being's job to judge you.
now.. about your living situation... i recently dealt with the same thing. my mother's home is very hectic and there is always fighting and screaming. with school and work, i couldnt deal with it. this time in our lives is so important..... the things we do now decide who we are and what we do for the rest of our lives..... with work and school you already dont have much time for studying..... i decided it wasnt worth while for me to spend what little time i had at home fighting or resolving fights
and with your family just know that if you dont take care of yourself first.... youll never be able to take care of them
if you can either move in with another relative or some friends..... just dont let this take your future away
peace be with you
sakina
2006-10-18 18:55:57 · answer #1 · answered by Submission 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is never any excuse for another person to spit in your face. Let alone, a relative calling you names. Sounds like you would be much better off if you moved out. Sure it will be tight but you will enjoy the peace and quiet. Those relatives that disrespected you, can wait on seeing your place for awhile till they can act more like a loving relative should.
2006-10-18 20:23:58 · answer #2 · answered by ncamedtech 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is in college living in a dorm...all paid by grant & once that is thru there are other forms of aide. I truly believe you know what you need to do and hopefully you aren't so caught up in all this that is has become a way of life for you. Like you said you are grown & now need to decide what is right for YOU & not have anyone talk you out of this. I without a doubt would move out & let them carry on like this without me.......it is true that life is too short.......this is the only one we get, so why not be happy?!!
2006-10-18 20:22:28 · answer #3 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to break the chains to your family - even when it's a dysfunctional family.
1) The person calling you names must be told immediately that it is unacceptable.
2) Spitting in your face can be considered assault
3) They are trying to keep you there and are using emotional pressure to do it.
You're in an abusive situation. Get out of it. Don't tell anyone you're moving, don't ask permission. Just pack and go.
2006-10-18 20:21:32 · answer #4 · answered by booktender 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is always very hard to live with other people. My advice is to get your own place by yourself. You siad that you work 32 hours a week, but did not say how much you make. If you can't afford to live on your own, find a roomate to split the bills. Yes, I said it is best to live by yourself, but you would have to agree that it would be easier to live with one other person than with 9 other people. Good luck.
2006-10-18 20:25:25 · answer #5 · answered by jeremylives5280 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Save alllll of your money that you can,,,,then get your own little place.....CAN I ASK HOW IN THE HELL CAN YOU LIVE WITH ALL OF THEM PEOPLE IN THE FIRST PLACE??? its a wonder you arent nuts already. When you move out,,you will thank god for the peace and quiet. Dont let them tell you that you cant leave. You are grown so if i were you i wold get out as soon as possible.
2006-10-18 20:22:18 · answer #6 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it doesn't help if you work a lot and go to college, so this is what you should do, ignore the relatives and move out, but before you move out spend a few nights at your friend's place
2006-10-18 20:24:21 · answer #7 · answered by alitay96 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like an abusive situation unfolding. The stress of the situation must be getting tough. Time to look for greener pastures.
2006-10-18 20:27:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can decide to give others the ability to make you angry.
You are in control of your life. You decide your emotional response to each person you meet or interact.
You must take possession of your LIFE.
Investigate your fears.
2006-10-18 20:22:26 · answer #9 · answered by Lives7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should move out. Far, far away. No one should be treated like that by their own family. Something is really wrong with that picture.
2006-10-18 20:23:46 · answer #10 · answered by Squidy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋