I am meeting a girl in a few days at a club. but heres the problem. i have no experience with girls. As in no sex no kssing nothing(i know its lame but im working on changing it). What Im wondering is will she wonder why im not making moves or being more sexually aggressive. By the way im 20 (just in case someone asks). I dont want to look like in a** who isnt acting like im interested in her but i am.. so what should i do? should i tell her of my lack of experience or not?
2006-10-18 13:14:19 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, it's kind of weird if all of a sudden you're making personal confessions.
Just meet her. Find out what she likes to do with her time. Tell her what you do. Act like to know how to treat a woman with respect. Getting hit on is not her goal in meeting you. You can get more agressive after you get to know her and she starts to flirt. She'll know if you are interested.
2006-10-18 13:23:51 · answer #1 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since this is your first date I wouldn't get all worked up over this. You do NOT owe her any explinations nor would I think she would ask for one. Being a first date, you are just getting to know her. You will not be expected to jump on her. A simple kiss on the cheek & a hug when you say goodnight is all you should attempt & that is ONLY if the date goes well. If she is looking around & not paying attention to you when you talk, NOT GOOD!! Stick to talking about COMMON interests. Look her in the eyes when you talk to her & when she is talking to you.
My husband was & is a "LEANER". Being a little awkward when we first started dating even though we have known each other since we were kids. Anyway, he was courtious, opening doors, pulling out my chair, etc. but he wasn't SURE how to go about holding my hand, etc. so when I would notice him "LEANING" forward across the table from me, I would just reach out & take his hand or what he has always liked is when I tweak his chin. This always broke the tension for him & then he felt more at ease to hold my hand, etc. It was actually very cute... Anyway, don't be so eager to jump on her, just take it one date at a time. If she is interested, she will let you know in whatever way she chooses. She might sit close to you or touch your hand, leg or arm a lot.
Just don't come on too aggressive or you could offend her or scare her off. Just be yourself & see if the first date leads to another.
When you are both comfortable with each other the rest will come easier.....
HAVE FUN!!!!
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2006-10-18 20:48:49 · answer #2 · answered by More Lies & More Smoke Screens 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, there's nothing wrong with not being sexually active! It doesnt make you any less of a person- if anything, you should be respected for being an honorable guy! Secondly, if the girl has a problem with it you'll find out. I wouldn't worry about it- don't change who you are for someone you don't even know. If she's bold and trashy enough to ask about it on the first date then I'd kick her to the curb anyway.
2006-10-18 20:18:49 · answer #3 · answered by piratewench 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry about things too much. just go with the flow and enjoy the evening.. things tend to work themselves out most of the time :)
2006-10-18 20:40:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hold her hands and when you get her by herself .Tell her that you are new at this and you don't want to screw things up. Ask her to help you. When you tell her it will bring a smile to her face.
2006-10-18 20:29:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need have a master degree to show your interest in her. It is called natural instinct. Just be yourself.
2006-10-18 20:19:46 · answer #6 · answered by Zooya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for shallow girls its a turn off to say you have no experiance....for a decent sweet girl it'll be cute.....your go
2006-10-18 20:16:22 · answer #7 · answered by bumblebeetuna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋