My bf is in the military and he recently left for guam. we only been together for 3 wks and he just left last week. he's goin to be there for 2 yrs. i already have a vacation planned to go see him sometime next year... i know that the feelings i have for him are really strong and i know he feels the same... so my question is, do you think it can work? with him being so far and all we do is talk on the phone at least 3-4 times a day, and i wont see him till next year in may..?
2006-10-18 13:13:14 · 13 answers · asked by soldiersgurl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
They say absence makes the heart grow fonder.... Maybe, but just be sure you keep in touch. Always let him know that you are still here for him even if you can't be with him.....When you keep in touch on a regular basis, you keep your face clear in his mind & it will help him remember things you have done together, the way you laugh, etc. these things will stay a little fresher as the days move on. Believe me it will go faster than you think, but try to keep busy & don't dwell on the fact that he is not right there physically.
I think that long distance relationships work when people go into them with realistic expectations & depending on the people involved. Some find it easy to talk on the phone & send emails to stay close. Others want a physical person there & end up going out on the other one & then use the excuse "I was lonely, I missed you so much."
It is said that tough times never last....But tough people do!!!!
Just hang tough, next year will be here before you realize it....
2006-10-18 14:14:07 · answer #1 · answered by More Lies & More Smoke Screens 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first problem that I see is the fact you've only been together for 3 weeks. Is that really long enough to have build up enough respect and to trust each other? At this point you're relationship is in the honeymoon phase.
2006-10-18 14:24:44 · answer #2 · answered by 2thscraprr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost you should support him in what he does. I am a former military wife and if you both honestly and truly love each other then yes it can work out.. the main key here is communication and TRUST. There are times where you will get lonely but dont do anything that you will regret later on down the road.
2006-10-18 13:21:29 · answer #3 · answered by eyesicyblue 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dated someone for 3 yrs and we cared for one another very much. If you have the commitment to 'wait' for him then I say go for it girl. You have only been with him for 3 weeks and as long as he says he is as much 'in love' with you as you are with him, what is the harm.. communication is key in your decision to wait for this man.. but don't give up your life wondering what he's doing while he is away ..
2006-10-18 13:17:19 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes.... I have been in mine for a little over 2 years. It's all about making time for each other, and trust.
2006-10-18 14:41:57 · answer #5 · answered by ill_state00 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
individual differences, some people are ok with it...with the advance technology right nw...u have webcam...voice chats, etc...and if u will visit him once in a while...if u are totally into each other...it will work....this is not one of those relationship that started long distance....u met before that....so ..i would say 85-90% it should work....
2006-10-18 13:16:56 · answer #6 · answered by ♦cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely@@@ i started dating my hubby when he was in the service, he went to egypt for a few months, we talked and we got married, he has been deployed to iraq 3 times, *1 yr each) and have been married for only 5yrs. I feel closer to him now, more than ever!!!
2006-10-18 13:17:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you most likely they want last becasue sometimes when a boy needs his needs he is going to get it and it's hard to be faithful, but I hope it last
Good Luck
2006-10-18 13:18:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you really love each other it should work out!
2006-10-18 13:15:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well he'll probably be tired of banging Guamanian women by then, so sure hang in there
2006-10-18 13:15:30 · answer #10 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋