Ok, I got really, really annoyed with my boyfriend, who I've been almost seeing a year. He kept suggesting to me to wear all black, sexy shoes, and my hair down. Well, me and my friend brainstormed, and found out that is what his ex-crush looked like, who said she wanted to be 'friends with benefits' but it was barely that. I do not know this girl personally, but my friend did. So I dressed up like her, complete with darkened hair, big sunglasses, and black clothing. I even borrowed a designer purse from another one of my friends. When he saw me, he started acting in awe, I know I looked good, but he acted like he was around her again, all anxious, and he told me how I looked like her. He went into shock, but later snapped out of it. He started asking me, "Do you still have feelings for me?" "I think I'm starting to love you," and all this other crazy stuff I know he said to this other girl! I don't know if he thinks I'm her now, or he's into that kind of look in a girl?
2006-10-18 13:08:04 · 21 answers · asked by Jen B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He was telling me he accepted me for the way I looked before, but I told him it wasn't how I was always going to look. I don't know why he just couldn't accept the way I looked (hair pulled back, minimal makeup, jeans and a nice blouse) before. I want to dress like myself again. He almost now always wants me to dress like this. I don't know what to do, if he ever got over this girl who treated him like trash. I don't think he should dwell on this girl, who he says he hasn't seen in like two years!
2006-10-18 13:10:33 · update #1
I refuse to keep dressing like this, I only did once for the experiment, to see his reaction. I want to be myself! If he's not into the real me, I don't think I want to be around him.
2006-10-18 13:14:09 · update #2
Before I did this, he said he did want to go steady with me about a few weeks ago. It all started up again when I found out he was listening to sad breakup songs which he listened to when they stopped being friends.
2006-10-18 13:15:47 · update #3
Your gut is telling you something very important. RUN FOR YOUR LIFE.
2006-10-18 13:10:30 · answer #1 · answered by booktender 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if youve been mutually 2 and a a million/2 years he of course loves you <3. boys seldom waste time on women they dont quite like. i think of you're able to desire to forget approximately his ex and stop ebing paranoid , shes the previous your the destiny. dont forget that :) how do you recognize he taken care of her greater effectual? and it doesnt count which you dont know any of his acquaintances. get to nicely known them. thats what i did and my boyfriends acquaintances are the main unsociable human beings ive ever are available in the time of. i know the type you sense because of the fact i do this with each boy i bypass out with for a mutually as yet then i recover from it. 2 and a a million/2 years is an prolonged time. you 2 are patently meant to be. dont enable his previous worry you. if hes treating you top thats all that concerns xx
2016-11-23 18:36:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a wacky situation?! It sounds as though he has an odd fetish about black, sexy shoes, hair down... I suppose if you really like him, you'll want to please him.. but.. then again? Have you asked him straight out if he still has feelings for his ex? That might be the place to start and then you can sort out your relationship.. my instinct tells me that you need to find someone who loves you for YOU.
2006-10-18 13:20:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be angry , just gone. He's still carrying the trorch for her, and will likely carry it for life, or deep into any marriage that is not to her.
You deserve better. or at least confront him with it. Demand he drop he ror yuo. Tell him you got a date with smiling Bob you won on a contess and ask if he thinks you should go.
2006-10-18 13:13:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop him.
He's not into you, he's into the other girl.
He didn't love you for who you were, he started loving you when you became someone else.
You should never change yourself for a man. It's ridiculous. You're so much better then that.
So, I would highly suggest you breakup with him. It's not fair to you that he still has feelings for his ex.
2006-10-18 13:11:14 · answer #5 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its just the look. For sure... I like girls with straight hair and my current g/f has very curly hair... I get more horny when her hair is straightened... but i love her no matter what her hair looks like. It just a physical appearance thing
2006-10-18 13:13:31 · answer #6 · answered by Synkor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jen B
He sounds like he has strong feelings for his ex crush and he wants to meet girls that will look just like for her he can't be with the real deal you need to tell your guy that he is dating you and not his ex crush and to love you for you not because you look like someone he was once obessed with
2006-10-18 13:10:50 · answer #7 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could be both but save the drama. Sounds like both of you have not a clue of what you are looking for in a relationship.
2006-10-18 13:11:59 · answer #8 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he likes his ex 2 much! So go back 2 ur style and if he doesn't like it, then forget him! not tring 2 sound rude but he's way 2 obsessed!
2006-10-18 13:16:02 · answer #9 · answered by kellycfan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
woah calm down!
why not confront him on this situation. unless your 99.9% - 100% sure then you can act. But until you are sure or confront him then dont jump to conclusions. He just might like that style.
good luck
2006-10-18 13:12:18 · answer #10 · answered by bumblebeetuna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just love these complicated ridiculously-long, meandering, single-sentence questions that no one can possibly answer! How the hell can we offer any kind of reasonably good response when we have no idea about the situation?
2006-10-18 13:10:55 · answer #11 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋