2006-10-18 12:04:34 · 20 answers · asked by jamie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I would react with concern and make sure we talked about his feelings. I would base any further reactions on what I heard.
2006-10-18 12:06:27 · answer #1 · answered by Isis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be soo happy that he had the presence of mind to say "wait" because he isn't ready... it will save you oodles of money in lawyer bills down the road. If the two of you are still "in love" and just need more time, then suggest pre-marriage counseling so the two of you can work things out... and counseling doesn't mean there is something "wrong." It just means you are getting advice about what to expect in a marriage.... and lessons on how to better communicate with each other. Be patient with him...and hold on to him... he sounds like he has a pretty good head on his shoulders. I would be glad that he trusted me and my reactions enough to tell me that he needs more time.
2006-10-18 19:13:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this all depends on circumstances - how long you were together before you got engaged, how long it is between the engagement and the wedding date....
Better he has a chance to think it over than going ahead and regretting it. Hope the two of you are talking a LOT.
2006-10-19 07:17:17 · answer #3 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd give him time. But keep in mind that it may not happen. I'm not trying to be negative, but that's what happened to me. And we never ended up getting married and we broke up. I'm sure he just needs time, but remember, if he's not ready to get married now, will he ever?
Good luck. You should really talk it out with him and find out why he's not ready. Better to know than to hang on if it doesn't work out. Trust me!
2006-10-19 11:54:59 · answer #4 · answered by texas y'all! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You respect his decision and give him some time to cool off. This doesn't necesarily mean that he wants to call it off, he may just be overwhelmed by everything that is going on.
It might help for you to understand WHY he wants to set the date back. You will both feel better about it once you have talked about the "Why".
2006-10-18 20:01:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be very patient and give him all the time he needs. That's a lifetime decision. Of course it's something to think about. Don't pressure him or you'll run him off. He's getting cold feet and that's OK. Perhaps you should also take more time. If it's meant to be it will. Don't worry.
2006-10-18 19:09:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, i sure would wonder and ask what he really means by "not yet ready". Is he not ready for the wedding preparation itself, financially? not ready for the new life of a married person? not ready for me as his wife? specifically in what aspect is he not ready? i have to ask and be brave for whatever answer, and hopefully, i will be graceful in dealing with it.
2006-10-18 23:46:32 · answer #7 · answered by mami 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you both need to sit down and have a chat.
It's not just about you, and it's not just about him. If he's not ready now, what makes him think he'll be ready in a year?
You BOTH need to have a chat about this. Be honest about your confusion and list to him. Most of all, be honest with yourself. Is this a man YOU need to spend the rest of your life with?
2006-10-18 19:47:36 · answer #8 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Might want to discuss what makes him "not ready" and decide it he's worth waiting for, wasting your time, or not the right man for you. Obviously he doesn't want to marry you but is this yet-- or permanently?
2006-10-18 19:12:44 · answer #9 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey hold up. Guys need a bit of time. See they havn't been dreaming about this day sins they were 3 like you!
You've got to understand guys you see guys...are normal. OK.
2006-10-18 23:39:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋