My husband has been deployed with the Army. Although he is not in Iraq yet he is in school here in the states until next month. He is in Pennsylvania so I get to talk to him occassionally. They have a pretty laid back atmosphere there. He says its more like college tha being in the military. He can go out to the bar and has a room all to himself since his roomate got sent home.
He has been kind of distant lately and hanging out at the bar a LOT. I talked to him earlier and he was in his room, he had just gotten back from the bar (big surprise). Someone knocked on his door and I heard a female voice. He told her to come on in, and then abruptly told me he would call me back in a minute....didnt call me by my name, say I love you or anything. It's been over 30 minutes and no phone call. Am I reading too much into this, or shoud I be concerned he is cheating? I know everyone says you can't cheat in the military but he did it a couple of years ago when he was in Germany. What do I do???
2006-10-18 12:59:40 · 15 answers · asked by Proud_Army_Wife26 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
If u tell his commanding officer he will get into trouble. They actually take your rank too. In the military they don't play with that cheating on your wife. So tell him u r going to ask for counseling b/c u feel he is cheating and see how he reacts. And even better how far is PA from you sweety surprise his behind and u will feel even better. And call that room all night if u have too. He gave u all the reason in the world to be worried when he didn't call right back. Follow your instincts honey they never steer you wrong... Good Luck!!!!!!! signed: Experienced Military Ex-Wife......
2006-10-18 13:08:41 · answer #1 · answered by monie42003 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋
It's not that you CAN'T cheat in the military (because obviously it happens all the time), but it IS punishable by law in the military. If he's cheated on you before and does it again, you kind of asked for it. (Sorry, my BIL put himself in the same situation with his * ex wife.) If you can't trust him, whether he's cheating or not, it's time to get out. If you want to be vindictive and make sure you come out on top of things, file charges and/or talk to JAG. They won't actually handle a divorce case (at least they don't here in Germany), but they might be able to help with the specifics you'll need for proof of his infidelity when you go before the judge.
2006-10-19 04:47:19 · answer #2 · answered by desiderio 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cheated on you in Germany a few years ago and you forgave him why would he not do it again, I mean come on you people today. He has done the worst thing a husband could do and you forgave him, that's your fault not his anymore. Your not a victim anymore because you took him back. So if he does it again so what? What are you going to do that you didn't do before? He knows this and probably is still cheating. Good Luck
2006-10-18 13:05:06 · answer #3 · answered by Wood77 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I don't know who says you can't cheat in the military - I've always understood that most soldiers cheat during wars. Look at all the STD stats for the military and all the kids fathered in WWII and Vietnam. If he already cheated - he will do it again. You deserve better - don't stay with a cheater. Don't waste years of your life waiting for him to come back. Find a nice guy here.
2006-10-18 13:05:11 · answer #4 · answered by HelloKitty 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
i dont know if things changed since i been in the military but women werent allowed in men dorms when i was in and vice versa. i hope it is the same way now. she could ask for him to come outside but at one time it was forbidden for the woman to go in a male dorm. maybe it was a male friend of his and u may have mistaken over the phone thinking it was a female. i hope im right on this one
2006-10-18 13:28:17 · answer #5 · answered by Beaujock 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋
There are female officers. Unless you have more basis than this, I would not start getting paranoid. At this point, you are better off not knowing, if he is cheating on you.
You can only control your own behavior, not others. Try not to worry so much.
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2006-10-18 13:07:27 · answer #6 · answered by mia2kl2002 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋
You are a dumb*** for staying with someone who has cheated on you before. Get a new boyfriend. Don't bother with him anymore. He is a loser.
2006-10-19 02:21:01 · answer #7 · answered by StaLynnCey 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
If you stayed with him when he cheated last time then I say you're partly at fault if he cheats again.
2006-10-18 13:07:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Just ask him to explain it... hear what he says, then judge.
2006-10-20 11:18:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can cheat in the army, trust me i am a product of it and so are my siblings...its very sad
2006-10-18 13:05:40 · answer #10 · answered by jusprettynsmart 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋