I recently fostered a pet only to find him adopted a few months later. Now a few days after I feeling alot of?

Question

Regret as to adopting him out. I grew such a strong bond that now I'm simply dying without him. What should I do? Is it bad for me to want him back after he already is adopted? He was a MInPin/ Jack Russel ;red/ black dog named Charlie.

Answer 1

Unfortunately that's what happens when you foster you do get attached. Just realize the dog went to a loving home and he had lots of love while he was with you. You cant take him back, its the wrong thing to do.

Answer 2

The way you are feeling is normal. It's only natural to bond with a foster pet. After all, if you didn't care, you wouldn't have been fostering him in the first place. I have fostered a few dogs, and it can be pretty difficult. I have learned, for my own benefit, to ask the new owner for permission to make a couple of follow up calls and see how the pet is doing. This does seem to help a great deal, especially when they relate little stories that let me know the dog is well loved and well taken care of.

Unless you suspect abuse or neglect, it isn't the right thing to do to ask for the pet back. You could, however, let them know that if the pet doesn't work out, you would be glad to take him back. If you know how to contact them and see how the pet is doing, and to find out if he's fitting in, you should do that. Most people will understand that you just wanted to see how is doing.

The first dog I ever fostered through an adoption program ended up being adopted by ME! I just couldn't let him go. He is about 9 years old now, I still have him; and I have no regrets. But I finally decided that I simply cannot adopt all of them. It just isn't humanly possible. If you think fostering is too hard on you emotionally, you might consider donating, volunteering or helping in other ways. Don't do something to yourself that is going to cause you prolonged agony (but hopefully, the agony will end soon). I hope you can get in touch with the new owners and find comfort in knowing that the little dog is in a good home.

Good luck, and God bless you for caring about the little critters.

Answer 3

I understand, I used to foster dogs. It is sort of bitter-sweet. You are happy that they found a home but you put so much love and work into them that you miss them.

I ended up adopting a foster dog I had after the people who adopted him brought him back and I learned that I have a really hard time letting them go.

It is normal to grieve and feel sad when they leave. Remember that they found a new home and that you did a good thing for them. When you start to feel like you can, you could consider fostering another pet since there is a never ending need, or if you feel like you can not get through the heart ache again you could find another way to help.

I wish you the best.

Answer 4

The emptiness in your home is natural. You've done an excellent job. Now you have to decide if you will foster more pets to be adopted by willing and suitable homes or make a commitment to be an adopter. It doesn't have to be exclusive, some homes do both. That pup has a home now. Let go and wish them the best. I can remember many special darlings that have brought much joy to their new homes.
A new space in my home has meant another
homeless critter doesn't have to stay kenneled,
or be "put down". It's good work you do but it can break your heart if you don't keep the goal in mind. FIND HOMES FOR THE ABANDONED. MAKE ROOM FOR MORE.
Always be realistic about you resources. Don't take on more than you can comfortably manage.

Answer 5

Ahh that is sad You are a nice person.I am glad the dog got a good home with you for a while . If you do miss the little guy a lot I would adopt your own kinda like him . There are so many pets that need loving homes.Charlies was luck to have 2 . Also I bet if you would like Charlies new mom and dad would let you come over to play .
Good Luck

Answer 6

I always tell myself that if I keep all the fosters that I fall in love with, it won't be long before I can't foster anymore. Only so many dogs will fit in this house. So because you love them, you have to let them go. It hurts, but you do get over it in a while. I always try and keep in touch with the people who get one of my fosters. Some will, some won't. Some send pictures and call. At least I know they are happy.

Answer 7

You can't ask for him back that's not fair to the new owners or the dog. but you could call to see how he's doing once or twice.

Also foster another animal, that will take up some of your time so you won't miss him as much and there's plenty that need help

Answer 8

Becoming attached to your foster pets (or kids) is prefectly normal. As long as your last foster has a nice, happy home, let him stay with the family who adopted him, they obviously needed him. Stay in the game and foster more critters and love them and socialize them, then you have to let them go. It's hard, but the animals need you as a foster.

Answer 9

no its normal and its a good thing u helped that pet out. to feel better just foster another pet it will help. its almost the same thing as losing a pet all together. when my dog died i cried but to make me feel better i got another dog and now we are both happy as ever. i still miss my dog but at least he isnt sick anymore. and my new dog is very happy. u can still find out what will happen to the dog u fostered. be happy as long as he is in a good home.

Answer 10

if you're 17, your can no longer enter right into a freelance with all of us - that is binding in court docket - until eventually you're emancipated. tell your moms and dads to the contact this man or woman to end what he's doing - and if he does no longer - contact the police. If the police received't do something, then your moms and dads can report a civil action and ask the court docket for an injunction to make him end.